Chicken Butt Boy Club, TAKE 3!!!! (new anti-monkey thread)

 Okay girls I will only admit this here but, I am going off the wall bonkers hormonal today. As in flipping out over nothing right and left. Really don't know what's going  but MAN this is crazy. I told DH tonight I better be PG because otherwise I have no flippin' clue what is causing me to be so uptight and snappy. 

Aqua - I don't know what your DH makes, but here 25% goes to child support, so DH and I start off down and out already. Right now we have no savings, live pay check to pay check, and generally are just counting on DH's career options increasing and being promoted in order to cover retirement, etc. We're minimilistic in nature. We try to focus on money on things that are benficial for our family... so we don't eat out, we coupon and meal plan. We're crafty and re-use items in the house (paint fixes everything). We don't own expensive cars and generally we're not big on buying stuff. My one weakness is children's clothing... especially girl clothing. Why is everything so cute!!!! 

We have life plans of using DH's raises to start aggressivly saving, but neither of us feel the need to provide our children' with college money. We will give them something, mainly to help with books and semester expenses, but we personally don't feel responsible to pay their tuition. Especially not BEFORE they go to school. We may opt to help pay off their loan balances after the graduate... But Dh and I feel that our TIME is worth more than our money to the kids. Being able to be there and hands on raise them vs hand them a tuition check... 

Living on one income IS difficult most of the time. Especially because as Moms we tend to have to give up on some of the things we want... but it is possible. And if you're the type of person who enjoys being around kids 24/7 it can make a huge difference in your child's life.

But either way, the most important thing is to just continue to be available to your child when you're there.

 10 DPO and BFN

But my temp jumped back up this AM. 

sabby2009:

 10 DPO and BFN

But my temp jumped back up this AM. 

Still looking good, Sabby!  FX for a "Turkey day +" for you.

And in case I don't get back on here because of all the holiday craziness....Happy Thanksgiving, my Chicken Licker friends!!!!  xoxo

Sabby, could have been an implant dip! Your're early still, so no fretting yet. We are pretty much in the same boat, not a lot of money, but I do have to buy work clothes and lots of fancy stuff for shows and the like...I kinda have to look good in this business, which actually is really annoying as I am a pretty laid back girl....I could live in jeans, boots and baggy tops with a hat on, too. But, we spend most of our money on our daily lives and kids, are pretty frugal...only have 1 car actually! It is hard to figure this stuff out....these are the decisions that sometimes make/break families w the money. I think I may just save up and plan on a year off, but also have some freelance stuff going on during that year....that way, I'm not making nothing. But thanks for everyone's input and sweetness.

YAY Medic, time to get it on! I like Big Sky's advice about dtd again if still +. Can't believe your ovaries are so tender...that Clomid must have kicked their little asses!

Aqua, I think your plan sounds good! You are a diet/drink machine, good for you!

HAPPY THANKSGIVING everyone!

Hey ladies,

Sorry I havent been on in a while. Hopefully, after thanksgiving I will be able to get on a little more.

Just wanted to pop in and wish those of you who will be swaying in the next couple of days lots of blue dust!

Sabby, thanks for sharing that. I see your point of view too. There are so many different life paths and each of us take the one we most know of, the one we grew up to undertand and the ones that work for us. I obviously agree that time is one of the most important thing you can give your child and value it very high. I work my ass off to manage it so that we have that with our DD. I could have chosen a different path. For eg my neighbor sends her DD to school with nachos and cheese as a snack and no lunch. She eats at the cafeteria everyday. But I choose to cook her organic nutritious and well balanced meals and snacks, everyday. And we finish this after she goes to bed, so we have that time with her. It could sound crazy to someone else, but that's what I feel I need to do. I'm pretty frugal too. I shop at craigslist :). I see a very positive side on your point on college funds. That way they will know its worth and will take their school seriously. May be because this is what I have always known, it was implicit that we'll be doing the same. The college funds really helped me to be just a student and concentrate on being just that and not have any extra burden of loan behind me. I was able to finish my 4 year (i was doing engineering) and join corporate by 22. May be I was thinking thats the only way its supposed to be... its great to see all the different perspective. Thanks

One of the astronauts who was killed before their shuttle reached earth said something like this while seeing the earth from space " wow! From up here it just looks like a tiny ball, and we cannot imgaine soooo much goes on there."  I remember that all the time. We are all on the same journey, but on different paths.

Medic, hope you had a great time ..wink wink. Did you use ew? I had a question for Tamara in one of the posts regarding BSF. After DTD you can BSF again after few hrs (6-7) to keep the PH up. It wont kill the sperms, by 6-7 hrs they would have travelled upstate to the crypts and will no longer be hanging aroung the cervix club downtown.

Cemas, was DH able to raise his PH after BSD. Darn.. even those BSDs are not working for him :(((

Happy Thanksgiving Y'all.

Aqua:

Cemas, was DH able to raise his PH after BSD. Darn.. even those BSDs are not working for him :(((

Happy Thanksgiving Y'all.

It helped a little only after 2 months. his went from 7.6 to 8.4......wonder what is is now after the bad diet....what is ur DH's PH?

 

Aqua - I think it's just good to know that life doesn't have to look like X. There are 26 other letters of the alphabet which are just as good, etc. My Mom constantly criticizes the decisions I make with my life. 

She didnt' want me to keep my son. Wanted me to place him for adoption. 

Didn't want me to start my business. 

Didn't want me to date my now husband (before she met him)

Doesn't want me to have another baby. 

Everything she cannot understand why I do it ends up being the best thing for ME, even if I understand she wouldn't have made the same choice. But that's what's great about life, we get to make our own choices. :) 

I'm not worried about hte lack of BFP ... at 13DPO I'll get pissed off though. ;-) TOmorrow is 11 DPO and my last test, and then I'm going to not buy a new test until next week. Either AF will show or I'll be looking at a BFP ;-)  

 11 DPO BFN

Right now I am 2 days away from AF. If she doesn't show this weekend I'll pick up a test on Sunday. 

Aqua, this is from one of my favorite authors and definitely one of those videos that I watch from time to time when I feel like the world is revolving around me, just to bring me back to reality. From reading your earlier post, I think you will appreciate....everyone will.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=wupToqz1e2g

Sabby, sorry you are still coming up negative there....eh, what can I say but I know it is frustrating. You're not out of the game yet, though....

sabby2009:

Everything she cannot understand why I do it ends up being the best thing for ME, even if I understand she wouldn't have made the same choice. But that's what's great about life, we get to make our own choices. :) 

Amen, sister. Good for you for having the strength to make your own choices....a lot of people are not able to do so, and go in the path that was chosen for them and end up miserable. You are totally right, it is your life and your mom doesn't have to live it. Hopefully she understands that after the fact.

 12 DPO

BFN smu

 Temp dipped this AM a little and I'm sick, lol. I think I'll save my last test for monday. Just not feeling optimistic right now. Trying to think ahead to next cycle and what I might want to do differently... 

 So sorry about the bfn Sabby:(  I know how hard it is.  Well ladies, Im officially in the tww.  3dpo.  I am crossing my fingers, but trying not to get my hopes up.  It would be so wonderful if this was our month though.  If it worked out, our baby would be due on dh's birthday:)  Ugh, knowing that, its so hard not to get my hopes up. Around O time, my ovaries were so achy and I was so bloated, I hope its a good sign.