Should I try a fifth time?

I am so conflicted, I do not want a 5th son. I love all my ds so much..... but I have SEVERE gd with my 4th ds. I (and my dh) cannot go threw that again.... there is just no  way. It was such a dark place.... on the other hand I think about "my little girl" an abnormal amount. I dream about her everynight. I think about trying to get pregnant every morning. EVERYTIME I see a litte girl.... i feel a horrible saddness. High tech is out of the question.... so if you were me, would you try? Its really in the next year or never.... and this would be my very last shot. Last night I had a dream I had an ultra sound and they said it was a girl.... and I felt so happy. I bet that feeling would be even better in real life..... ugh.... I feel so messed up inside....

I say if you can afford it then try. But if you are going to resent the next baby then let it go!!! I know this has to be terrible to hear. But you don't want a child to be something of a regret. Here are many for whatever your decision!!

Sounds to me you already have your mind made up.  I dont see anything wrong with trying again.  Im about to try one last time for my girl, we cant have anymore financially.

If you don't mind my asking, why is high tech out of the question?

lisasue2boys:

If you don't mind my asking, why is high tech out of the question?

go high tec

Nope.  Not unless you could go high-tech.  The fact that you do not want a 5th son answers the question...

If you think you'd be really, really devastated with a 5th son, then you're better off adopting a little girl. Have you and your DH ever considered that?

Hi, I think if you read your post carefully you are answering your question yourself.

BoyBoyBoyBoy:

I do not want a 5th son.

Unless you can do high tech I wouldn't risk it, unless you look into adoption.

I have 3 boys from my previous marriage. I don't want another boy therefore PGD is the only way forward.

Good luck, pm anytime you need.

Luci

my husband would never go for it.... he would never go for adoption..... he thinks if we are able to have children naturally then we should. I would adopt in a second.... I would go high tech in a second...

You have a dream that is very, very important to you. This is something that has a huge impact on you and will for the rest of your life. There are ways of guaranteeing that your dream can come true. Your husband needs to understand this. Please work on getting him to understand, and if you can't do it on your own, please seek counseling with a good counselor who will undertand and support you in communicating this to your husband. When one person in a marriage has very strong feelings about something and the other partner doesn't really care, I think the one with the strong feelings should have the choice in that matter.

I would not have another. 

I would only try if you thought you could love another son. I am on baby #5 ( another girl-no boys)! When we were ttc a boy, I thought, I will probabably cry if at my 20 wk u/s it turns out to be a girl. Well, baby was in the wrong pos. At 24 weeks, I found out it was a girl. At that point, I was just relieved to know the gender and I actually had to laugh a little. I am glad I found out so I could call baby by her name and begin bonding. Now I am in love with Maddie (this happened as I felt her move, and thought how cool is it to have all one gender-not everyone does) So if by some plan, it's really a boy.....my head will be all messed up! (I say that b/c my OB did the U/S and usually doesn't do them) I was pretty sure I saw girly bits-but he didn't give us a photo. -and stranger things have happened....)

All this to say, your feelings could change during the course of your pregnancy. If you don't try -you will never know what could be, on the same hand, it would be best if you could love another boy just as much as your others......

 I just wanted to add that most of the high tech stories I know (including mine) started out with a reluctant husband.