Friend found out gender today.....it's a.....

 

If she's waiting to tell you in person, I'm guessing it is "good" news (for her!)  Ouch.  Act as happy as you can then come back and vent to us!! 

I'm so sorry, I know exactly how you feel. Isn't it just the worst feeling ever? I want so much to not care about the gender of OTHER people's babies but I do. Whenever a close friend or family member get pg, I get major anxiety and stress out in case they are having a girl. Get all the crying out now so that you're numb when she tell you the actual news. That may be bad advice but it's the only advice that I have.

PS that's cruel how she messaged you but won't tell you right away. Is she aware of your GD?

Keep us posted 

 

I hope this isnt too blunt, but she doesnt seem like a very good or nice friend if she is aware of your GD and still she knowingly rubs it in.

i too get very upset when someone announces they're pregnant and try to tell myself its ok but it really isnt. pregnancy especially amongst family and friends should be a happy time but when it is constantly in your face that boys are dirty,rude, abnoxious creatures that really shouldnt be taking up valuable space that baby girls could have, it makes it very hard. perhaps your friend would do well to remember her little girls will be looking for handsome, rugged, senstive, financially independent men to marry one day and thanks to mums like us who have raised these beautiful boys into men, she'll be down on bended knee thanking us!!!!! 

Power to the boys mums!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! 

My  cousin found out she is having a girl back in February. She never phones my house but guess what? that day she did phone. She said I'm having a girl. She knows I want a girl but I don't say to much to her because I don't trust her. She said she was scared to phone and tell me but she didn't sound scared. I could tell she loved it.

 I had a dream last night that I gave birth to a girl. The midwifes and my dh said it was a girl. I saw it was a girl and dressed her in pink. When I went to change her bum I saw it was a boy!

3forme,

She does not sound like a good friend to me. I dont know why but i have a feeling that she is having a boy. I think if it was a girl she would tell you over the phone. That is just my guess. For your sake i hope she has a boy.  Good luck and come back here to vent but stay strong dont let her see your pain. Some people like to feel they have better than us.

talk to you later

sttf#3

ps luvmyboys very well said. Its soooo true

 I changed the title because now I know OMG it’s a BOY!!!!!  

I’m still shocked! I feel like a huge weight was taken off my chest. She came over to tell me and I was so nervous. I was incredibly shock when she told me I almost fell of my chair. I think this is exactly what she needs, a little boy. She will see that little boys really are wonderful and I think he will melt her heart. Everything happens for a reason! I think it’s wonderful she is having a boy because she will get to enjoy both genders. She was happy too which is great and her DH is ecstatic. There DD is very upset, she wanted a sister and doesn’t believe it’s a boy. There is no way I could have waited a week to find out and I’m happy I now know. Thanks so much for your support

Wheew!  Glad the news was better than you first expected....having a boy will give her some perspective and you can be the wonderful friend who shows her all about the wonder of boys.  Having said that, I'd still give her some guff about all the girly stuff.... good luck!

That is cool, I read that it is a boy, and that it is good newsx for her and for you. Cool!

 

But, if I may, can I ask if she is really a good friend?  I don't think that her rubbing in behavior from the past qualifies her as one. People like us, suffering from GD, don't need to surround themselves with these negative behavor.  I DON'T MEAN TO TELL YOU HOw to choose your firnd, I would never do that.  But just make sure that people around don't make you concentrate on your negative feelings more than you already do.

Sorry for meddling in, but I mean well.

I agree with several of the previous posters.  She does not sound like a true friend.  It sounds to me like she is jealous of something you have and gets some sort of thrill out of the way she behaves toward you.  I'm glad it makes it easier for you that she is having a boy.  There is a member of my husband's family expecting her first baby in September.  She is a person I very much dislike.  If she knew about my GD I would be very worried about whether or not she is having a girl.  However, she doesn't know ,so, if she has a girl she won't be able to get any satisfaction by trying to rub my nose in it!

fourboys:

 I had a dream last night that I gave birth to a girl. The midwifes and my dh said it was a girl. I saw it was a girl and dressed her in pink. When I went to change her bum I saw it was a boy!

I had that EXACT dream before I had ds1 - when I was pg with him.  Then I was walking around the hospital saying "it's a boy!  Why did you put a dress on him??"  They all told me I was crazy.  LOL  One of those nice pgcy dreams, hey? 

So glad that you didn't have to have salt added to your wound! 

Robyn

I hate hearing that people are having girls.  I cry.  I was so upset when my SIL found out that she was having girl #3 at the same time that I was having DS #2.  We joke that I will have all of the boys and she will have all of the girls but she doesn't seem to have any GD with her girls.  I know that her hunting/fishing DH does, though.  And he hates that his brother has 3 boys. 

I'm soooo glad she's having a boy.  And, when I read the first post, I had a feeling that she would tell you boy.  I think seeing that she was having a boy may have caused her a little GD, and she finally understood what you're going through!  Maybe that's why she wanted to tell you in person.  Because she now understood how you felt and would be able to be glad that she's having a boy.  She knows you love yours, and now she can learn how wonderful it is to love little boys!  I hope that this changes her attitude and behavior when it comes to parading her daughter in front of you.  Maybe now she can be a better, more understanding friend.

Oh - I hope I get the same "good news" from my SIL tomorrow... *fingers crossed*