I'm on the opposite side of the fence... wishing i could've had just one girl. it's obviously not in the cards for me and my hubby. Some days I feel quite happy about it (like I've come to terms with it)... especially days buying toys (I prefer boys toys... and yes I'm doing christmas and bday shopping cos my faimly is all around xmas)... but then I go out looking for boys clothes and it puts me back down in the dumps. Then i hear people are getting girls... or worse, they are getting their pigeon pair... and I feel like I'm the only one having a boy atm... when I was the one so desperately wanting a girl. I was the one who made all the sacrafises to ttc girl. I'm the one taking care of my body and my baby... and "you" (being someone who has just had a girl) smoked and drank through your whole pregnancy!
Then I'm into handmade crafts... and all the sellers on facebook predominately do GIRL stuff... ARGGGG... it drives me up the wall seeing all this beautiful stuff they make and I can't buy any of it for my precious daughter.
I've even planned a fairy party for my birthday for next year... so i can still do the girly things... it will just be with a bunch of adults! :P
I have a couple of friends who have only had girls... and they ache for a boy too... they love their girls so much and wouldn't change them.... but they still have a desire for a boy. I said to one of them.... well I'll have a fairy party for my birthday next year... and you can have a pirate party for yours! She laughed at this.
I never thought I'd have the guilt though... you know how you would assume that fathers want a son?... well DH doesn't vocalise his desire... in fact he's only said that he's sad for me... so I guess that helps. But at a wedding last weekend there was this little brunette girl... she's not quite one yet... and my DH was absolutely smittened with her... I've seen this look on his face a couple of times now when it comes to little girls... and it's like he turns to mush. lol. I cried last weekend when I saw the look on his face. I felt so bad and guilty. I wouldn't change this boy now that he's coming... but it would've been nice to have one girl.
And I agree... people say "so longs it's healthy" as they don't know what else to say, esp when they know you had hopes of getting the opposite gender. Gees... we all hope for a healthy baby first... the gender is just another thing that we think about, and dream about... and when that dream is cut off... it hurts... and it's something you need to deal with in your own way.
Find things that make you happy... if it means buying a few boy toys for your girls... why the hell not? Girls play soccer, girls play in the mud, girls like cars. my DS2 occasionally walks around with a life-like baby doll I made (when I was preg with him)... who cares.
I want to do the tea party's with my daughter... and dressups... but as it's never gonna happen I am resorting to making my friends dressup and have teaparties (with alcohol in the tea cups! :P). lol... and definately a fairy party!