I'm pregnant with twins and we lost our 5 mos old son to SIDS last April. We've been in and out of counseling and so are the oldest 3 children. We will be going back to regular counseling in a week or so. It's tough for me to even look at baby boys between birth-6 mos or so but the counselor has been very helpful in helping us realize that the new babies will be different.
Anyway, I'm approaching viability with twins and DH and I are now realizing that we cannot use the same toys/swings,etc that our son used. After he passed, our friends came in and helped clean up but putting away all his clothes, excersaucer, swings, etc. They all smell like him and we cannot bring ourselves to just clean them off and go on using them.
I wish someone would just "get" it and throw us a small shower or something for the twins, A. because they're twings and B. because it should be understood that we can NOT use anything we own.
I am finding every way to buy what we need for the twins (new clothes, swings, bouncers, bibs, etc.). However, I lost my job in mid-Nov (already pregnant with twins) and DH lost his job last month!! We have about $200 in gift cards from Christmas but that won't get us what we need.
Are we crazy NOT to use our son's things? Any ideas on what else we can do? I don't even have friend to borrow from, as most have already sold off all baby things or are pregnant again. Also, being twins, we need more than we thought. If there's a god, he sure is laughing at us now.