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Re: To Mom's of all boys who are ok and happy with being a "Boy Mom"

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Re: To Mom's of all boys who are ok and happy with being a "Boy Mom"

southernwife — Sun, 08 Jul 2012 22:32:32 GMT

southernwife:
omg, i enjoy everything about being a mommy to boys! they are so sweet natured, i just love it. i dont' know much about when they are older, my sons are 4 and 2.5 years old :) but they are so sweet together, i wouldn't have it any other way! i love the way the turn on each other in an instant , "mommy it was baby who messed up the room this time", and then 3 mins later are walking around the house holding hands again. i love how messy my life is with boys :) please enjoy a pic of my goofy yet hectic bedtime . and yes, they threw cereal on the floor so i had to vacuum it up!

Re: To Mom's of all boys who are ok and happy with being a "Boy Mom"

southernwife — Sun, 08 Jul 2012 22:29:37 GMT

omg, i enjoy everything about being a mommy to boys! they are so sweet natured, i just love it. i dont' know much about when they are older, my sons are 4 and 2.5 years old :) but they are so sweet together, i wouldn't have it any other way! i love the way the turn on each other in an instant , "mommy it was baby who messed up the room this time", and then 3 mins later are walking around the house holding hands again. i love how messy my life is with boys :) please enjoy a pic of my goofy yet hectic bedtime . and yes, they threw cereal on the floor so i had to vacuum it up!

Re: To Mom's of all boys who are ok and happy with being a "Boy Mom"

superwomen — Mon, 19 Mar 2012 13:41:35 GMT

Thanks ladies! I've loved reading all of your post :-) my third little lad will be arriving early July and reading threads like this one is really helping me get my head around being a boy mum! My days have been full of ups and downs at the moment, I do believe in destiny and this is obviously mine... I want to be able to accept it, move on with all that I've been blessed with from someone above who knows better than myself, of what I need in my life!!! and be the best ever mummy to my three precious little lads! Thank you also very much x

Re: To Mom's of all boys who are ok and happy with being a "Boy Mom"

happytobeblessed — Fri, 10 Feb 2012 01:23:53 GMT

I have five boys, and I was a boy mom for awhile before having my daughter. I just have to say that I look at my children and am awed by each of them. I love that they always have a friend to play with. I love that they each have their own personalities. I love that they are growing up to be respectful, caring, and loving boys who love to open doors for their mom. They are growing up to be the most helpful little men, it just fills my heart! Yes, I am happy that I have been able to experience having a daughter and that she is soon to be receiving a little sister, but I wouldn't trade my boys for anything! At the time, as I had boy after boy after boy, there was some disappointment. Then I think, you know, if I had gotten a little girl right away, I don't know that I would have continued having as many kids as I have. To think that I wouldn't have each of my boys just tears me apart! I think that it's easy to get offended as a 'boy' mom....just like it's easy to be offended as a 'girl' mom. We need to just let it go! There are things about boys that are easier than girls and it goes the other way too. It doesn't make either one better than the other....and I know that if my sink needed to be unclogged, it isn't that a girl can't do it, it's more of a why do it when there are boys around! Chivalry is NOT dead, so don't kill it!

Re: To Mom's of all boys who are ok and happy with being a "Boy Mom"

Gorgeouslittlemenx3 — Wed, 11 Jan 2012 05:28:04 GMT

I too am coming to a place where I love being a mother to sons. Mostly I take joy in the things that make them uniquely and distinctly who they are - unrelated to gender, although there are of course there are some things I have come to love about having boys generally. Obviously as I don't have a daughter (even though I would dearly love one), I don't know if that relationship would be the same or different. All I can comment on is MY boys and what I love about their relationship with me.

I love that my boys have energy to burn!! I love that they can be so physical in their play; so wild and loud and crazy and carefree... and then they can be so soft and gentle and nurturing and loving. I love that they have the most amazing imaginations. Their play captivates and draws me in, such is the level of their energy and enthusiasm. I love that my oldest 2 are best buddies and can play together for hours...digging for treasure and building mud-brick houses and navigating 'crocodile-infested' waters I love that they are both so fiercely protective of their baby brother and so sweet and loving towards him. I love that they love rough-housing with Daddy, but I also love that their most hearfelt and sincere affections are saved for me. I love that when DH is away they take such pride and joy in "looking after Mummy"! I love that my DS2 told me that he wants to marry a 'mummy' just like me! and DS1 told me he's going to ring me every day even when he's a daddy, to talk to me on the phone. Awwwww! They just melt my heart!!! I must admit being a mother to 3 sons has made me appreciate my MIL so much more. I understand where she is coming from now (she has 2 sons, no daughters) and I am so much more gracious towards her. I hope that I will have a better perspective when my sons grow up as I appreciate the journey my MIL and I have been on to become closer, and I myself now have 3 boys. I really hope that makes me a gracious and respectful MIL in the future!

