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mamaliajp

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Is anyone else like super embarrassed that they took this test? I feel like such a dummy explaining to everyone why I said it was a boy and now it's a girl. I'm having a baby shower in a few weeks (we're going pretty girly with it) and I'm so afraid that someone is going to bring up the whole boy / girl, "what sort of test did you take?", "why?" conversation.  I really won't know what to say and it is sort of painful for me to talk about still cause I'm always doubting my u/s results and always afraid that my little girl  is going to be born a boy! plus I've gotten some negativity already from people (i.e. "why couldn't youjust wait to find out, then you wouldn't be in this situation?") and I really don't want to have to talk about it in front of 30+ women. what do you all think I should say if it does come up? I don't want to be rude but I DO NOT want to talk about it cause it's still so sensitive.
 

Maureen

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I would say, ladies, I defer your questions to Miss Katie Couric, because she assured me that this test was 99.9% reliable.  Every major news outlet in this country said this product was accurate, NBC, ABC,CNN, the list goes on; I don't think you need to feel bad for listening to these sources that seem trustworthy. 

When this product first came out, I was surprised at the number of comments from people who were offended at the very idea of early gender determination.  "What's so bad about waiting," and "why wouldn't you just wait until your u/s?" a lot of them said.  I just don't get it.  If *you* don't want to know, that's fine and dandy, but what's wrong with *me* finding out if I'd like to know?  On one forum, a couple of posters had the nerve to chastise a mother for spending her money on something so frivolous and said she should have given the money to charity!   Like a belly cast would have been a worthwhile expenditure, but finding out gender is a big waste.

If someone acts like this, I would tell them, we just really wanted extra time to choose the name, or it was more convenient to decorate the nursery now rather than later (maybe deciding whether to move a sibling depended on the new baby's gender).  Say it was a practical thing, rather than just raging curiosity, if you think that will sound better.  (Not that I don't think raging curiosity is a good enough reason, lol!)

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melissa30

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I am with you sweetie.  I have all the same things being said to me by other people.  Then you have those who say "I'd believe the blood test.  That is blood...DNA." (they really dont ev en know anything about it.  "  Then the other half of people say why would you even do that test?  It hasn't been around for long...  or back in my day it was a suprise....

Blah blah blah.....  Well, I wanted to know.  My son and new child will be sharing a room together. My poor son is so confused.  For a month I was saying baby brother.  Then for a month I said either brother or sister.  Now I am trying to get used to saying baby sister.  He is so confused...  Also, i have have REALLY been edge.  Ever since they had suggested that my baby have a genetic problem that would cause both sets of DNA or both sexes...etc.....

I am going ahead with a babyshower also.  I am excited and again really nervous.  I feel bad for going back and forth with everyone.  Even though I have had 3 us saying forsure girl.  I will be having another 2d/3d/4d on Tuesday.  I am going to pray that I am also 100% sure and feel better and believe my my eyes see. 

Best wishes....  I am going to pray for all of us!!!!!

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Baby Girl Violet Faith (December 05')
 

JCKC

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I also feel extremely embarassed.  I even took the test after my ultrasound tech told me not to.  She and my doctor had been trying to order a kit and research the product for themselves and Acu-Gen would not respond to their requests at all.  She said that seemed really shady to her and would strongly urge me to not even consider it. Obviously I ran off and did it anyway.  So now I haven't even told my doctor or U/S tech because that would only make me feel more ridiculous. 

I wouldn't worry too much about what other people are saying.  It is always very easy to hand out opinions and advise to other people but these people don't really know what they would have done in our situations.  There are many reasons that we might want to find out the gender as early as possible but the fact is, they are our reasons and nobody else should take it upon themselves to judge us for our own decisions. 

Has anyone else noticed that a lot of the people that look at us like we are crazy for taking this test are the same ones that tell you that "you are carrying so high, it must be a girl"?  I think it's funny that many of the people that criticize a blood test want to quote every old wives tale in existence. 

Anyway, I would say enjoy your baby shower and if anyone brings it up, do your best to laugh it off and change the subject.  I have become very good at that with my friends and family.

JCKC

 

 

mamaliajp

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thank you guys! it feels better to know I'm not alone in feeling like a big dope, lol. I'm also going to go for another u/s in a couple of weeks. I want to get one more reassurance before having my shower. plus i'm going to give everyone a little frame w/ one of her 3d pics in it as a "thank-you" for coming to the shower.

Maureen, I just want to say THANK YOU for this forum!! It has been a Godsend for many of us that thought we were alone in this situation. