Kateyk

If there is one thing I feel strongly about with regards to your recent news it's that you should stay on IG! You were brave to tell the truth and it is something that will bring up mixed emotions in all of us, but you will continue to get support here whatever happens.

DreamingMaybeOneDay:

You were brave to tell the truth and it is something that will bring up mixed emotions in all of us, but you will continue to get support here whatever happens.

Amen! Your honesty in the face of something that is already EXTREMELY difficult is what this board is all about.  Your experience does bring up mixed emotions, but I've come to see that IG is like a little family (all girls - talk about family balancing! ).  And, like all proper families, you will be SUPPORTED and LOVED whether each "family member" agrees with your choices or not.  That's what families do.

Please don't go, katey. 

 yea dont go, it will die down, just keep your chin up and be strong

I know how hard this time is for you -- but don't let one or a few person's negative comments deter you from posting anymore on this board -- when so many many more of us are cheering you on and supporting your every move and decision. On a more positive note, how amazing it is that you will have your daughter(s) -- a miracle in of and itself especially after your first difficult cycle. You are in a very good place,d espite this very difficult decision and perhaps, things will evolve so that you won't have to make this decision. Best of luck and please keep us posted. We care for you and have been cheering you on from the very start! Riding this journey with you is what makes a lot of us contemplating or going through PGD more hopeful that it will work for us as well.

KateyK- I just wanted to drop in and let you know that I am thinking about you. Although I don't post much I followed both your cycles and cheered you on. I am so sorry that you are faced with this difficult decision and hope you find out what is best for you and your family. Don't let these negative comments affect you. This is your body and life and you are in charge. Thinking of you and so happy to hear about your daughters. I hope you will keep us all updated and have a healthy 9 months.

It sounds good in theory to say I should still update. I will, as I said, still be cheering on folks here, but not a chance in hell I let the details of my personal life be fodder for debate any further. 

 

kateyk:

It sounds good in theory to say I should still update. I will, as I said, still be cheering on folks here, but not a chance in hell I let the details of my personal life be fodder for debate any further. 

 

I didnt see any of the first thread about you finding out you had all 3 embies stick.  But am sad to think people have been judgemental as to what your personal options are. I hope you are ok and can manage to make whatever the best decision is for your family and be at peace with it.  Good luck and 

 

kateyk:

I will, as I said, still be cheering on folks here, but not a chance in hell I let the details of my personal life be fodder for debate any further. 

 

I understand, Katey, that you are feeling the heat re. the whole triplet thing.  I am also sorry you are now faced with such a heartbreaking decision to make.  I truly hope you can find peace with whatever you decide. 

Having said that, the topic of selective reduction is always going to upset people, you have to expect that.  As I have said before, IG is a huge source of information. It is important that we *all* know & understand that "triplets do happen".  Sadly, your situation has sparked the fire, although it now provides an opportunity for us to educate others.  

Wishing you the very best.

kateyk:

It sounds good in theory to say I should still update. I will, as I said, still be cheering on folks here, but not a chance in hell I let the details of my personal life be fodder for debate any further. 

I did get the chance to read your original email, but couldn't reply because it was already locked.  Even though I haven't been on this board long, I was going to pm you because I just wanted to say that I think it was really brave of you to share your experience.  As someone that plans to cycle in the future, I really took what you said to heart and appreciate you sharing.  Only you and your husband know what is best for your family.  I understand you not wanting to continue to update, but hope you'll still come to the board for support if you need it.  I'm so sorry that what should be such a wonderful time for you has turned into such a stressful time.  Congratulations on your pregnancy, I hope everything works out!!! 

Kateyk,

I didn't get to read the offical announcment thread either. It had been locked and gone by the time I came on, but I just wanted to wish you my best. I havent gone through a HT journey but I do know exactly how hard it is mentally and physically. Triplets are insanely hard and ANYONE who judges you for considering any option is just plain ignorant. I know having 3 was almost your worst nightmare, but hey! At least you got your moneys worth! *insert cheap joke* jk. I have been lurking for a long time in this section of IG and have been rooting you on for a long time. I would really hope that you wouldnt leave! Emotions will calm and you have alot more supporters then haters here. I for one would LOVE to read about how your pregnancy goes be it trips, twins, or a singleton. I would be intrested to know what your hubbys thoughts and feelings are on having trips. Having multiples like that are so rare and SOOOO special!! It does take a toll on your body and more importantly your finances, but look at what you have! 3 BEAUTIFUL babies from God! GL and please keep us updated! Maybe after you get settled? Or after you make any decisions? Or perhaps a blog outside of IG so those that love you here can still follow you? Just an idea....Take care!  

Kateyk - I also did not get to read the thread - been off line for a bit. But, from what I've read in the previous posts, I am so sorry about the negative comments you received. No one has the right to judge what anyone else thinks or does. You do not know how that person is feeling unless you are in that same situation. I am saddened that you are leaving - you were my inspiration and a wealth of knowledge on this site. I learned so much from you and have been rooting you along in your journey. I pray time will heal the hurtful things that have been said to you and you will share your journey with those that "Truly Care" and are not judgemental again. I am crying as I write this (pre AF emotions don't help either) - I am scheduled to cycle next week, and will miss being able to ask you for advice. You helped me in August when I had a "Batch" cycle - heck I didn't even know what batching was until you explained it in one of the posts!!! I wish you happiness, health, and a lifetime of love in your family!