Gender Disappointment

Re: In Gender seems to have many large families your choice or did GD have any factor in your family size?

cupcake7 — Thu, 25 Feb 2010 13:40:08 GMT

Vickieh1981:
I always wanted three and got my girl on the third baby. I also have a stepson so it was three boys then a girl. I then just felt I wasn't done and wanted anotherbaby of whatever sex. When I found I was having a boy I got GD which shocked me completely as I didn't think I minded at all. He is just the most precious wonderful little boy ever and I can't imagine feeling that way now. Then we fell pregnant while bfing and I had not restarted my periods but we miscarried and I was desperate for one more. I must admit since I am sure this is the last and dh is going for the snip after the birth that I would love another girl but whatever happens happens. I love having a big family and 6 will be just great.

oh wow didnt realise you were pregnant i must have missed your bfp post huge congrats Hope its a little pink one for you

xxxx

Re: In Gender seems to have many large families your choice or did GD have any factor in your family size?

Vickieh1981 — Wed, 24 Feb 2010 20:59:21 GMT

love-my-kids:
Yes it did! I always wanted a big family (or bigger I was only 1 of 2) but I started off thinking we would have 2. 1 boy and 1 girl of course! And when baby #2 ended up a boy I wanted 3 bbG... Got what I wanted yay BUT then I wanted a sister for my dd NOPE another precious little boy!!!!! So now I have boy, boy, girl, boy, and my attempt at another girl for #5 resulted in yet ANOTHER sweet little boy!!! So now I know that no matter what i'll be 100% done with #6 but still REALLY want 1 more girl and for my daughter to have a sister but I know if I try as hard as I know I will for a girl next time and it's a boy i'll be crushed for a while so im not sure?

That's what we are hoping for - a sister for Jessica but I know after my 20 week scan I will be having another boy so will have the same as you boy boy girl boy boy. Still our little girls will be totally spoiled hey? I am definitely done after this one no matter what it is.

Re: In Gender seems to have many large families your choice or did GD have any factor in your family size?

Star-30 — Wed, 24 Feb 2010 20:45:35 GMT

My GD didnt hit home hard until i had my 3rd ds. I sometimes wish we had stoped at 3 for numerous reasons, the main being our 4th was born at 28wks and we had an awful time. However we fell pg with num 5 by suprise and after a very scary pg had a healthy baby boy at 36 wks(after p.e set in) We both really really want a girl.We cant afford pgd and i feel very confused by the info on here on how to get a girl We still un-decided whether or not to go for a 6th and final baby.

But in answer to the original question..... no i dont think we would have had since a big family if num2 or 3 baby had been a girl.

Re: In Gender seems to have many large families your choice or did GD have any factor in your family size?

love-my-kids — Tue, 23 Feb 2010 04:45:50 GMT

Yes it did! I always wanted a big family (or bigger I was only 1 of 2) but I started off thinking we would have 2. 1 boy and 1 girl of course! And when baby #2 ended up a boy I wanted 3 bbG... Got what I wanted yay BUT then I wanted a sister for my dd NOPE another precious little boy!!!!! So now I have boy, boy, girl, boy, and my attempt at another girl for #5 resulted in yet ANOTHER sweet little boy!!! So now I know that no matter what i'll be 100% done with #6 but still REALLY want 1 more girl and for my daughter to have a sister but I know if I try as hard as I know I will for a girl next time and it's a boy i'll be crushed for a while so im not sure?

Re: In Gender seems to have many large families your choice or did GD have any factor in your family size?

Vickieh1981 — Mon, 22 Feb 2010 21:58:00 GMT

I always wanted three and got my girl on the third baby. I also have a stepson so it was three boys then a girl. I then just felt I wasn't done and wanted anotherbaby of whatever sex. When I found I was having a boy I got GD which shocked me completely as I didn't think I minded at all. He is just the most precious wonderful little boy ever and I can't imagine feeling that way now. Then we fell pregnant while bfing and I had not restarted my periods but we miscarried and I was desperate for one more. I must admit since I am sure this is the last and dh is going for the snip after the birth that I would love another girl but whatever happens happens. I love having a big family and 6 will be just great.

Re: In Gender seems to have many large families your choice or did GD have any factor in your family size?

aniakonda — Mon, 22 Feb 2010 10:09:48 GMT

I never would have had so many kids if I hadnt had GD with 5 of them! how unlucky is that! wheres the 50/50% chance in my case - thanks god NOT!

btw Pinktastic you were great in the documentry and I totally relate to the US moment I had tears in my eyes for you it brought back to me how I felt! congrats on the baby though hes around the same age as my DD - maybe we should do a swap as im not far from you in Sheffield lol

Re: In Gender seems to have many large families your choice or did GD have any factor in your family size?

pinktastic — Sun, 21 Feb 2010 14:28:24 GMT

GD is the one & only reason why I have such a large family!

I only ever wanted 1 child, a girl !

It is lots of fun though & I adore my boys ! x

Re: In Gender seems to have many large families your choice or did GD have any factor in your family size?

cupcake7 — Sun, 21 Feb 2010 14:24:03 GMT

kellypalmer:

Mixture, my Grandma had four boys in a row and then her 5th and 6th were girls. Then she had a surprise baby many years later, a 7th boy. Any who, my aunt that was my Grandma's first dd is always encouraging me to have more children. She'll say, "grandma wouldn't have me if she didn't keep going", lol.

