My 4.5 year old son is challanging! He was pretty much a normal, although wild and super talkative, kid up until about age 2.5. His sister was born and mommy and daddy did a lot of unrelated fighting. Daddy went on a few trips and mommy was home on maternity leave then back to work. I think it was a confusing and unsettling time for him.
Around 3.5 years I thought he was soooo ready for preschool. He was still pretty wild and always on the go but I just thought he was a busy boy. Well, he started preschool and it was a nightmare. Granted, the school had no structure- just 1.5 hours of free play with kids and running and screaming and bouncing from one activity to the next. The first year of preschool was a very hard year. My son was kicking, hitting, knocking other kids blocks down, not sitting still, throwing sand and toys, and generally being wild and out of control. The school was very paitient with him but I knew it wasn't the best fit.
At home he does many of the same behaviors but I am very stict and tend to ride him a little. However, he will throw toys, hurt his little sister for no reason, run around yelling, flail his arms around, spin in circles, yell, and be very over emotional. He can also be sweet and loving. He is super smart and is capable of sitting still and having really good behavior. He has been to Cirque Du Soleil and did very good through the whole show.
He loves other kids and wants everyone to play with him and be his friend. But then without warning he will hit or disrupt their toys or be too rough. He has very poor impulse control.
Well, this year we tried another preschool and after one day they said he was hitting the whole time and that if he hits again he is out. Although it sounds like it, he is not a bully or aggresive. He doesn't do any of these things to be mean or cause harm- just very poor impulse control- we think.
What do you all think? I have spent so many nights up crying over his bad behavior. He is sooo smart and loving and creative and musical and imaginative. He can have a great day- or a very terrible one. Why does he have to act this way?