For the moms that had a girl after many boys

Warning:  This may be a GD trigger for some, and I apologize if it is.  I just wanted to be able to share some thoughts and feelings with other moms that are in my sam situation. 

I know several of us finally got a girl after having several boys first.  How has life been with your girl?!  Has it been what you thought it would be?  If you had GD before, how is that now?

It took me a long time to fully accept that this is my new life!  I'm HAPPY, don't get me wrong!!  But, I think especially since I didn't find out the gender until birth, it REALLY took a while to sink in for me.  I more felt like I was "pretending" to have a girl, than really have one, ya know.

I try to keep her dressed in really sweet girly things, and people are always making comments about how I "always have her so dressed up".  Well, I can't help it.  I've waited so long, and the other part is that when she is in the girly things, it's a visual reminder for me that she REALLY IS A GIRL! 

I still expect to see a penis every time I change her diaper.  LOL  I'm always just a little thrown off when I open it up, and there's not one there.

She is so sweet, and I really do love every minute with her!  And she has made me appreciate my other boys so much more now for being BOYS!!  I still hate when people make comments about how we "finally got the girl" or anything that makes it seem like my boys were only in the way to getting to her, ya know.  But, I am just thrilled with my family now.  I think often how everyone says the "millionaire family" is a boy and a girl, and how much richer WE are for getting THREE BOYS and a girl!! 

Great thread!  I can't even begin to describe how  happy I am.  Everytime I look at her, I honestly want to cry with happiness.  I feel like my GD is completely gone.  I appreciate my boys even more for being boys  and, I agree, I now  think the perfect family is two boys and then a girl!! I always, always have a bow  in her hair and I do worry that she'll be spoiled but oh well!!  For now, we're having so much fun!

I feel the exact same as you and even though I found out the gender before the birth I still didn't believe I could be lucky enough to have a girl and that they must have got it wrong. Like you everytime I change her nappy I expect to see a penis but it hasn't grown yet!!! Found myself thinking the other day as I was changing her "Can you imagine if I did open it and one had grown? Like she was a slow developer" God I know that could never happen but it doesn't stop you thinking it. I dress her up in really girly clothes and get annoyed/disappointed when people ask, as they look into her really pink pram where she is surrounded by really pink blankets and a bow/hairband on, "What did you have" Have said to a few Well obviously it's a girl with all the pink. I know she hasn't much hair yet but what do they think? That you are so desperate for a girl that you'd dress any boy you had in pink dresses and put hairbands on them?

I can rememeber when I did the HPT with DS#3 and it came back positive. I just cried cause I just knew he was a he. Don't get me wrong I wouldn't change him now for the world and he is a total Mammy's boy but at the time I was so disappointed as I only wanted 3 kids. Now on the other hand I couldn't be happier with my not so little family. Yes it robs me blind with all the money I fork out for school supplies and clothes for them all and I probably won't go on holiday for the next few years but do you know what? I don't care cause at the moment I am in a happy bubble with my family and I know it was Mia that put us all there. Words can't describe how happy I'm feeling since she was born and even DH has commented how he has never seen me so happy before. Everytime I look at her I want to squeeze her so tight and find myself doing that sometimes and have to remind myself she's only small. If you squeeze to tight it'll kill her.  So I totally agree that our lives are so much better for having the 3 boys and finally our long awaited girl. It was worth the wait and she'll always have 3 strong lads to mind her as she grows up.

Great question....my GD is completely gone. Like all of you, I am so extremely happy to have a girl. I say all of the time that I am the luckiest mommy in the world to have two sweet boys and a sweet baby girl. I knew I was having a girl, but couldn't believe it until she came. I kept thinking something would happen to prevent me from having my dream come true. I feel so blessed.

But, when I think back to a year ago- I get a knot in my stomach just remembering what it is like to not know  if you will ever have a girl.  I think my GD made this  moment in my life that much sweeter and although it was so tough going through the years of GD- I am ever more thankful now  and feel even more blessed.  It does feel weird when moms with all boys ask me what it is like to have a girl.  This has  happened to me several times and I don't know what to say.... I want to say" It's the best thing in the whole world and it IS different!" But I just smile and say "A baby is a baby... I'm so in love." 

