Gender Disappointment = Depression

I think my GD has taken a turn into the dark world of depression (I've been here before, unfortunately, but not for years). Not only is this pregnancy not exciting for me, I feel down all the time. I have lost my appetite completely, I want to sleep ALL the time. I have no interest in doing anything, I just want to cry. I am obsessed with gender and grief. I thought I was doing better - much better. But in the last couple days...well....it has taken a turn for the worse. Has anyone gone through this?

 I am worried about the impact on DS. He certainly doesn't deserve such a stressful, unhealthy maternity environment.

 I am clinically depressed, and GD certainly didn't help it. My first week after finding out the baby's gender was the worst, and I decided that if I didn't get over it in a week or two I'd see a therapist or other professional about it. For now, I'm mostly better, with occasional moments of quite normal disappointment (knowing me, though, there may be "relapses" at other times, so I'm prepared to find a counselor)

 Are you able to see a therapist? It would probably be a good idea for you and the baby both. Anyway, good luck, I mean that sincerely.

I am seeing a therapist (and ironically, I AM a therapist!). I have considered going back on anti-depressants, but there isn't enough convincing research about their safety, esp. n third trimester, for me to feel okay about it.

 Thanks for your thoughts and well-wishes...

 I haven't gone through it and made it out yet but I am going through it. I too feel bad that my baby has to have such a not so happy maternity environment. I wish it were different, but wishing isn't doing much for me 

My thoughts are truly with you, this is a dark and painful time and I wish you all of the best. 

 Starlight, I'm sure there are some antidepressants you can take during even your third trimester. I am on amitriptyline (spelling?) for migraines and I believe that is an antidepressant although I am on a low dose for pain relief. It is not contraindicated in pregnancy and my doctor is happy for me to take it for another month - possibly another 6 weeks and my baby is due in February. I think with all these things, while take any medication isn't exactly ideal in pregnancy it is also about weighing up your own health and if you are really struggling with depression I believe it would be wise to discuss it with your doctor. I'm so sorry for all you women struggling with GD and depression, I had undiagnosed-PND with my first son and I self-harmed as a teenager and I wish now I had sought help for those horrid dark feelings rather than battling on alone (as I felt I should). Hugs to all who are hurting! 

I am not saying it is not due, at least partially to GD, but I had PND with both my first and third child. Hormones can do some pretty funny things during pregnancy and after birth and sometimes it is this imbalance (together with other things) that can cause PND. I totally blamed my depression on GD with my son but was surprised when I had it with number 3. I hope you seek some help, awareness is a great step forward. With my son, I had no awareness I was so depressed. I hope you find your smile soon as it is a dark place to be.

I had such horrible anxiety/depression after DS #2, that I took meds during my entire pregnancies with DS #3 and DS #4.  Honestly, staying on the meds made a world of difference for me during the pregnancies and for the PPD afterwards.  The PPD I had after DS #2 was so bad I can't even describe it.  In my opinion if you are not wanting to eat or having a hard time getting through the day by day events in life it is definitely worth talking to a doc about to find out if the benefits of meds outweigh the risks.  For me, they most certainly did.