Am I missing out by not having a girl?

I have two boys, whom I adore, but I just have always pictured myself with a little girl. I have to admit, I was really wanting a girl with my second pregnancy, and had even convinced myself that I was having a girl. Anyway, I LOVE my two boys and wouldn't trade them for anything, and I've found that having two boys is so much fun. I'm glad they have each other and love watching them play together. The thing I'm wondering is, what am I missing by not having a girl? Part of me wants to try for a third, but my husband isn't totally on board, and some days I'm pretty content with my two boys. I guess I'm just trying to figure out what to do and wondered if anyone had any input. Thanks!

Hi, I just wanted to say that I'm in the exact same position.  I was told that my second son was a girl and only found out when I had a scan at 34 weeks that, the previous two scans were wrong and that I was having a boy.  I too adore my two sons, and wouldn't swap them for anything.  I love seeing them play together, but I do also wonder what I would be like to have a girl.  I'm pretty keen on trying for a third baby, but my husband would be happy with just the two boys.  He has said he would consider having a a third baby but not for a few years.  I think he is secretly hoping that if he stalls long enough I won't want another baby.  I'm not absolutely desperate for a girl, and if I was told that I could only have my two sons it wouldn't be the end of the world.  However I'm still young and we could manage a third baby, there is something in side me that keeps saying I'll regret not trying for a girl when I'm old and grey.  It's a tough one, but money is also a big factor and a third baby would push us as far as we could go.  I can't really answer your question, but just wanted you to know that you're not the only with the same dilemna.  Take care x

Thanks for the response. It's nice to know I'm not the only one feeling this way!

I could've written both posts!!  We finally decided last year we would go for it..even though my DH was still content with the 2 boys and then I MC at 9 weeks and my DH said, okay were done now!!!  Um no, then it was too late, I already had the idea of this third baby in my head, we decided we'd try again and sway for my DD, and as I was waiting for my AF to start so we could start our attempts, it never came as I was alredy PG!  So now I'll guess we'll have to wait and see and if I get DS#3, maybe I'll have this discussion again next year!! That's my fear now, if it's a DS will I want to ttc DD again or if it's DD will I want to TTC again to give her a sister....oh boy decisions!  I went to a website for people who were contimplating 3 kids, can't remember the name but something simple like, having 3 kids.  I think one kid is mandatory, 2 is what most do, but 3 is just an option!!  Let's see what I'm in for!!!

 

 I could of written those post also but flipped. We have 2 daughters and now I am due in April (didn't find out the sex this time) and I feel like I'm missing out on not having a son. Everyone says having a son is so different that there is a bond there that a mother/son have that you don't have with daughters... So hopefully I will find out this time around or at least im praying!

I hope you all end up getting what you're hoping for! I really do think I want to try for #3. I just hope that if it doesn't work out, or if my husband can't be convinced, that I'll be ok with that. I don't want to feel that longing for a daughter forever if it isn't meant to be... But, like I said before, I am SO happy with my sons and wouldn't trade them for anything. Also, if we did have a third, I just wonder how much harder it would be. Does anyone have any input on what it's like adding a third child to the family?

 I can tell you in a few months! I was told 3 is the hardest. wit 2 its one per parent with 3 is a toss up. IDK I personally was just trying for a boy this time and so far everyones guessing its a girl..so disappointed already and i don't know the sex yet..lol 

  I just wish that we would get what we want..so many ppl out there with just boys wanting to have just one daughter and then us with 2 girls just wanting 1 son. It would make it easier if everyone could just get 1 of each lol

Not sure you "need" my input, but I could have written the OP post! We started TTC when I was at ease with having 3 boys, I wanted 3 children more then 2 which was the main issue, however, I blocked GD out when we were ttc, so I guess I never know now...

zoeelise:

I have two boys, whom I adore, but I just have always pictured myself with a little girl. I have to admit, I was really wanting a girl with my second pregnancy, and had even convinced myself that I was having a girl. Anyway, I LOVE my two boys and wouldn't trade them for anything, and I've found that having two boys is so much fun. I'm glad they have each other and love watching them play together. The thing I'm wondering is, what am I missing by not having a girl? Part of me wants to try for a third, but my husband isn't totally on board, and some days I'm pretty content with my two boys. I guess I'm just trying to figure out what to do and wondered if anyone had any input. Thanks!

I was in same exact situation. I wanted really bad for my second to be a girl and was in denial and had GD badly. I tried for third and had a girl. She is 9 months now and I can tell you - so far I don't think I did missed out on NOTHING but dressing the baby pink. She is same baby as my boys were, I don't treat her any different , she don't behave different she is just my third baby. The only difference (but obvious) is that I can dress her pink and I can put bows on her head etc. So far no other thing is different. I thought I would be over the moon and feld different about her. I was somehow disappointed because she wasn't as special as I would imagine she would be ,on the other hand I was glad she wasn't because I had this fear that I would love/treat her different then my boys. Nothing like that happened . But she is 9 months so real difference can be way ahead of me. So far she is my third and every one of them I love as much but differently and for other things. Now I will be TTC in next few months and I am not as desperate for a girl like I was when I was TTCing a year ago.Girl or boy - it will be my baby and I know I will love and treat him/her same.

 I agree with onWAYor ANOTHER on this. Your kids are your kids. You get out of them what you put into them...lots of love. Sure, boys and girls are different, but so is every single little person out there... regardless of gender. If you would be able to handle a third child financially, emotionally,etc. and would still be happy if it was another boy...you could try again. But, if not, don't stress. Enjoy the lovely kids you've got now. All the best to you! 

I totally agree with onewayoranother It kinda feels the same.. only differents is I'm toting around pink stuff instead of blue.. I also thought it would be different but it's really not. Infact I'm so use to boys stuff If I were to have another child I would want it be a boy.

Well as you can see we ended up with DS #3 so now I don't know how I feel.  I love him for sure, but still long for a DD but don't know if I want 4 kids...not really enjoying being pg anymore either so...I'd be content with what you have!  you'll be able to do so much more with 2 kids than 3.  But I knew I had to try for a third, boy or girl, because I'd regret it.

I can't honestly weigh on the boy v. girl, as we now have both (BBG), but I can say that three kids has turned out to be far, far easier than I expected. I think part of it is in the spacing. Having them close together seems to be tough in the early years, but with them farther apart the older ones don't need the same sort of attention as the baby, and can actually be helpful and can really enjoy the baby. And all the baby stuff (nursing, sleep, diapers) is so much easier now that we know what we're doing. The hardest part has just been the logistics -- fitting them into the car, paying for child care. If I had been younger when we started, and if we could afford it, I'd gladly go for 4. (I used to think I wanted 0 or 1!)