How can I get husband to concider adoption???

Hi, does anyone have advice on how I can get my husband to concider adopting a little girl? I have 3 lovely sons and long to complete our family with the addition of a DD, I have always wanted to adopt a child and now I have 3 DS the feeling for a daughter is stronger than ever. I would love to adopt from China, when my youngest is about 3yrs old. I mentioned adoption to my DH who wont even discuss the matter, he just said "if you want to adopt you will have to leave me and do it on your own, there is no way I'm bringing up someone elses child". I got really upset and feel heart broken, he does not want me to mention having a daughter ever again, he said its never going to happen.

I wish I could change his mind, maybe Im fighting a loosing battle, but I dont want to give up, my heart longs for a little girl to love.

Hope someone has advice or maybe is going through something similar.

Thankyou for listening

 I'm still working on my dh, have been for years.  It's off the table at this point since I'm pg, but I'll never give up hope.  Just had to comment on your user name.  My name is Vanessa also and I have a butterfly tattoo on my upper back...well you know why

You have ever right to be really upset and feel heart broken.  We all know we can't change another persons mind.  However, I would insist that my equal, my life partner... sit down and talks to me.  I would expect that adoption and a dd would be discussed in the same manner that all big decision (having children, having more, buying a house...) are discussed.  You may ask him to set some time aside with no interuptions to talk about this.  I would listen like I had never listen before.  I would not open my mouth once expect to say please tell me why you do not want to discuss adopting a daughter.  I may not even talk at this "meeting" unless he says so tell me what you think.  I would just listen and then come back later to talk again.  Good Luck, lets us know how you are doing. 

That is a tough one, since he is so adament and will not talk about it. I agree with Fratmom on what she said.

Please keep us updated!

Hi, thankyou for your advice. I will keep you all updated, but it could be a long wait as Im too scared to mention anything to my DH, I dont want to make the subject of adoption even more of a no go area, so Im bitting my tounge and trying to hold back my emotions for as long as I can. Im praying that in 2yrs time he may start to feel differently.

Vanessa