Mommy Mayhem

Re: Im struggling....

Clarebear — Mon, 27 Jul 2009 19:09:09 GMT

Thanks so much everyone for yor replys, it helps so much to know I am not alone in this and have a spport network in you ladies

Re: Im struggling....

Kathea — Mon, 27 Jul 2009 11:43:11 GMT

Re: Im struggling....

daniellek125 — Mon, 27 Jul 2009 11:30:11 GMT

I am actually looking at the baskets of laundry all around my living room right now that are clean and need to be folded. But my older kids are going to camp this week ( a little break for mommy in the middle of the summer!). So, I will be able to get them done.

Have you tried just taking a few days and keep putting the older two back to bed until an acceptable time (like 6 or 7) to kind of train them to sleep in a little more. I have never had 3 under 5, but I can imagine it is so difficult. I hope things get a bit easier for you!

Re: Im struggling....

chooks**boys — Mon, 27 Jul 2009 10:56:29 GMT

You are definately not alone. I was in the same circumstances not so long ago. Newborn, a ds2 who got up at 430am every morning. It was terrible so I can completely empathise with you. It does get easier as your kids start to sleep in. Ours still get up between 6-6:30am but that is way better than 4am. I was so exhausted. I tried putting the kids to bed later. Did not work for me They just woke up earlier and grumpier. I think age just helped. Try blocking out their windows so no light can get in. As for the laundry etc. Forget about it. Even now I fold several baskets of laundry only to have several more to appear the same day. Just do what you can. Housework will always be there. Get rest instead. Are your two eldest in daycare? Can you afford to put them in for maybe one day a week to get some time and maybe some rest? (((hugs))) I know it's hard, it does get easier as they get older, especially sleep wise

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D_J_M_ — Mon, 27 Jul 2009 05:41:43 GMT

You're so not alone!! My oldest just turned 5, then I have an almost 3 year old and a 7 month old. The baby still wakes twice a night, and my middle son likes to wake up early (although not quite as early as yours). I'm drowning in housework. It helps to remember that this really is just a short time in my life. Before I know it the kids will be so big. Hang in there!!

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Classic_Movie_Queen — Mon, 27 Jul 2009 04:49:49 GMT

You are TOTALLY not alone!! I have no family nearby, either, and feel like I am doing all the day-to-day stuff on my own. DH does a wonderful job taking care of us, but the household stuff-cooking, cleaning, childcare, laundry, etc. is all on me. It gets overwhelming at times. I feel like I can never get it all done, and I tend to get really stressed out when the house is a mess. I'm a neat-freak, and I wish I wasn't! I am trying to work on that, but it is hard. I don't stop from the minute I get out of bed in the morning until after the kids have eaten dinner and bathed. There is always something. Having to sit down and nurse the baby really helps me to calm down and relax, so that is my favorite part of the day. I am pretty good about getting the laundry done, but it's the little messes that pile up everywhere. Toys, legos, papers, books...kids just leaving stuff EVERYWHERE. I feel like I am constantly bending over and picking things up, and they are right behind me, messing it all up again! I'm really glad that the weather is nice now, so I can send them outside and keep the house neat at least for awhile! I've realized that something has to give though. I can't stress out about everything, or that's all I will be doing. I try to just take it a bit at a time and work on one chore, rather than looking at all the things I need to do, which does nothing but overwhelm me. I do not want to spend my whole life cleaning and not playing with my kids, so I'm learning to relax my standards a bit.

Tamara:
I told dh being a mom of 3 kids is easy, being a maid of 3 kids is a NIGHTMARE!

SO TRUE!!!

Re: Im struggling....

oh4agirl — Mon, 27 Jul 2009 04:34:00 GMT

I would say you ARE pretty special, i don't know how you do it!! Are the kids that are waking that early still sleeping during the day, and if they are, could you cut out that sleep, so they stay in bed longer in the mornings? I don't have experience with 3 under 5, but I can imagine what it's like!

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Tamara — Mon, 27 Jul 2009 01:51:36 GMT

I LOVE having 3 kids, but the house work has severely suffered. I can't keep up. I want to play with my kids instead of clean all the time. Laundry piles up very fast. I told dh being a mom of 3 kids is easy, being a maid of 3 kids is a NIGHTMARE! We eat out now more than ever, just to avoid the mess.

Im struggling....

Clarebear — Mon, 27 Jul 2009 01:42:40 GMT

I really feel like I am struggling at the moment. I have 3 kids under 5, 2 of them wake so flippin early it is still night time (anywhere between 4.30 and 5.30am!) every morning and the baby is up twice in the night and she is over 6 months old!! I also work part time and my DH is out 3-4 evenings a week with his band and gets home around 3am so he is dealing with his own tiredness issues, i dont feel like i am getting much support. We have no family in the area, i have a great group of friends but they all have their own families to take care of so i dont want to burden any of them with my problems.

There are never enough hours in the day to get all the housework done, there is a constant pile of washing in need of folding in the basket and the dirty washing basket is always full as well. I need sleeeeeeeeeeppppppppppp and some time out but neither is on the adgenda anytime soon i know these are all common complaints and that i am not so special, I just want to hear that it will get better and that I am not the only one out there feeling overwhelmed by how much is going on in their life at the moment!