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lucky25

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We have a 4 year old son, and we found out about a month ago that we are having another boy. me and my husband were devistated! it was sooooo hard seeing  DH sooo sad! it made the ultrasound not even fun! my DH didnt even want to keep on watching it... he had just the saddest face! it tore my heart! i tried to smile and look like it was all good... but inside... i was crying...and hurting... my husband was SO sure it was a girl through my entire pregnancy! he was so excited that I got pregnant, he put himself in this phase when he would say that he knows its a girl and doesnt want to hear anything else. all our relitives were doing every wives tale there is and every single thing that we have done says girl. So after the first week after finding out its a boy, he was just down... then it kind of wore off, he started exepting the fact that its a boy, he started to pick out boy names.... but still now and then he says, "why cant we be like all the normal poele that have a boy and a girl" and everytime he says that, it just breaks my heart thinking i didnt give him what he wanted.. I already accepted the fact that I will have a boy, started picking out boy things at the store. and DH hasent said anything about a girl for the past 2 weeks and was totally cool with a boy until yesturday, we foudn out his cousin is having a boy, after a girl wich would make them have a girl and a boy, and then my cousin found out she is having a girl after already having a boy, and again... comes the disappoitment... again saying, its not fair, how come everyone is getting what they want and then here we are..... everyone is saying "awww maybe next time you will have a girl" and that just adds to the disapoitment. 

how much longer is this going to keep on haunting us? [:'(]  its so hard telling people that "its a boy"when they ask and hide the tears. and to make things worse we went to burgerking and the lady that was taking our orders goes "oh you are having a girl!" and i was like.. no its a boy.. and she says " I am never wrong, it is a girl... " and i just look at her seriouse face and almost broke into tears there and just said, no its confirmed boy... and she goes " even with my sister, she was told boy several times throughout her pregnancy and i kept on telling her its a girl and when she had the baby, it was a girl just like i said, im never wrong" so i just said, we will wait and see. but everything is just depressing that everyone is saying girl and our hopes and dreams are crushed with having another boy. I know that having boys are not bad. I personally do not mind having a boy, but i just cant stop being depressed about not having a girl... how long did this last? why do I still feel like im having a girl? how come every sign is pointing twords girl? and how come the whole world is against us? 

 

 Baby Boy 2006,  Baby Boy due Feb 10,2011


 

claireb1y

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I'm so sorry you are both unhappy.  I wish I could tell you it will go away, but it hasn't for me yet, no matter how much I love my little ones.  You're a bit lucky to have a DH who feels the same way you do.  Mine was a bit disappointed, but not devastated like I was.

lucky25:
how come the whole world is against us? 

It's not really against you, but it sure feels that way, doesn't it?  Like you have an open wound, and people come along and rub salt into it, and somehow you have to not scream.  I always wanted to punch people, and I still find myself glaring at women in the stores with their daughters.

Hope you feel a little better soon.

Baby Boy  6/06  

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lucky25

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claireb1y:
You're a bit lucky to have a DH who feels the same way you do. 

I guess i have never thought about it this way. sometimes i feel like he is more disappoited then me. 

Thank you for replying, i really do need this support right now. I just sometimes cant stop thinking its a girl and not beleiving the ultrasound.... even though i know ill probably put myself in for more disappoitment ... but sometimes i just cant shrug that feeling off......i have 2 older sisters, and they both have, boy- girl, and then there is me... boy boy... they are laughing saying i broke the chain of having a boy then a girl.. and my husband is saying how come we cant be like them and have one of each...  its just so hard sometimes.....

 Baby Boy 2006,  Baby Boy due Feb 10,2011


 

outnumberedx3

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claireb1y:

I'm so sorry you are both unhappy.  I wish I could tell you it will go away, but it hasn't for me yet, no matter how much I love my little ones.  You're a bit lucky to have a DH who feels the same way you do.  Mine was a bit disappointed, but not devastated like I was.

lucky25:
how come the whole world is against us? 

It's not really against you, but it sure feels that way, doesn't it?  Like you have an open wound, and people come along and rub salt into it, and somehow you have to not scream.  I always wanted to punch people, and I still find myself glaring at women in the stores with their daughters.

Hope you feel a little better soon.

 

Ditto all of that!!

My youngest is 16 months old and I still have a bad case of GD and honestly I think it's getting worse instead of better over time! And boy it does feel just like salt in an open wound!! I got an email from my husbands friends wife with u/s pictures of their little girl the other day (their 2nd child they have a son so they have will 1 boy and 1 girl) and it was like a knife to my heart! Sometimes it really does feel like the world is out to get you!

Baby Boy 9 yrs Baby Boy 4 yrs Baby Boy 1 yr HeartbrokenOctober '10  Baby Boy #4 Join us 9/2011!

 

lucky25

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outnumberedx3:

Ditto all of that!!

My youngest is 16 months old and I still have a bad case of GD and honestly I think it's getting worse instead of better over time! And boy it does feel just like salt in an open wound!! I got an email from my husbands friends wife with u/s pictures of their little girl the other day (their 2nd child they have a son so they have will 1 boy and 1 girl) and it was like a knife to my heart! Sometimes it really does feel like the world is out to get you!

 

 im sorry you had to go through this more then me, i don know what i would do if i had all 3 boys... i dont know how you handle it. my mom is over the top happy thought that i am having another boy since she had 3 girls... but i just want a girl.... sometimes my feeling that this is a girl so high that i am so sure that when i give birth , it will be a boy. I am picking out nutural colors still not wanting to buy blue knowing i still am having a girl... so hard to make myself accept that its a boy.... 

 

 Baby Boy 2006,  Baby Boy due Feb 10,2011


 
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