LOL thats weird because I ALWAYS have this niggling feeling we may have a 7th child and it be a little boy even though my DH is ment to having a Vasectomy maybe we will have a complete surprise many years down the line

Re: In Gender seems to have many large families your choice or did GD have any factor in your family size?

Self Absorbed — Sat, 20 Feb 2010 23:58:48 GMT

Secretlysad:

If DS2 would have been a girl I would have gotten my tubes tied. Instead, I had a twinge of doubt and didn't do it. Then 11 years later (after halfway coming to terms with my GD) I ended up pregnant (surprise) with DS3. We only planned on two but after DS3 was born (12-28-09) I got "girl fever" again and didn't have them tied (I'm 40 - I must be crazy). We only planned on two but both of us want a girl so bad but are afraid of getting yet another boy.

Thank God, someone else just like me! Due in Summer, will be 40 at end of year and I think I'll be like you once it's over.....girl fever....will only do HT if I still have the urge early next year.....pretty much resolved on the 3 boys at the moment.

Had I not had pregnancy problems....would definitely had 4-5, especially having 3 boys...would have probably tried for a girl a couple of more times. Too old, and too sick/laid up during pregnancy to do it again without guarantees.

Re: In Gender seems to have many large families your choice or did GD have any factor in your family size?

modernmother — Sat, 20 Feb 2010 23:48:57 GMT

That's a tough question. Large families are definitely encouraged in our church but it's still rare to see families with more than four children. I come from 6(four boys and two girls) and DH comes from 2 (both boys). We discussed having kids before we were married and agreed on having 3. And honestly if Oliver had been a girl I don't know if we would have adopted Rani. I was able to use my GD to convince DH that we HAD to adopt (it had been on my heart for 4 years before that). I don't know if I would have convinced him otherwise. At one point (after adopting DD) I wanted to adopt a bunch more and maybe have double digits. But after 4 failed adoption attempts (various reasons) and a surprise pregnancy (boy) I have started to cut back on how many I am willing to have. DH was done after the first two boys! He will be ecstatic when I finally admit that I am happy with the number of children we have. I really hope this is it though because pregnancy is really hard on me and I get so emotional that it's tough on them.

Re: In Gender seems to have many large families your choice or did GD have any factor in your family size?

Secretlysad — Sat, 20 Feb 2010 20:28:57 GMT

If DS2 would have been a girl I would have gotten my tubes tied. Instead, I had a twinge of doubt and didn't do it. Then 11 years later (after halfway coming to terms with my GD) I ended up pregnant (surprise) with DS3. We only planned on two but after DS3 was born (12-28-09) I got "girl fever" again and didn't have them tied (I'm 40 - I must be crazy). We only planned on two but both of us want a girl so bad but are afraid of getting yet another boy.

Re: In Gender seems to have many large families your choice or did GD have any factor in your family size?

janeinga — Sat, 20 Feb 2010 15:48:09 GMT

My Mom had 4, 2 of each, so that's what I saw myself having. I kept going 'til I got my (at least) 2 of each. DH is an only, so he knew he wanted at least 2. He definitely evolved to lots of kids. (He wants a #7.) So yes, we have 6 b/c of gd.

Re: In Gender seems to have many large families your choice or did GD have any factor in your family size?

drnmd1216 — Sat, 20 Feb 2010 14:26:24 GMT

I always wanted a decent amount of kids. I ihate to admit, BUT if one of my twins had been a girl, I am pretty sure I would not be pregnant with my 6th. When I had my girls, I was very anti-pink and all that jazz....and all I wanted was one last little girl to really enjoy! We didn't find out the sex of our twins our last pregnancy and during my postpartum period, I had a hard time adjusting to the fact that I hadn't had the girl I was sure I was having. We had a ROUGH delivery with my twins, so I didn't want to do again AT ALL (all c-sections)....but we eventually felt this last little person tugging on our souls and we were 110% convinced THIS was our girl! I bought girly stuff and we went through HECK the beginning of the pregnancy (told first that pregnancy would need to be terminated bc it was suspected baby in my scar and then told I was almost definately miscarrying bc of huge hemmorhage that had partially separated sac from wall of uterus/causing sac to drop down lower in uterus). After all that, I was sure this little girl was meant to be! And then I went to yet another ultrasound at 14 weeks to hear "its a boy". It took me a few weeks to get over that. It was REALLY bad. I was wondering why I hadn't miscarried...just bad thoughts that I didn't like having and I hate to think I had. :(

I had my big ultrasound, heard "its definately a boy" again and got to watch my little miracle moving around on the screen. And I finally felt peace and love on my heart. And as much as I HATE buying all the boring blue baby clothes again, for the last time, I can now see what a gift this little life has been. This little boy may have "used" me and my desire to have one last girl to get into this world, but I will be forever grateful for it. I already feel like my life has been changed by this life lesson; we may not have gotten what we wanted, but we DID get what we needed. I feel content now. And this baby has made it through heck to get here-he is going to be one VERY special addition/completition to our family!

Re: In Gender seems to have many large families your choice or did GD have any factor in your family size?

Melody2008 — Sat, 20 Feb 2010 10:25:58 GMT

I would have probably would have three. But I am going for fourth at the ripe age of 41 years of age using High Tech. But in saying I love having a big family!!! Mel xoxoox

Re: In Gender seems to have many large families your choice or did GD have any factor in your family size?

kellypalmer — Sat, 20 Feb 2010 00:48:07 GMT