 We are loving it. I agree that having a girl makes me appreciate my boys so much more - because their "boyishness" no longer feels like a slap-in-the-face reminder that I am doomed to a life of trucks, trains, football, and bugs. Now that I have a little girl, I can actually have fun with the trucks, trains, etc.  I go crazy with the clothes - she is always in a dress - friends of mine have laughed at me b/c I have to take a picture of her in every outfit.  I tell them I have to enjoy it now before she gets old enough to have her own opinion - could turn out to be one of those girls who never wants to dress up! 

I still get people asking if she's a boy if I'm carrying her in my Mei Tai, just because it happens to be pale blue. Apparently the color stereotyping extends beyond clothing to all the accessories of baby care. Next they'll start making diapers pink or blue. 

But yeah - GD is gone, and I haven't visited the board much - too busy getting on with life with three kids. Every moment is a blessing and I don't want to miss it.

 

 

I just love reading all of these updates, and knew you girls would totally understand what I am feeling right now!

I do feel like I'm walking around with my head in the clouds because this is as perfect of a life as I could ever dream of, and I really am so happy!  I find myself squeezing her too much too!  LOL

I have some all boy mom friends that I have worried would distance themselves from me now because I no longer fit in their group.  Most have been very supportive though, and said that I have given them hope.  But, I remember where I was a year ago (like PP mentioned), and through my own pain and fear of never getting to experience this moment, I couldn't handle being around people who were blessed with adorable baby girls.  It was just too much of a reminder of all the things I felt like I was missing out on in life, and had no control at all of ever making that dream come true!

Thankful just isn't a big enough word to describe how I feel now!  And I'm so glad that you all are experiencing this wonderful blessing too, and I TRULY hope that anyone who has experienced the pain of GD will get to experience this feeling of joy and peace as well!!

I am over the moon to say the least...I never take one minute for granted...I also take a picture of her in almost every outfit i put her in...my friends give me hard time about all the pink, so every so often I put her in different colors...I'm having a ball taking care of my little girl...she's so sweet and rarely cries unless hungry or sleepy...she sleeps well too. She's so much fun. The best part though, is watching her brothers play with her and make her smile. I also feel like I'm a better mom to them now that the pressure to have a girl is off. My husband has also commented on how happy I have been since she's come along. He can tell how much more relaxed I am now. I hardly ever want to put her down, but I do have to go to work, so that's prob why. I have never been so bonded to a baby...my first was because I had to go back to work after 2 weeks and was in so much pain, it took longer for us to bond, with DS2 he screamed non stop for 7 months straight no matter what I tried, but of course now he's my mommas boy and Avy's favorite brother right now. :P Avy and me instantly bonded, she smiles at me and seems completely at peace when she's laying next to me. My husband adores her and loves those big toothless grins she gives him all day. He's staying home with her during the week, and works on the weekends. So I'm a bit jealous that I don't get to stay home with her, but I'm the one with the best income, so as long as she's happy and the bills are paid, its ok. I'm glad for this post, its nice to see how other moms are doing, and get to share with each other how we are feeling with our girls now. :) One of the questions was has it been like you thought it would be? Actually yes, but so much better than I could have imagined. :) I swear we prayed this girl into existence and almost every day I find myself thanking god for her and my complete family. :)

When I had boys I wanted a girl but thought it would b ok to have another boy if thats what God had planned for me. Now that I have my little girl, I am so happy ! I never realized how having a girl could affect my life so much. All of my friends have little girls and my sister in law has 3 so when mine came along I was able to partake in all the "girly" dress up shopping, the hairbows and tutus, and the shoes....its endless. I have the best time dressing her up and she seems to love it too. She is very close to me even though I work and am the main bread winner in my family (like a PP said)  and I too miss her like crazy as I do my boys.... but I enjoy our time together.

In a nutshell, if I had to go back a year knowing what I now know , I would definitely want my little girl. I am totally NOT a girly girl but I sure enjoy all this girly stuff with her. I'm somehow complete as well, cause when I had my 2 boys I would still dream with another child .(I really was unsure of gender but knew there was 1 more)...and she's here!! So, everything seems perfect now and I have that hope for anyone who has a desired gender that hasn't arrived yet. My prayers are with all those ladies .