Re: To Mom's of all boys who are ok and happy with being a "Boy Mom"

Azuremyst — Fri, 02 Dec 2011 01:14:54 GMT

AmericanHousewife:
Ladies, don't get worked up over those comments. My reasoning is that if someone has to convince themselves so much about why they are happy to not have girls, it must be because they know they are missing out on quite a lot by not having a daughter . Otherwise why would they be on this site in the first place?

Did you forget that MOST if not ALL of the women here who post that have only boys actually do or did WANT a daughter?

Why would they put girls down if they WANTED them? They are just saying good things about having all boys!

Re: To Mom's of all boys who are ok and happy with being a "Boy Mom"

Kylie3 — Wed, 30 Nov 2011 14:22:17 GMT

Cupcake_Dreamz:

AmericanHousewife:
Princess of Pink:
kathy31:

Hi PunkyBrew

I m really glad that u r happy havin 5 boys. but pls dont disrespect girls by sayin girls couldnt have done this or that. girls can do anything what boys do.

I have to agree here...I read here because I thought...all boys mums....like me, must love having that one gender family just like I do...rather than reading all the great things about your boys families...I read put downs about girls, and how lucky you are not to have girls. If there is one thing I have learnt about CHILDREN by having 5 of the one gender is that it's ALL about individual personality....nothing to do with whats in their underpants!! I change my own fan-belt, change the oil, repair stuff around the house, kill spiders and even a snake once. There is nothing any boy could do that my girls wouldn't.......as I imagine the same would be for the ladies who post here sons.
Ladies, don't get worked up over those comments. My reasoning is that if someone has to convince themselves so much about why they are happy to not have girls, it must be because they know they are missing out on quite a lot by not having a daughter . Otherwise why would they be on this site in the first place?

I think THIS is unnecessary && quite frankly very RUDE!! I don't understand the need for all girl moms coming to this thread to start problems. I've read plenty of boy bashing on this site but let others express their feelings and even respect them. This is a site for everyone to express themselves freely and without judgement. If you dont like what is being said then you should just LEAVE. Nobody is talking about YOUR daughters so don't understand the need to be so defensive.

Agreed! That post was extremely rude! and yes if you don't like it here........LEAVE!

Re: To Mom's of all boys who are ok and happy with being a "Boy Mom"

auroara78 — Thu, 17 Nov 2011 15:57:28 GMT

I have come to a place where I am more than okay with being a "boys mom"

My boys have taught me alot about myself, and just even about being open minded to things that i didn't orginally want to try or do.

i think it's great that the girl moms look at his post to see what us "boy moms" got to say about our ltitle fellows. What I love about my fellows are the big hugs, lots of kisses, my oldest (4) likes to say now "mommy, come hang with me" and my baby loves his brother fiercely. I love dinosaurs now and I think it's cute how my son has "muddy mud pits" in the backyard where his dinosuars go hang out and drink some water and eat grass.

I love the idea that one day my sons will be deeply loved, and one day there will ladies that will be so happy to have them in their lives :)

Re: To Mom's of all boys who are ok and happy with being a "Boy Mom"

Cupcake_Dreamz — Tue, 01 Nov 2011 14:16:21 GMT

Newbaby, your posts are always so great! I love to read all the wonderful things you have to say about boys & girls. You seem like such a lovely person & genuinely love boys. I must admit some of ur posts helped snap me out of my GD & I can honestly say I'm super excited to meet my little guy. I know 3 boys are going to be a lot of fun!

Re: To Mom's of all boys who are ok and happy with being a "Boy Mom"

newbaby2011 — Thu, 27 Oct 2011 21:02:14 GMT

am i not welcome? cause im going to leave my 2 cents. i LOVE LOVE LOVE. hearing wonderful things about boys. there are alot of ladies in here who don't get excited about little boys. some bash them,. i love you ladies who adore your little guys and are proud to be boy moms.

i don't think punky meant anything by what she said though. heck i agree, out of 5 girls i only have 1 who would gladly kill a spider or unclog a sink. it sounds to me like she was just saying what a help her boys are. words get mixed up in here and sometimes whats going around in my head is hard to get typed out.

don't get mad at me for lurking ladies. i just always wanted a little guy and its so nice to hear good things about them

Re: To Mom's of all boys who are ok and happy with being a "Boy Mom"

