UPDATE: I guess I can't be mad at dh anymore.....SCTRACH THAT I"M EVEN MORE PISSED NOW.......So, I'm freaking pi$$ed off at dh! Would u be?

SCRATCH that shit! I'm even more pissed. I went in there when I heard her up playing to get her and I pick her up and there's a damm bottle with what looks like water and he lies and says it was already there he didn't give her one. Bull shit, I took the crib apart because since she started walking now I needed to lower it so I know damm well when I made that bed there wasn't any damm bottles. Then I go the kitchen to see if he had gotten into my stash of bottles which he didn't, but he did go to his families house where he was staying and where half of his stuff still is so I know thats where he got it. Then I notice a koolaid package for lemonade. Wouldn't ya know it, I smell the "water" and it's lemonade!!!!!!!!!!!!!! I don't make lemonade. I hate lemonade. I don't even allow koolaid in my house because of all the carpets I have had to replace from that crap spilling so freaking tell me that bottle was already there when your damm newly opened koolaid wrapper is still on the counter because your too lazy to put it in the trash and let yourself get busted!!!!!!!!! I am pissed if you can't tell.

ETA: Expecting#4, He just may be sleeping in his damm tahoe tonight!

 oh.. my gawd..

he is lying now about putting bottles in her crib.. what the hell. this guy has serious issues..

no wait.. he is acting like a typical guy.. 

i so wish i had some good advice.. other then beating him with the bottle..

Omg I don't know how you can bear it! I had the same problems with my (EX!!!)-partner when I had my first DS (27 weeks pregnant with no 2). My wee boy just didn't sleep well at all, he was a constant guzzler and breastfed round the clock for a year, particularly bad at nights. My ex refused to get up for him crying and just used to mutter that I should, 'give him a boob'. I ended up co-sleeping just so I could feed and roll over and get some sleep again. At a year I wanted to stop feeding cos my breasts were still so sore and my ex still wanted me to feed just so his sleep wasn't disturbed. We split up a little later and now DS is 2 and half and still not a great sleeper but goes down in his own bed now and then comes through sometimes for a cuddle and sometimes sleeps through (does not wake in the night really though). I would be really mad at your DH hun, you've tried so hard to get your baby settled and I think you are entitled to be a bit mad that three times he has put her back to square one out of laziness or wanting an easy life. Be mad! You are entitled!  

Fearymay:

I so wish i had some good advice.. other then beating him with the bottle..

No, that's great advice! I just may try that! A couple of times!

wee1emski:

I would be really mad at your DH hun, you've tried so hard to get your baby settled and I think you are entitled to be a bit mad that three times he has put her back to square one out of laziness or wanting an easy life. Be mad! You are entitled!  

Thank you! Sometimes I think I am just too big of a bitch and I am too mean. Which I'll be the first to admit, My name is Nicki and I am a huge Bitch! LOL, but he so deserves the wrath of Nicki that he is going to get today! And with not one ounce of guilt from me!

 No you are definitely not a bitch, but I am starting to come to the opinion that men are just on another planet. They seem to consistently do and say things to drive us crazy and I'm pretty sure they don't intend to initiate the craziness which makes me think most of them are just pretty stupid lol! If I moan that I feel fat my DP says things like, you're not THAT fat, instead of just pointing out that I'm 27 weeks pregnant. He also struck up a conversation the other night which began, 'wouldn't it be well funny if men had babies instead of women, and they just kind of clawed their way out of our willies, I mean, just imagine that' (URM NO!!!!). So yup, I feel your pain. Make his life hell. Surely eventually he'll realise the hell of getting baby to sleep through night is nothing compared to the constant searing wrath of his wife hee hee. 

wee1emski:

 No you are definitely not a bitch, but I am starting to come to the opinion that men are just on another planet. They seem to consistently do and say things to drive us crazy and I'm pretty sure they don't intend to initiate the craziness which makes me think most of them are just pretty stupid lol! If I moan that I feel fat my DP says things like, you're not THAT fat, instead of just pointing out that I'm 27 weeks pregnant. He also struck up a conversation the other night which began, 'wouldn't it be well funny if men had babies instead of women, and they just kind of clawed their way out of our willies, I mean, just imagine that' (URM NO!!!!). So yup, I feel your pain. Make his life hell. Surely eventually he'll realise the hell of getting baby to sleep through night is nothing compared to the constant searing wrath of his wife hee hee. 

