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Re: when did everyone announce their pregnancy???

wounded_healer. — Mon, 02 Jan 2012 14:37:19 GMT

LoveMy3CutiesLB&H:
Newbaby: Unfortunately, my family didn't wait until the 3rd-they were rude even when I was pregnant with my second boy =(. I knew very well what was in store if I was pregnant with our third boy and that's why we chosen not to tell until we knew the gender. What I had planned was to have a name, clothing, and other things for our families to get excited over. I also wanted to have time to prepare myself emotionally to tell them as forcefully as possible that we were thrilled with a healthy baby. Not only that, I think the reaction from strangers was even worse. I got so many comments about how "you already suffered through one boy so this better be your girl" and the like. I even had one person tell me when I was in my 3rd trimester that it wasn't too late to abort my second son. Even if my third (or o.p) had been a boy I didn't have to suffer through the "this better be a girl" comments. Waiting gave me the opportunity to know either way and prepare for comments. People just suck and they should keep their comments to themselves! =(

ya I remember your father was an arse to you from what you said in your posts....I always waited to see the heartbeat before I announced...I told my mom usually right away tho...ppl just assumed after 3 boys my 4th would be a boy...as I was following the grandmothers curse(dh's g-ma had 4 boys)

Re: when did everyone announce their pregnancy???

LoveMy3CutiesLB&H — Sun, 01 Jan 2012 03:11:31 GMT

Newbaby: Unfortunately, my family didn't wait until the 3rd-they were rude even when I was pregnant with my second boy =(. I knew very well what was in store if I was pregnant with our third boy and that's why we chosen not to tell until we knew the gender. What I had planned was to have a name, clothing, and other things for our families to get excited over. I also wanted to have time to prepare myself emotionally to tell them as forcefully as possible that we were thrilled with a healthy baby. Not only that, I think the reaction from strangers was even worse. I got so many comments about how "you already suffered through one boy so this better be your girl" and the like. I even had one person tell me when I was in my 3rd trimester that it wasn't too late to abort my second son. Even if my third (or o.p) had been a boy I didn't have to suffer through the "this better be a girl" comments. Waiting gave me the opportunity to know either way and prepare for comments. People just suck and they should keep their comments to themselves! =(

Re: when did everyone announce their pregnancy???

pretty_in_pink — Wed, 28 Dec 2011 19:51:47 GMT

just an update- we announced on xmas and everyone was thrilled!!! i was worried for nothing! :)

Re: when did everyone announce their pregnancy???

pretty_in_pink — Wed, 21 Dec 2011 03:19:11 GMT

Thanks for these posts- I think that is an adorable idea! I would love to just hold off a little bit longer. I do imagine how exciting it would be to announce it that way if I got a girl- but it is a good point it won't have the same thrill if it is a 3rd boy. i am thrilled but i mean the reactions i will get. it's sad because i would adore another baby boy,... the main thing that will kill me is having everyone "feel sorry" for me as if it's a curse. i hate the "better luck next time" comments. and even if they don't say it I always see it on their face. why is having all the same gender something people think should be pitied? I could always just announce it and tell them I'm not finding out until birth- that might get them off my back a little. I still want to wait- the fact that my mom doesn't know is killing me. But how can I ask to tell my family and not my husbands? It's just not fair so it's all or nothing.... ugh.

Re: when did everyone announce their pregnancy???

newbaby2011 — Wed, 21 Dec 2011 00:45:30 GMT

thats a cute idea and i get what you are saying but you got a girl. what if o.p gets another boy? when you start having 3 and 4 and even 5 of the same gender people start thinking you are pathetic for even trying anymore. and yes some peopl espicially family members can be hurtful and rude. im sure her family might be thrilled if she could announce she were having a girl but when you have to come out and say yes its a 3rd boy/girl. people stop congratulating you and just say oh im sorry.

Re: when did everyone announce their pregnancy???

