Need help

 I have a 2 year old girl who I love to death and while I had pretty bad GD with her, I am mostly over it now and my problem is future pregnancies, due to my desperate need for a boy! Nothing I can do can fix this. And what is stopping me from getting to 100% and trying again is the the assumption that boys love their mommies more, are more sweet, affectionate caring etc. It is TEARING me up! Like the way boy moms get cut up on the MIL and the sons leaving as adults thing. PGD is not an option because I don't want to take the easy way out, I want to achieve it myself.

So fellow Gders PLEASE help me out here, I need to hear good stuff about little girls and your experiences on how they are just as sweet etc. and not just boys because feeling like the mother son relationship when the boy is small is this totally exclusive thing is sticking me in a GD rut!

I'm sorry that you're so worried about the future.

desperateforalittlebuoy:

the assumption that boys love their mommies more, are more sweet, affectionate caring etc.

Well, I can't speak for anyone else, but my DS1 is not affectionate.  I have to beg for kisses and hugs.  He's not sweet particularly and is not especially caring, either.  I have hopes that DS2 will be different.  It all depends on their personality, not their gender.  My relationship with him is that I'm his caretaker.  We don't have an amazing mother-son bond.  He loves his dad right now better than he does me.

If it helps, I only ever wanted girls.  I don't understand boys at all: they're either mindbogglingly simple or mysteriously complex.  I understand girls and can empathize with them.  When they're being bitchy or moody or shrill, I get it, because I've done it.

desperateforalittlebuoy:

PGD is not an option because I don't want to take the easy way out, I want to achieve it myself.

I don't quite understand this attitude.  The gender of your child is not something you personally can control.  There are millions of sperm racing toward an egg.  Nothing you can do will stop all the X sperm -- not swaying, not willpower, not good works.  So if you really want a boy so much that it's tearing you up inside, you might want to reconsider PGD.

Hope this helps.

I do have two boys . No girls.

I can't say why girls are great because I don't know. But I do sympathize with the longing for a particular gender. I would love a daughter. My boys are great too. BUt I am soooo sad I won't have a girl.

PGD is the only fail safe way to get your gender. I am not comfortable with it for many reasons but it may be an option for you.

the previous poster was right its the personality not the gender. i have four sunz and they are all different all the time sometimes they can be affectionate but the older they get the less kissy they became. my nieces are the same way towards my sister so its personality not gender

 this thread should help you out

http://www.in-gender.com/cs/forums/t/189290.aspx?PageIndex=1

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 Thanks but can anyone tell me why my post was moved here? Because I put it in the GD zone because I am having a bad spot of gender disappointment and needed some cheering up. I thought this zone was just for regular girl chat which mine wasn't. I see alot of posts about how sweet boys are etc. in the GD zone to cheer boy moms up that have no girls but they aren't moved? Is pep talking sad no boy all girls moms not allowed in GD?

 Posts talking about how great girls are or how great boys are go in boy or girl forums.

 Oh I understand that if the post topic was purely about how great they are, then it should be moved. It's just what set my GD off and what made me need help was reading through the GD posts (not the boy zone) and seeing people respond to nearly every post about how great boys are, how sweet and special etc. and it's never moved or discouraged so I did not think it was a problem that I looked for help also. I am feeling kinda left out now. The GD forum seems favouritive to boy Gd, not girl and it is hard for me to get ahead of Gd because of that. Which is such a shame because my GD is getting worse because helping girl moms out seems taboo but praising boys there is not. I have been reading posts for a while and have noticed this unfortunate unbalance. 

Point is girl moms need reassurance and help with their Gd as much as boy moms and it's not fair that this seems to be highy unbalanced because it is helping boy moms gd and hindering vunerable girl moms gd, who it anything like me need the constant pep talks like they do.  It would be great is this problem was addressed and fairly balanced out, gender aside, no discrimination. Thanks.

if you stick around here long enough you will note that this is one of the double standards around here...............i think i saw 'appriciating our boys' in gender dissapointment the other day!!!!!

to answer you original question it is deff personality rather than gender i have girls x4 nd they r all different dd2 is the most loving little girl ever

 I just thought it would be nice for girl moms to post here when they think of something heart warming or sweet their daughters did/do to make us remember how awesome they are. And hopefully to help more of us rise above our GD.

My DD melts my heart everyday and everyday she is getting more personality and girlie. Recently when I was brushing her hair, she took the brush off me and started to brush hers and then mine, she ran her fingers through my hair and looking so intently into my eyes and then let out a girlie little playful giggle of delight. She was having such a good time and it was so sweet for her to look up at me with those adoring eyes and showing me how much she loves and wants to be like me. My little mini- me! 

When we get up for breakfast in the morning I put on her pink dressing gown (just like mine) and she noticed it, and starting looking at hers, then mine and so on. She got really excited and then started to dance around with me.

She LOVES Lady GaGa and so do I! She loves dancing around to it with me.

Most of all she is only 2 but when these special mother daughter moments happen, she must feel it too because she looks up at me and says "just like mamma"

 I find it QUITE offensive and concerning how my post was not only moved here, but was put under an old post titled "need help" 1) this post has NOTHING to do with needing help, 2) it was putting in rising above alongside a similar post which has NOT been disturbed for weeks and when you did move that one, it was kept in it's original title 3) my original post put here was a GD post and moving it here DID NOT help me.

I am ashamed of the way this site is behaving. Racism wouldn't be allowed, but somehow it is OKAY to discriminate against girl moms suffering GD and ignore the fact they need help. Treating boy moms like more in need and us like 2nd class citizens is horrendous. How can you honestly dignify your apparant actions? I know boy moms are more frequent here but regardless discrimation is wrong, that and double standards and that is OBVIOUSLY what is happening here.

If you are going to continue this highly hurtful and unfair act, I suggest you completely separate the site into 2, that or exclude us alltogether because all you are doing is making our GD WORSE on a fricking GD site for God's sake. Now that's sad.

Is it because boy moms feel not having a daughter is worse or something and they feel deep down nothing their sons can do, no matter how sweet can match?

the above poster is a verified troll and has been deactivated