What do you do with your boys?

Mine are still babies really (oldest will be 4yrs next month) but my main fear is that I'll be excluded from their (and dh's) activities being the only girl in the house. I'm not a girlie girl and enjoy biking and sport but also dolls houses and doing my hair  I'm at home with the boys at the moment and I worry that we'll drift apart as they get older and get into boy activities I don't get  I hate computer games and football and watching sport on tv, I also struggle at the moment with 'rough play' it bores me, I don't see the point...

We go to plays at least once/month.

We take a cross-training'boot camp style fitness course designed for parents and children once/week.

We are super hero geeks and go to every super hero movie together (with DH, of course). And every Pixar movie. And every sci-fi movie.

We camp out in the backyard.

We read together about American history.

We take hour long walks at least twice/week when the weather cooperates. After which we have a small picnic in the park.

We golf frequently.

We go out to a nice dinner once/month. Dressed up and all.

Mine are still little too (5yrs old and 2yrs old) but we go to art, science, historical and hands on museums, nature center, stage shows, movies, zoo. oldest plays flag football and soccer.  I've started getting my 5yr old into science type activities (microscope, telescope etc) that we can do together.  I don't participate in the "rough play" either, thats daddy's dept.

OMG what DON'T I do with my DS. DH was military so it was just me and my lil man most of the time. we went to story time, museums, Disneyland, out for lunch and to see new movies. Two years ago we went to watch the Nutcraker

Yesterday we had a "date" we went to the movies to watch Furry Vengeance and then we went out for lunch. Just the two of us. DH stayed home with the girls. I love having a DS to go watch funny/silly or even scarry movies with. I'm a huge Brendan Fraser fan so I take him to watch his movies. He loves the Mummy series too.

Oh and I also take him swimming. I have a pass to the pool so I'm the one that takes him. He loves that time we spend together.

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 I hate computer games and football and watching sport on tv,

Use this time to go out and do something for yourself!  That's what I do!  I love it when the boys jump into the video game scene with DH so I can go do my own thing for a bit.  Yay for Mommy FREE TIME!

We have a small community theatre here and I've taken DS1 to see a couple of plays: Annie and The Wizard of Oz.  He loved it!  DH and I also traveled to a different town to take him to see Cirque du Soleil.  So cool.

I am getting ready to look and see if I can find a Mommy/Kid yoga class to do with my almost 4-year old.

There was a small track meet this past Saturday that I took the boys to while DH was at work.  It was fun watching them compete in a few events.

We'll be seeing A LOT of movies this summer.  The local theatre will be playing a lot of older movies at a discounted rate.

We have a pool, so TONS of swimming.

The boys LOVE helping me make Jell-O pudding pies...  And I love eating them.     

Not all boys love sport so there are heaps of things you can do.

Craft

Movies

Bike Riding

Swimming

Beach games if you live near the beach

Art

Gymnastics

Shopping...yes my eldest who is 18 loves shopping lol

Lunch dates

Board games

Really anything that girls do you can mostly do with boys...apart from gossipping lol.

I must say I'm a super girly girly and I find all kinds of things to do with my boys. I even play catch with them and DH. We go for walks, play at the park together, play legos, read (boring truck books but hey they don't know I don't like them!) Watch all the new movies that come out and pretty much all the stuff mom's do! There are lots of things to do with kids that aren't just for girls or boys.

when you post that it all seems so obvious! and a lot of it is what we do now, maybe I shouldn't worry about it so much, it just feels quite isolating being the only girl sometimes...

Dad works 2 jobs so my boys have no choice but to play with mom...this mom will do anything with the guys...camping,hiking,tag ect you name it

I do lots of the same stuff that pp's already listed but I just wanted to say that it can feel isolating being the only female some times.  I mostly worry about when they get older...as in out of the house older.  My Mom was always way more involved in our lives, even though my parents were split up and we lived with our dad.  My Dad NEVER did fun things with us and never showed affection and was hard to talk to.  My Mom we have always been able to talk to and knew she'd be there for us no matter what and always tried hard to make sure she spent time with us and we had a good time.  Even with all my Mom did do and all that my Dad didn't do...guess who all my brothers spend more time with (I have 3 brothers and I'm the only girl)?  Yup..my Dad.  They rarely call my Mom or ever make an attempt to see her, but they do stuff with my Dad all the time.  I KNOW that a LOT of boys grow up and totally still love being around their Mom and talk to her every day and etc...but it worries me since I really only can see how my brothers are with my Mom and my dh doesn't call his Mom or ever go visit her or anything...But for now I can only hope that my boys will come see me and call me when they are older :)  I do things with them that I personally don't always enjoy doing...but I want to spend time with them and want them to be happy.  I play sports with them and wrestle around and I get dirty...but they help me cook and clean and my oldest even helps me paint my nails and toe nails   They love spending time with me no matter what we are doing and I love the time with them, even if it's doing some thing that I don't really enjoy.  Being with them is all that matters to them and what makes them happy...and if they are happy, that makes me happy  

Wow...sorry to go on and on...and on 

Your post totally made sense

the saving thing for me is that since I voiced my fears with dh (he's one of two brothers) he has made an amazing effort with his mum - he said it made him realise that he really didn't spend much time with her but not for any reason than it just didn't occur to him and she never said anything, they are quite close but not as close as me and my mum.

My brother is living at home with my parents at the moment, spends loads of time with them both and they share quite a few interests together - he'll even go shopping with my mum but he's not a great talker, my mum is always saying how she has no idea how he's doing, and worries about him constantly.... maybe its just character...

I guess I just worry about that distance from my boys, I think a lot of it is that I read 'raising boys' recently and it said from 0-5yrs moms are the most important role model and influence and then from 6yrs this transfers to dads and male role models - I guess that statement made me feel really redundant as they grow up and a feeling I need to get into their world as they won't be interested in mine, therefore, isolated - its rubbish I even hate the idea I'll have to go into changing rooms on my own when they are older, silly isn't it