YOU ARE NOT ALONE!!
My boys are just a bit older than yours, but we both had our girls in 2009. What a joy it has been being the mom of these 4! I never dreamed I would have 4 kiddos, but here I am. I am really wanting another one. I feel the same....somebody is missing! Boy or girl doesn't matter. My DH is on board, but I haven't told very many people. I don't want the negative comments. I don't want to hear how crazy we are. The world tells us a lie.....to have 2 kids and be done. My life would not be the same without the extra 2 God gave us!!
First of all, what kind of friend would "rip you" to shreds over the issue of having and loving another child?! I think you need a new friend, I don't care how many years you've been friends. Does she have kids? Second, what kind of sister would be so against this idea? It's not like you are a terrorist or you plan to commit a crime of some other sort. Let's get mad over real and bigger issues people!
Children are a BLESSING. Pure and simple. They teach so much about the world, ourselves, and how to become less selfish people.
Have your sister and friend seen you stressed out with the 4 you have? Complain? What basis do they have to be so against your heart's desire to have a 5th?
Do what you know is right in your heart. It doesn't really matter what people think. This is YOUR life and your husbands. You are responsible for these children, not them. If you lose a friend over this.....boy oh boy.....seriously consider her values and how she values you as a person.
Hope this helps! I know I got on my soapbox, but I feel pretty strongly over this issue! I wish you well in your decision!