DH is leaving for Afghanistan the beginning af January for 15 months. The last deployment he came home on leave just after the halfway mark and it made it so much easier knowing that when he got back to Iraq that we were on the downhill side. Well, he told me last night he wants to come home for the baby's birth in May. I don't want to take that away from him, but he most likely wont be able to make it here for the birth anyway. We would just have to schedule his leave and see what happens. When I first found out I was preg, he said, "oh, now I need to change my leave to May then." I told him no, he didn't need to change it. It would be fine.
Maybe this is just selfish of me, but the only time I will be able to be with my husband for 15 months, I don't want to be recovering from childbirth! Also, It would suck to see him after only a few months and then have to go an entire year without seeing him.
I was thinking if he came home in August or September, that would be around the halfway mark of the 15 months, and the baby would still be little, but more attentive, and more able to interact with him. I understand that he wants to see the baby right away, but when they are first born all they do is sleep, so I thought it would be more fun for him when the baby is a little older.
I am willing to compromise and I guess if he wants to come home sooner than that, fine. But I don't want him to come home in May. I would be more willing to accept the end of June/beginning of July.
I will record the birth for him. i know they let them call and be on the phone when the baby is born. Of course the timing of that can be difficult as well. I plan on sending him DVD's of the baby and taking tons of pictures. I know its not the same as being there, but he is a soldier and he's not the only one that will be dealing with this.
Am I being harsh? What should I do? Please help! I am so torn.