Pre-TTC

Re: Praying for #4 to be a GIRL!

xokatietatie — Tue, 20 Dec 2011 03:39:13 GMT

Hi there, poohbear83 -- thanks for commenting. I will have to check out cranberries. Thanks for that tip. I'm willing to try anything!

Re: Praying for #4 to be a GIRL!

poohbear83 — Tue, 20 Dec 2011 03:18:18 GMT

Hi there I read you post, and I think I've felt the same way at times. I just wanted to wish you luck on your journey, and give my experience. I found this site after my fourth child, a boy, was born. I love him very much, and wasn't truly dispappointed that he was a boy (I didn't find out beforehand) but I knew I wanted to Try for a girl. I read a lot on here, though not everything, and started loading up on cranberries and calcium. I took the timing into considerations, and attempted to cut off at least two days beforehand, but eventually gave that up when I wasn't falling pregnant. I cut back on salt, but other then that didn't really worry too much about diet. I had started to relax a bit on even that when I did fall pregnant. I had a girl. This time, I don't know what I'm having yet, but I did the cranberries and calcium, no salt, no red meat, I was very strict on diet. I didn't even think about the timing, other then to make sure we dtd every other day. The part I wanted to share was actually more about the cranberries. I was chatting with a friend of mine, who had three boys, then two girls after thinking she'd never see pink. She has suffered from recurrent uti and switched to using cranberry juice (the real stuff, not ocean spray or sweetened) and dried cranberries. My main snack foods while ttc both times. I knew this, and asked he when she'd started doing that, and explained why. Turns out, she Did start that right after her last son was born, and has used those ever since. She said she's not a huge milk drinker, and tries not to overload on it while on cranberries because it can cause kidney stones, so just a glass here and there, usually a yogurt a day, and other dairy occasionally. No, I'm not saying cranberry is the key, but I did think it interesting! Also, if nothing else, I thought it gave me a it more hope that maybe swaying does work, at least for this of us who are changing our bodies from the normal? Maybe! Oh!! I also have a friend with four girls and one boy, and when she got pregnant with him, she had been doing the special k diet, which fits well with swaying!

Praying for #4 to be a GIRL!

xokatietatie — Tue, 20 Dec 2011 02:22:51 GMT

I just joined this site, but I really want to share more about myself and my feelings about having a daughter...

I got pregnant with my oldest son when I was 18 years old. I was not married. I was not even really with the father. When I found out I was pregnant, I was terrified. Once I got over the shock, I decided I wanted a boy... I was having a boy, that was that. There was no convincing me otherwise. Halfway through my pregnancy, it was confirmed I was having a boy. I can remember when I first laid eyes on him. I didn't know it was possible to feel a love so strong.

A few years later I got married to a wonderful man and we decided to have another baby. This time around I wanted a daughter, but deep down felt as though it was another boy. When the ultrasound confirmed it was a boy, I felt sad... but not quite sad enough to consider it true gender disappointment. Just like with my oldest, I was head over heels with my second child as soon as I saw him.

Fast forward another couple years, and my husband and I found out we were expecting our third. This time around I really wanted a girl. The pregnancy was different, and I thought for sure it was a girl. I just knew it. I can remember telling my husband I was excited for the ultrasound tech to confirm we were going to have a little girl when the day of our ultrasound came. For the weeks before that I had dreams nightly about this little lady in our family. She was so real to me. I was devastated when the tech told us we were having a boy. I couldn't believe it. I couldn't even say anything, I just cried. For the remainder of the pregnancy, I cried almost daily... sometimes multiple times. I prayed to God, crying out to him, begging him to let my child be a girl. I hoped and prayed the ultrasound tech had been wrong. I was so angry. I was so hurt. I mourned the loss of a little girl that never existed. It was an all-time low for me. But when the day came the my youngest was born, it all changed. Again, I was in love as soon as I saw my baby.

Now, my husband and I are about to TTC #4... and I desperately want a girl. This is our last child. We will not go on for #5. I am so scared I will have another boy. I know I would love him, just as I do his older brothers... but my heart aches for a daughter. When friends of mine have girls, I am happy for them... but secretly I find myself extremely jealous and full of envy. When I see girl clothing in stores, it's all I can do to keep myself from crying. I want so badly to have a little girl to call my own, and pray everyday hoping the Lord will answer my prayers.

Reading some of the posts on here from the women who have successfully conceived girls is encouraging for me to read. At the same time, it is very confusing. I am not great with all the abbreviations. (I have the abbreviation page bookmarked and have to refer to it quite often while reading posts on here.) I don't know which is better, Shettles of O+12. I can't decide if douching is taking it too far or not. I don't know if we're supposed to abstain for days or try daily. I don't know. I just don't know.

I will continue to read everything I can on this site though.

I am going to try my hardest to understand what I need to do to conceive a little girl.

Please wish me luck, I'm going to need it.