OMG so true! Thanks for laugh! I literally was laughing out loud when I read that clawing out their willies! Def another planet!

I'm so freakin tired! I went to bed 3 hours ago and I am on round 4 with her. The second I finally fall back asleep, she is up and blaring. Then I am about 7 times more tired because it's just teasing my body. It feels like maybe 6 minutes of sleep between falling asleep and before she's up again. All I know is I can't have her like this still when the new baby arrives or I may have to move out! Just kidding, but can you imagine? So, I guess it's worth the torture for THIRD time around thanks to my not so lovely dh. Thank God he has to work tomorrow because I know after about 3 more rounds of this I am going to be fuming at him again and it's not going to be pretty.

 I'm so sorry you're still going through this. Does anything help your DD sleep that would allow you to sleep? What I'm thinking of is that my wee boy will always sleep in my bed, he sleeps in his own now but if he sleeps with me he sleeps straight through as he seems to just want the comfort of having mum close by. I know this isn't an ideal situation but at least maybe this would allow you to get a few nights of sleep, just to recharge your batteries, before doing battle with DD in round three of getting her sleeping through the night (and we know it is indeed a battle with how stubborn kids can be!!!). If DD is waking up looking for a bottle then maybe just have a cup on hand with some water next to you so that if you do wake you can just give it straight to her and hopefully get her settled back down again. I know this will still mean you have to get up but at least if you are in the same bed as DD you will not physically be having to get up and about which might help you feel a bit better and hopefully DD will just snuggle back up with you and go to sleep in she realises you are there with her. I can't believe your DH gave her Kool-aid btw, I'm from the UK but I'm imagining that's some kind of caffeine filled, sugary lemonade drink in which case I'm back to my previous point about men being on another planet! If it helps to give you another laugh, one of DP's recent gems was that he kept going on about having babies stretching women's 'pee holes'. I didn't have a clue what he was on about but it turned out that yep, my 28 year old DP thought that women peed out of their vaginas. I had to get my little sister who is studying medicine to explain it to him, which she could barely do from laughter. He still can't believe that women have three 'openings' down there. I have to say, I thought even his reasoning that he had never studied biology did not really excuse his ignorance. 

Btw, don't know if this would work with your DH but I've heard of some women withholding the 'goods' and after a few weeks without sex sometimes their men are a lot more co-operative! Just a thought lol.  

wee1emski:

I know this isn't an ideal situation but at least maybe this would allow you to get a few nights of sleep, just to recharge your batteries, before doing battle with DD in round three of getting her sleeping through the night (and we know it is indeed a battle with how stubborn kids can be!!!). If DD is waking up looking for a bottle then maybe just have a cup on hand with some water next to you so that if you do wake you can just give it straight to her and hopefully get her settled back down again

I actually did that last night and she did go back to sleep fairly quickly. I just gave her some juice since she was probably dying from thirst from crying, from a sippy cup and held it for her until she was done then took it with me and tucked her back in. She cried still but it was over quick.

wee1emski:

What I'm thinking of is that my wee boy will always sleep in my bed, he sleeps in his own now but if he sleeps with me he sleeps straight through as he seems to just want the comfort of having mum close by

I actually tried 2 nights ago to take her with me and comfort her through the night and let her sleep with me but it made it worse. She cried so bad, probably thinking since I was there I would give in like her dad so that didn't work.