LoveMy3CutiesLB&H — Tue, 20 Dec 2011 23:16:41 GMT

I was EXACTLY in your place 2 years ago. I found out I was pregnant in October and we kept it a secret until January. I had an early m/c the pregnancy before and wanted to wait until at least 12 weeks before we told anyone. I had 2 little boys and didn't want to hear the comments either so I convinced my very unwilling husband to keep it a secret for another 3 weeks until we could get a private gender scan. We announced at the end of December/early January with a picture of our bfp pregnancy test, the u/s profile picture, and the u/s potty shot along with a "little sister" onsie. It was awesome and we never had to hear any negative comments! At the time I wondered about keeping our pregnancy a secret too but I was sooooo glad that I did!

Re: when did everyone announce their pregnancy???

pretty_in_pink — Tue, 20 Dec 2011 03:48:46 GMT

I hope I can too- i can only come up with so many excuses to turn down that glass of wine all the time esp. for the holidays! once it got so awkward i had to just accept the glass and my husband would gulp it every few minutes so i could just walk around with it....talk about exhausting! i really just don't want the comments bringing me down. good luck to you and congrats! i hope we get our girls :) maybe i can smuggle some grape juice in my purse and swap it out in the bathroom! hahaha. ;)

Re: when did everyone announce their pregnancy???

PrayingForaDaughter — Tue, 20 Dec 2011 03:36:56 GMT

I just found out that Im pregnant with #5 and Im planning on waiting untill we know the gender to tell people. I just dont want to deal with all the comments either. I hope I can pull it off for that long.

Re: when did everyone announce their pregnancy???

pretty_in_pink — Tue, 20 Dec 2011 03:17:30 GMT

yes- thank you!!!!! that is EXACTLY what i mean!!!!!! it' nice to hear someone else did the same thing.... i really want to wait it out i think!

Re: when did everyone announce their pregnancy???

newbaby2011 — Tue, 20 Dec 2011 02:04:31 GMT

with my last i only told a few people until i was 20 weeks. then i didn't have to hear all the gender crap about "i bet you are dying for a boy!" or "good lord why even try you know its just another girl." "or actually i hope its another girl because i would feel so sorry for any son living in your house with all those sisters!"

then i just said look im pregnant im 20 weeks and yes its another girl. sorry i didn't tell you sooner but i wanted to enjoy my pregnancy and not listen to comments.

Re: when did everyone announce their pregnancy???

pretty_in_pink — Mon, 19 Dec 2011 20:48:36 GMT

thanks for responding...i guess i'll have to talk to DH again and see what he thinks.... i know he wants to tell but i also know he will tell me whatever i want to do is fine...

Re: when did everyone announce their pregnancy???

countryma119 — Mon, 19 Dec 2011 15:31:26 GMT

Just a lurker but I would say if it is stressing you out this much already then I would wait until after christmas. Congrats on your pregnancy btw and good luck!

Re: when did everyone announce their pregnancy???

pretty_in_pink — Mon, 19 Dec 2011 14:24:45 GMT

anyone? xmas is in 6 days and i'm really stressed over this...

when did everyone announce their pregnancy???

pretty_in_pink — Mon, 19 Dec 2011 02:18:38 GMT

I am 12 weeks tomorrow. My DH and I found out in October, but have been keeping it a secret from our family. Other than a select few friends no one knows. When we realized the end of my first trimester was the same time as Christmas, we figured it would be a great way to break the news. Well let's just say I know my family- (my in-laws really) and as the day closes in I find myself not wanting to tell. I have two boys and everyone makes it known that i MUST have a girl. I feel like the second I tell the conversation will only be about the gender and how they will feel so sorry for me if it's a boy etc. It's the last thing I feel like hearing. My husband and I have been so happy to just be happy about adding on to our family and I feel like they are going to suck the happiness right out! I should be able to find out the gender at the end of Jan. so if we just hold out 4 weeks past xmas i'm thinking about making the announcement after we find out the gender, so there will be no rude comments or opinionated conversation and we can just say, "surprise, we are pregnant and it's a....!!!!!" even though it's my 3rd i'm not really showing and I think we can pull it off esp. since it's winter. the only thing is my husband really wants to tell and stop keeping it a secret. I on the other hand remember we announced our first two immediately after finding out and i had to deal with it for 4 months!!! What do you guys think??? Is it weird to keep it a secret that long???