Gender Disappointment

Re: worried what people will say!

newbaby2011 — Thu, 22 Dec 2011 23:02:23 GMT

same thing happened to me. my family caught wind that i was pregnant with number 6 and they went crazy. "are you stupid? what the hell is wrong with you? you know its another girl? why are your 5 kids not good enough for you? you belong in a mental ward?

i few weeks later i started bleeding and then it got worse, "thank goodness! its such a blessing you lost your baby you don't need anymore kids."

im not trying to have a boy anymore. after you bury a child you don't care what the gender is as long as it survives. the phrase, "i don't want to live without a little girl." is iffy. i know you want a daughter and i know the pain of wanting that gender. when i found out number 5 was another girl i cried and cried and i said the same thing, its not a boy, i don't care anymore. then i went into labor and she was born at 22 weeks. she was alive and kicking and trying so hard to cry, her eyes were still fused but doctor didn't even try because she wasn't viable until 25 weeks, so i held her for 2 hours until she passed away. then i said the same thing, " i don't want to live without my daughter." but the truth was i had 4 kids at home who needed me and i had to be strong for them. so yes i know how it feels to want to die but we have kids at home who need their mother. ironcially we swayed boy once more and got twin girls after that.

Re: worried what people will say!

Never123 — Thu, 22 Dec 2011 22:21:35 GMT

Hey hun I remember you posting about your fourth wee boy, glad he is such a joy not that I expected any different with such a lovely mummy. I am 25 and have three wee boys. We will prob sway pink in July/August time. If I have a girl we may be done but honestly I want five kids, have always wanted 5 kids, and I do not want any children after I'm 30! I know my parents want me to be done but y'know, it is only me and my partner's decision. I say go for it!

Re: worried what people will say!

GlutenFreeGal — Thu, 22 Dec 2011 16:40:08 GMT

Who cares what people think!! Everyone has the choice to live their life the way they choose, and if you want to be responsible for 5 children, that's your decision alone. And really 5 kids is not that big of a family. If you act mature and confident in your decision and not act apologetic about it then people will typically be respectful. And the ones who aren't are just jerks anyway!

Re: worried what people will say!

lalafrank — Thu, 22 Dec 2011 16:10:49 GMT

Ha! You are not alone. I have four boys to and have convienced my husband to try one more time for a girl. We are also doing a girl sway. Hope it works I am so scared. We start our sway in January 2012. Like you I did fear what ppl ( family, friends, etc) would think of us having one more child but now I could give a rats a**. Its my life and I only live once plus we financially support our children without help from anyone so it is our choice.

Re: worried what people will say!

linedancequeen — Thu, 22 Dec 2011 13:12:29 GMT

aww thanks very much for that hun xx

Re: worried what people will say!

littlechicks — Thu, 22 Dec 2011 12:51:05 GMT

Stuff what people think - this is your life, you have to wake up in your shoes everyday and you have a whole team of like-minded friends on here who have all been the victim of GD a lot of whom, still are. We're all behind you. Chase your dream - if you want a girl, go out and get her. GOOD LUCK x

worried what people will say!

linedancequeen — Thu, 22 Dec 2011 12:25:29 GMT

Hi everyone.i havent been on this site for a long time and i suffered very very badly when i was carrying my 4th boy.He is now 1 year old and the apple of my eye.he is an angel, the most perfect baby in the whole world and i have been truly blessed to have him.All of my boys are amazing (and although at times very hard work) i wouldnt change them for the world.I have decided i cannot face my life without a little girl in it.i want to enjoy the mother/daughter bond, i want to beable to buy pretty clothes, play with girls toys with her, do hair etc.I feel very alone having 4 boys at times as they tend to do alot of 'boy' stuff with my hubby.im very girly and really not into camping, boys programmes or toys tbh!! I have managed to convince my husband to try one last time for a little girl and i am doing the dieting, positions, ovulation etc etc to try and get my girl.BUT, i am so worried about what people will think of me!People will think im mad and probably talk about me.i know it sounds stupid but i dont want people to think im one of these 'young mums' who just keeps producing babies (im nearly 29).we have a 4 bed house and a 7 seater car so that isnt a problem.please help!!!!!