Heartbroken right now!! Got SURPRISE BFP and DH doesn't want it! :(

lol faulty withdraw right here!!!! Mixed with messed up BCP's which is why i had SO withdrawing... but apparent he sucks at it!

Canadianttc#4:

You need to update your picture with baby in it and then have the expectatnat baby too. lol.  when are you due?   You may be high risk as you just had a baby 11 weeks ago

I know! I will VERY soon!

Yeah, I figured I already would be since I had diabetes with DS3 too ..    according to LMP I am due around Oct. 30th

Ruby_red:

Glad he has come round :) tbh I think he sounds like a typical man (or maybe just like my dh lol) sounds like he was very scared and looking for some one to blame (so blamed you) even though he knew he should've been more responsible. I have to say I don't actually believe in oops babies unless they are conceived while on some sort of contraception.. If not I see it as a - ooops but ah well we took the risk ;) So praying this is you DD, do you think you'll be alright if this is another boy? Crazy how close their age gaps will be, they'll be do close :)

I am trying to tell myself now that's it's just another boy..  I have even picked a name. Lol   Quinton :)

That way if it IS a girl... it will be THAT much sweeter of a surprise..

I'm not gonna lie, I will be sad if it's another boy - but I am okay and fully prepared for it. DS3 helped me with that one.   He has made it easier to accept it if it's another boy. I love him SO much now, and wouldn't trade him for ALL the daughters in the world.

SSW_Mommy:

lol faulty withdraw right here!!!! Mixed with messed up BCP's which is why i had SO withdrawing... but apparent he sucks at it!

LMAO! I'm starting to wonder if that's what happened to us.. it's either that or I ovulated later that I thought I did...

Well, here's to hoping and PRAYING that we BOTH have healthy PINK beans!

thats sweet, i think thats the best way to do it. just prepare for boy that way you might not be that sad and hey if it is a girl won't that be a big surprise. hopefully you are not the 75%. i heard irish twins are 75% the same gender. mine were, except this last time, but usually after 3 of a kind the 4th is a different gender i noticed. whatever is it he/she is destined to be here. good luck.

newbaby2011:

thats sweet, i think thats the best way to do it. just prepare for boy that way you might not be that sad and hey if it is a girl won't that be a big surprise. hopefully you are not the 75%. i heard irish twins are 75% the same gender. mine were, except this last time, but usually after 3 of a kind the 4th is a different gender i noticed. whatever is it he/she is destined to be here. good luck.

Well, I am def praying I am NOT one of the 75%!!  Lol   I def hope I fall into the other category!  haha

Glad DH has come round to it.. Congrats on your pregnancy x

playg1rl84:

Glad DH has come round to it.. Congrats on your pregnancy x

Thank you. I'm still in shock and DH is in denial!  LOL   He called me and asked me all quietly "Is it real?"  LMAO!  Seriously?

Why would I make this up? 

But, Thank you again.. It's a sweet surprise, whether it's a boy or girl.. it's a part of us

DreamingofXX:

I'm still in shock and DH is in denial!  LOL   He called me and asked me all quietly "Is it real?"  LMAO!  Seriously?

Why would I make this up? 

 

LOL!!

Congrats on your pregnancy. It sounds like it's getting easier with DH :)

Hi there, You just commented on my update over on my old thread, I just got a BFP yesterday after losing my son at 19 weeks in November last year. I just wanted to say I empathise with you- if you see in my signature my first two children are 11 months apart, and when we found out about DS #2, we were very very panicked. But the great thing about time is that you're almost guaranteed that SOMETHING will change as time goes on, if that time results in something good, that's obviously great. If it results in something not so good, then you know something for sure- and knowledge is power, and you can use it to turn it into a positive. I won't lie, the first two boys were very difficult to look after in the first 6 months, especially when my partner was at Uni most of the day every day. But luckily for us, DS#2 walked very early, and once he was up and mobile, it got a lot easier. I've had all three of my boys very close together, and while I see the difficulties in it, I don't believe it's a valid reason to remove your current pregnancy. And whether you have 3 kids 3 years apart, 6 kids 6 years apart, or 4 kids 12 YEARS apart, it is ALWAYS going to be hard - and there will ALWAYS be positives and negatives to both sides. For me personally, having them close, they are SO close (not just age-wise), but they get along so well, and once you see that happen in front of your eyes, you will never look back. Thankyou for leaving such a nice comment on my post! And I hope to hear some updates from you when you get scans etc! Take care xxo

Really sorry to hear this, agree with playg1rl, just remember he was there aswell when it happened so this isnt down to you. Everything in life happens for a reason and this baby can only be there as a gift. I really hope things work out for you. X

blondhayley:

Really sorry to hear this, agree with playg1rl, just remember he was there aswell when it happened so this isnt down to you. Everything in life happens for a reason and this baby can only be there as a gift. I really hope things work out for you. X

Sorry just read the rest of the post, glad he has come round and totally agree its your marridge not anyone else's enjoy your little one. Cant wait to see a nub shot

I just read through your post and I'm glad your DH is feeling better about the new little one.. I am also pregnant with an oops baby I found out 6-7 weeks after I had DD3 and I was VERY shocked I cried like a baby when I found out. Now I feel bad about my reaction to this pregnancy because either way oops or not God doesn't make mistakes.. After 3 daughters and a step DD our little surprise turned out to be our Boy.. so I just wanted to wish you a healthy and happy pregnancy hun

You will be fine! My 2 youngest ones are little over a year apart, the pregnancy with dd was tough, especially because I had SPD (due to the short gap inbetween pregnancies) and I was also petrified of giving birth since ds2's birth was still so vivid in my head. It all worked out well, I got an epidural (never even considered it for my boys, will defintiely have one again next time ;)

The first months were hard. Ds2 was a toddler and a wild one at that. He went through a rough patch after dd was born, hitting other children, taking everything away from them, it was awful. The hardest thing for me after birth was the breastfeeding part - I struggled to find the time to let my dd drink in peace and long enough for her to get enough and me to empty my breast. This resulted in mastitis (twice in the first 10 weeks, but I have a tendendy to get them anyway). I hope you can afford someone to come help you with the household, that would be a great help. But if not, who cares if your house is messy for some months, honestly?

My kids are now like twins, they share a bedroom for now as well. They are so adjusted to another, its great. Its the reason I wanted another short age gap this time, 21 months, I wanted to wait 12 months before falling pg again due to the SPD (and so far it hasnt come back, yay!).

I think your husbands reaction is totally ok, actually. He has to go away, he is under pressure, he worries about his family not coping. Fair enough! I am glad he came aroudn though. Abortion or giving a child up for a adoption, christ, I know my marriage wouldnt survive something like that. Another baby? Ah yeah. Its just the first months that will be chaotic. Take it with humour ;) Congratulations on your pregnancy :)

ps I am getting mirena coil put in after this baby. At my 6 week check up after birth! I am not leaving things up to chance this time round, I know I would be pg again in not time as well LOL