ThirdstheCharm — Thu, 27 Oct 2011 17:56:35 GMT

Hello ladies! well i am a mother of 2 boys and just confirmed boy #3 on the way! i cant say i didnt want a little girl, because i did! but i am happy with my boys just as much. i have a 3 yr old and 1 yr old. and they are both very close to me. i guess i havent put too much thought into the fact that im having another boy, but there is nothing i can do now, he is a part of me :)! im just blessed to be able to have kids regardless of gender. i just always say, Boys are their moms! will always protect u, always look over you and will always love you no matter what! its a little sad ill always be the "mother in law" but all i can do is make it the best and be the best "mother in law" i can be :)! hope this helps! Also what i love about my boys is that they always come to me for everything. yeah they have daddy but nothing beats being a mother... and just the feeling of opening that door and having them run into ur arms! its the best feeling. :)

Re: To Mom's of all boys who are ok and happy with being a "Boy Mom"

Cupcake_Dreamz — Thu, 27 Oct 2011 15:31:14 GMT

As for the topic....I'm an only girl (4 brothers), my DH is one of 4 boys, no sisters & I'm now expecting our 3rd DS....ALL I know is BOYS! Hehehe. I'm a girly girl but watch sports and actually like hanging out with guys. I want a girl but I think its because I never had a sister. It goes beyond the superficial stuff of painting nails/combing hair...but rather to experience the girl bond I never had in my life. That being said, my boys are really AMAZING.

My oldest is such a sweetheart...he's always been quiet, well behaved, respectful, very affectionate and biggest mom-lover ever!! He's a pre-teen so he thinks he's really cool around his friends but the second where alone he turns to mush. He's happy with simple things like watching TV with me & actually likes when DH isn't around so he can have my undivided attention.

My youngest fits all boys stereotypes...loves cars, going outside, loud, energetic...keeps me on my toes & he's only 18 months old!! But when he's upset, all he wants is his mommy. Sometimes he just comes up to me for no reason & gives me like a million kisses...it just melts my heart. I know that I'm the center of their universe & I'd be lying if I said I didn't love every single minute of it!!!!

Re: To Mom's of all boys who are ok and happy with being a "Boy Mom"

Cupcake_Dreamz — Thu, 27 Oct 2011 15:15:29 GMT

AmericanHousewife:
Princess of Pink:
kathy31:

Hi PunkyBrew

I m really glad that u r happy havin 5 boys. but pls dont disrespect girls by sayin girls couldnt have done this or that. girls can do anything what boys do.

I have to agree here...I read here because I thought...all boys mums....like me, must love having that one gender family just like I do...rather than reading all the great things about your boys families...I read put downs about girls, and how lucky you are not to have girls. If there is one thing I have learnt about CHILDREN by having 5 of the one gender is that it's ALL about individual personality....nothing to do with whats in their underpants!! I change my own fan-belt, change the oil, repair stuff around the house, kill spiders and even a snake once. There is nothing any boy could do that my girls wouldn't.......as I imagine the same would be for the ladies who post here sons.
Ladies, don't get worked up over those comments. My reasoning is that if someone has to convince themselves so much about why they are happy to not have girls, it must be because they know they are missing out on quite a lot by not having a daughter . Otherwise why would they be on this site in the first place?

I think THIS is unnecessary && quite frankly very RUDE!! I don't understand the need for all girl moms coming to this thread to start problems. I've read plenty of boy bashing on this site but let others express their feelings and even respect them. This is a site for everyone to express themselves freely and without judgement. If you dont like what is being said then you should just LEAVE. Nobody is talking about YOUR daughters so don't understand the need to be so defensive.

Re: To Mom's of all boys who are ok and happy with being a "Boy Mom"

houseofhormones — Tue, 11 Oct 2011 02:54:56 GMT

houseofhormones:

Princess of Pink:
kathy31:

Hi PunkyBrew

I m really glad that u r happy havin 5 boys. but pls dont disrespect girls by sayin girls couldnt have done this or that. girls can do anything what boys do.

I have to agree here...I read here because I thought...all boys mums....like me, must love having that one gender family just like I do...rather than reading all the great things about your boys families...I read put downs about girls, and how lucky you are not to have girls. If there is one thing I have learnt about CHILDREN by having 5 of the one gender is that it's ALL about individual personality....nothing to do with whats in their underpants!! I change my own fan-belt, change the oil, repair stuff around the house, kill spiders and even a snake once. There is nothing any boy could do that my girls wouldn't.......as I imagine the same would be for the ladies who post here sons.

exactly! the post asks ''why are u happy having all boys?", NOT "why are all girl's bad to have?" i could make a long list of why having boys would be bad, but i won't because it's rude and disrespectful.