Have any of you shared your GD feelings with folks IRL, mainly other moms of young kids, and has it helped?
Yes, I did. With both pregnancies, I was not shy at all about discussing my gender preferences with anyone who asked (friends, family, colleagues, strangers, etc). Even after we found out the sex with DS, I did tell others I had been hoping for a girl. Most people were very accepting. I got no weird reactions at all. Oh, except one from my grandmother. She did not find it appropriate that I had a preference. lol But that was just her own personal opinion and did not bother me. :)
However, I did not share my EGD issues with anyone other than my DH. I experienced a lot of grief and depression (the worst was post-partum), but I chose not to tell anyone. They would have only worried and there was nothing they could do anyways. DH was tremendously supportive and helpful, that made all the difference.
So - in short, I did find it helpful to acknowledge my gender preference and disappointment to others. It helped me accept my reality, and also myself. But I did not disclose the true depths of my feelings. I was not ready to do that, and felt no need to, so did not! :)
If you want to share with others, share! What you are experiencing right now is within the realm of human emotion, and it's *your* emotion, and it's okay! If you want to talk with others, go right ahead. It's your life, and if they don't like it, too bad for them!