I will say though, her pattern is weird. She wakes up about 4-5 times in the first 3 hours and I think she exhausts herself after that because she only woke up once after the first 3 hours which gave me about 5 hours sleep so it's getting better I just wish she wouldn't fight it so much in the beginning of the night and just sleep. I hate to hear her cry and loose her voice from crying so much. The battles are getting shorter in length thankfully. When she wakes up, I pat her on her back or rub her back for 5 minutes and turn on her music mobile then leave and come back in 10 minutes. Then do it again for 5 min of comforting her then leave and come back in 15 minutes if necessary but the last few nights it hasn't been. Ugh, I am exhausted though.

 Would storybook tapes or music help? Because I suppose you could put that on repeat so it always played if the mobile helps get her back over. Is it really just her waking up for a drink because if you put a bottle (or sippy cup) of water in the cot with her, would she just pick it up herself and drink it because my wee boy did that from quite young, if he was thirsty just got a drink himself and often went back to sleep and would only cry if there wasn't a drink because he was thirsty. I know some people suggest controlled crying, I personally never wanted to use that with my child but maybe if you didn't get up to her right away she might just settle back down (my parents swore by this method, apparently they just used to leave me to cry myself to sleep lol). 

Wow, yes I would be pissed! You are having a terrible time. I am so sorry! Glad you got some sleep finally!

I have been bf for 4.5 months. DH never has to get up. Last weekend I was in dire need of sleep. So he said he would get up and feed the baby in the middle of the night. Great! Usually he only gets up once in the night to eat. He starts crying at 12am, DH gets up and can't get him back down to sleep. Of course he can't DS isn't used to Daddy putting him to bed. I hear him mumble, "I ain't doin' this sh#$ in another 3 hours!" Oh I wanted to smack the cr@p out of him. What the heck did he think I had been doing since he was born??!! Sometimes our DHs just don't have a clue how easy they have it!

wee1emski:

 Would storybook tapes or music help? Because I suppose you could put that on repeat so it always played if the mobile helps get her back over

Maybe I'll try something like that next.

wee1emski:

Is it really just her waking up for a drink because if you put a bottle (or sippy cup) of water in the cot with her, would she just pick it up herself and drink it because my wee boy did that from quite young, if he was thirsty just got a drink himself and often went back to sleep and would only cry if there wasn't a drink because he was thirsty.

No she's crying for a bottle. I only gave her a drink from her sippy cup after about 4 hours of the night and I held it for her until she was done drinking and took it with me. If I left a sippy cup in there I don't if she'd get addicted and need it through the night and I'd just be going through the same thing just with a sippy cup or not. I think that's what would happen though. I need to get her to learn to self soothe herself to sleep without that damm bottle so I don't want to just replace it with a sippy cup ya know?

makelifeeasier:

DH gets up and can't get him back down to sleep. Of course he can't DS isn't used to Daddy putting him to bed. I hear him mumble, "I ain't doin' this sh#$ in another 3 hours!" Oh I wanted to smack the cr@p out of him. What the heck did he think I had been doing since he was born??!! Sometimes our DHs just don't have a clue how easy they have it!

Jeez, don't you love that crap. I swear all men are the same. My dh did that crap too. Sometimes I can't believe that the things he does or says still shock me or make me wonder what damm planet he came from! It's truly amazing sometimes! lol

Ah I see, how rubbish! Well it took me a long time to do battle with my DS but after he is much better now. He found it really hard to self-soothe but once he got a bit older and could sort of understand the concept of sleep he went to sleep much easier. How old is your DD? If she is still quite little I'm afraid it will probably be a hard road ahead for a bit but maybe if she is a year or so you could start maybe getting stories about going to sleep and encouraging her that way (we have this programme over here called 'In the Night Garden' which Logan loves and that certainly helped him to go to sleep lol)? I really hope it gets easier, I think DH needs a sharp wake up call (in the form of a slap, perhaps lol) though because he has certainly made this situation way worse.