No problem omsairam. It is definitely confusing, and you have to do what feels right for you in the end. I tend to look at lunar O and menstrual O as two totally different things, unless they decide to occur at the same time. In order to trigger the lunar O, it is recommended you BD in the days leading up to your lunar O date, but most importantly is that you BD 24 hours before, as you are planning.
The more I read about BD timing for your menstrual O, the less important it seems to me. Ideally you use OPKs to make sure you will O in a girl sign, and then you BD for that month.
You are right that when they coincide you are extra fertile. And some people use the lunar O to TTC twice a month if they are separate. If you are swaying, you just have to make sure your menstrual O is going to occur in a girl sign first.
At the end of the day I think we can try all sorts of things to sway naturally, but it is God who will decide on the perfect baby for each person.