Hi - in my opinion, any shower invite that "suggests" gifts is totally tacky. If people want to know what to give her, the classy thing is for them to contact you for ideas NOT for the invite to be a big glaring tacky "request list." Sorry, but IMO this is just awful - I'm sorry you're having to deal with this. And the "cash for honeymoon" is one of the tackiest things I've ever seen in my life - no one should ask for that as a shower gift. UGH - what a nightmare. Good luck to you!!
ITA! I think it's a fun shower idea but it's tacky the way they phrased it. I did sorta the same thing for a couple I know. They were an older couple getting married and had been married before so they already had 2 of everything. They didn't even want a shower but their friends wanted to do something nice for them. So I planned and hosted a "Hollywood" themed shower as a surprise to them.
I printed the invitations on paper with movie reels. The sign at the entrance said " 'Happily Ever After' Starring Joe & Steph". I encouraged guests to come as their favorite movie character by giving prizes for the best. I told the guests of honor to dress up and placed a black boa on the bride when she arrived and sat them in directors' chairs. We served movie theater candy, popcorn in big tubs, hot dogs, and "Dibs' ice cream. The cake was decorated with fondant film rolls and metallic glitter gold stars.
We put "no presents necessary" on the invite, but the theme of the party encouraged people to bring movies stuff like DVD's and gift cards to movie theaters and restaurants. One couple brought a big fancy popcorn cart! It was really fun, but I agree that asking for specific items is tacky. I think if you theme the party appropriately. people will want to bring gifts in the theme because it's fun! But, if someone asked me for an idea, I gave them one, but didn't list all the ideas on the invite. If someone sends me an invite like that, I'll probably go to the shower and purposely NOT bring what is on the list. Yuck.
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