Gender Disappointment

Re: Glad to have found this forum. New to GD

mrsris — Sun, 30 Oct 2011 23:50:22 GMT

Welcome! I personally love having three daughters! I know it is hard to adjust when you were hoping for one gender and get the opposite. Good luck to you,

Re: Glad to have found this forum. New to GD

peaceandlove — Sun, 30 Oct 2011 23:45:09 GMT

Thank you for your reply pstar32. I know by the time the birth comes I'll be totally ready to welcome our baby girl.

Re: Glad to have found this forum. New to GD

pstar32 — Sat, 29 Oct 2011 21:28:16 GMT

Hiya you know since I found ingender I have noticed that soooo many people IRL have GD in some shape or form. I think it's natural because it makes us reproduce more than we would otherwise. I met my cousin today and she had girls halloween costumes with a football team logo her two girls. Her husband is football mad and is always trying to put jerseys on them, that's gender related! My other cousin just found out that he's having another girl and he is obviously disappointed, he won't say but he is planning his boys room in his house already. My friend is having her 4th and had a girl and two boys. Because she had the perfect pair first she never had to think about GD, but I strongly sense this time that she is hoping that it's another girl. Two neighbours of mine are very open about it. One has two girls and desperately wants a boy and the other had two boys and told me openly that she cried when the 2nd was delivered. The latter has gone on to have a girl. I was shocked when she told me as I was pregnant at the time, but now I think she's great for being so honest. My best friend has one of each. She always wanted a boy and said openly that she thought I would have one and she wouldn't and told me she was relieved when she did. I always wanted a girl and like you had two amazingly gorgeous boys, the opposite of what I wanted. I still want a girl, I would love a girl. I had no sisters and always wanted one. My best friend had 2 sisters and always wanted a brother. So maybe that's where it comes from. I always thought she was so lucky to have sisters and NEVER thought aw her poor mam having 3 girls. I did look at women with 3 boys and think that though (before I had any). But you know what, great things come in 3s and I'm looking forward to meeting my 3rd little man if I'm lucky enough to get him. My mam said that there is no difference in how you love your kids regardless of their gender and I think that is why people with both sometimes don't understand GD. Cause once you have both you realise that you love them all the same. I think 3 girls is fantastic, you're very lucky. My friend's family are so close. Mine are too but the three girls and her mam and dad are always together. The girls are best friends and they're gorgeous. I know people look at her mam and dad with envy that they have such a beautiful close family. Make that your focus!! Also if this is your last baby relish having a new one in the house. Cause babies all look the same, bald, toothless, and utterly adorable.

Glad to have found this forum. New to GD

peaceandlove — Sat, 29 Oct 2011 20:15:09 GMT

I don't feel like anyone IRL would understand so I'm glad to have this forum to chat with other moms about GD. I'm due in March. I swayed for a boy this time. I found out that I'm having my 3rd girl. With my first 2 dd's, we didn't find out the sex until birth. This time I REALLY wanted to know, which is strange because it didn't bother me to not know in advance with my other 2. But then I thought that I didn't want to have GD at the birth and that if it was a girl that I wanted to get used to the idea during the rest of the pregnancy. This baby will be our last. I thought I would have a boy ever since I was a kid. I felt 99% sure it was a boy this time (just like the other 2 previous times)...and just like I had envisioned since I was a kid. I feel terrible thinking that I'm disappointed to be blessed to have another girl. I ADORE my girls and love, love, love them and feel blessed to having another baby but still, it's hard to give up that dream of having a son. DH wants it to be a surprise and I won't be sharing the gender w/ anyone so I'm the only one who knows. On the u/s it was clearly a healthy little girl. Also, if anyone has 3 girls, tell me all the great things about having more than 2 girls...besides sharing of clothes or dressing them the same :) Trying to change the mental pictures I had in my mind and hype myself up for having 3 girlies :)