Huh, that's weird that they're not related! Yeah, I've actually spoken to Merle Berger on the phone before and he didn't seem very sympathetic at all. My bio dad is an anonymous sperm donor whom I know absolutely nothing about (you can see how that would deeply affect me on multiple levels, not to mention feed my GD, making me loathe to have another empty unfillable spot on my family tree), and I called Dr. Berger to ask if he could fill me in on any details like nationality/heritage or at least if they were healthy guys, and he was just like, oh yeah we kept absolutely no records back then, and all the kids are fine and don't care at all. It's like how the heck would you know unless they called you like I was doing?! And not even all of them know about it - my parents weren't going to tell us, except then they got a divorce when I was in middle school and my mom told me one day when she was pissed at my dad to try to hurt him . . . Uch, sorry TMI, but anyway! Dr. Berger seemed like he couldn't even imagine that the kids he was helping to conceive could possibly care or be affected by not knowing anything about half of their genes/heritage. I think donor kids today are much better off because if they want, they can access all kinds of information about their donors, even if it's anonymous donation.
That sucks too that you had to go through not just one but two cycles on low doses of meds that didn't work just because you're young. One cycle okay, a lot of doctors want to be conservative starting out, but when you get such unexpected crappy results from the first one, you'd think they'd know to change the protocol! I'm nervous about being under-dosed as well, since I'm also youngish (29) and have gotten hints that they're starting me pretty darn low due to that and my testing results. I also did two lously MS/IUI cycles two years ago where I was on very low doses and hardly responded, so it's definitely a phobia of mine. I gotta get to the bottom of this and sort it out by the time I start stimming next week.
Anyway, good luck tomorrow, got my FX for you!!!!