I think that we will all be ok.
I always look at my mom. She has 2 daughters and really, really, really wanted a boy, like you. And for some pretty deep reasons too: her biological father was never in the picture, her adopted dad was an alcoholic and her brothers were all losers. I think she wanted to "raise" a good man.
Her and my dad were crushed when my sister came out.
She never went on to have her son but her oldest daughter (me ) gave her 3 grandsons whom she ADORES. She is having so much fun with them,. Seriously, she's enjoying it more than being a mom. It's ALL about the fun stuff. She doesn't have to do the awful part of parenting (the drudgery of the every day routine, the disciplining, the refereeing between siblings, potty training, time outs, etc.) It's nothing but pure joy. (I know this is something that you probably don't want to hear right now though.)
Life always has a way of working out, but often it's just not how we imagined.