I can understand the women who have a bunch of girls and want a boy just as much as the ones who have a bunch of boys and want a girl (like me). The ones I'm kind of on are those who only want 1 gender - all boys or all girls. I think because I want BOTH gender so badly my brain can't grasp why anyone would only want 1 gender lol. Nothing against them it's just something I have never experienced so I don't "get it" like I "get" wanting the opposite gender. If that makes sense.
This is exactly how I feel..
I have to admit I do agree this does get to me as well..But I try not to judge, I know everyone's story is so different and usually when people explain the story behind their fear of a certain gender I do get it.
It's just hard for me to see it sometimes cos I do view girls and boys fairly equally, they both have their pro's and con's so to speak, and I've found out through friends having girls that they are pretty much the same as babies.
I have said before I am uber greedy and was desperate for both. If I had a girl first I prob would have been desperate for a boy-I'll never know so I cant comment 100%.
I think it's a shame that people do fear a gender sometimes. I know it's sometimes to a horrid experiences (abuse etc), but I have read posts about it being 'just not what people pictured' or that they 'dont get' a gender. I think I dont 'get kids' full stop sometimes! And I have no expectation that I will 'get' this little girl just cos she's female (and I am quite girly but so's my mum and she DID NOT 'get' me!).
I understand about the loss of a dream I wanted GIRL, BOY... and just letting go of having an older girl is hard-even though I also view it as crazy!...
I do struggle when people have 3 or 4 of one gender ONLY want that gender they have and then have an 'opposite' and hate it! I mean , my brain says 'you've been lucky enough to get three or four in a row of a DG but your gutted that the 3rd of 4th isn't!'...That's really hard for me as I think having three of exactly what you want is very very lucky indeed and surely one would have to see that having another in a row of exactly what you want is unusual?
I'm sure people have great reasons that if explained i'd get, but I have been very confused about it in the past...would love to experiences of this as I'd love to understand it more. I dont want to judge!