Anyone have any great ideas for a baby shower gift for friend with serious GD?

I have a df who is expecting ds3.  I know that she has severe GD over this, but hasn't been able to tell many people about it.  I am really struggling over what to buy her for her baby shower.  She didn't even want a shower in the first place but a group of us are just getting together for dinner and a few gifts.  I am so torn as to what to get her!  I don't want it to be something that screams "it's another boy" but I also don't want to be so avoident of the issue that it's obvious to everyone that I am trying to side-step the gender issue.  Any creative suggestions?  Sorry if this is a trivial question for this forum.  I just want to be really supportive of my friend.

What a thoughtful friend you are!  Maybe a charm bracelet with his birthstone, or a personalized blanket (the Little Giraffe ones are AWESOME), or a personalized photo album (with his initials on it).  It never hurts to get a shirt that says "I love mommy".  With my third I was just glad to get a ton of stuff I needed (diapers, gift cards, etc)!  Good luck - I'm sure you'll get lots of good suggestions on here.

That is very thoughtful of you to take in to consideration her gd...she's lucky to have a friend like you :)  With my 3rd, 4th and 5th boys I really wanted lots of diapers, wipes and gift cards...I like the above idea about the charm bracelet...that's a cute idea.  Good luck!

You are such a great friend!  i would reccomend a "baby care" basket with a bunch of supplies like tylenol, rattles, bibs, safety kits, washclothes, etc.  This may not be good if her youngest is still little though - KWIM? 

What a good friend you are. You could get wooden letters for her baby's name and paint them to match her bedding set, baby bathtub, a boppy pillow, or you could get a lined wicker laundry basket and put things for mom to pamper herself ( bubbles, face mask, foot scrub and booties, fingernail polish, a bath pillow or a new robe to wear to hospital). A gift certificate for a pedicure and then offer to babysit while she goes. Toys that hang from the car seat, baby monitor, The best baby on the block book or the book about the 5 baby language words or a book about baby sign language. If you get one of the gifts that is for mom you can do a real girly packaging or something real gender neutral for baby gifts. If you fill the basket then you can just get a white bow for it. I hope this helps you will have to let us know what you decide to get her and how she reacts.

My GD was worse with DS1 and it really helped when I was given gender-neutral gifts and clothing, items in cream or pastel green and yellow, etc. Stuff that wasn't too "manly" ;)

 I LOVED getting outfits for my DS2---as long as they were NOT blue!  Brown, Grey, Black.....

 Also, a new nursing cover was nice, a gift card for getting my hair done, and strangely enough making MYSELF feel more girly as made MY GD soooooooooo much better.  I do my nails more religously, straigten my hair, but on makeup and wear my jewlery all the time!  I am celebrating my queenship in my house of testerone.  Maybe it will help me turn some pink into this house for the future. :)

so thoughtful of you I would go with a gift for her like some suggested above or for the baby something like gift certificate to a photo shoot session.

 A group of girls got me a mother's pendant necklace with all my family's birthstone. I loved it!! I think it was only like 40$..That way it is more of a gift recognizing family and not the gender. Sorry, bad pic, but they have tons of styles out there.

FiveHappyChildren:

 A group of girls got me a mother's pendant necklace with all my family's birthstone. I loved it!! I think it was only like 40$..That way it is more of a gift recognizing family and not the gender. Sorry, bad pic, but they have tons of styles out there.

 

 I love this idea. You are a great friend. My guess is that because this is number 3, she does not really require many clothes so if you are buying for the baby, some neat wooden toys that are gender neutral (and can be kept for his children). I like the above PP suggestion and would get something to cheer her up.

What great ideas.  I knew you ladies could help me out!  I love the idea of making her feel like the "queen of kings".  I think that refreshing some of her baby necessities is a good idea too.  You have given me lots to think about.  Thanks for the sweet comments about being a good friend.  I just want to embrace her as I know a bit of what she is going through.  She really can't talk to anyone and I can tell she feels a bit trapped.  I want her shower to be uplifting and a celebration of her and her new baby, not a reminder of her third boy.  Thanks for understanding! 

You are such a good friend!  I had such bad GD while pg with DS3 and it did not look like I was going to get a shower (I was upset, b/c I knew that had I had a girl this time, I would have gotten a shower, not that I needed one, but it was just another thing to add to my GD and also to see that everyone was disappointed for me that I was not going to get my girl).  However, two of my friends threw me a mini-shower as a surprise during the last couple wks of my pregnancy (they did it during a playdate, so it was cute, b/c our kids were all involved too and were very excited about the cake and they got them favors, etc.) and I was so touched.  They did not get me anything really fancy, but the things they got me were wrapped up very beautifully in pretty paper and ribbon and boxed up.  I would say that you should go with something indulgent for this mom, maybe a pretty diaper bag (one that doesn't look like a diaper bag), baby legs, Paul Frank has really cute boy clothes, organic rattles, burt's bees products, etc..  She HAS all the boy stuff at home, and while practical gifts are nice, she needs something extra special to cheer her up and help her feel excited about this baby and also to know that her friends care for and love her.  It's so sweet that you are doing this for her.  I can guarantee it will bring a tear to her eye!

how about a gender neutral baby book or photo album just for this baby? i know it's helping me be happy about my ds2 because i am concentrating on his uniqueness :-)

I would get some nice gender neutral clothings...maybe even a diaper bag..

babybloos:

A gift certificate for a pedicure and then offer to babysit while she goes.

BEST. IDEA. EVER.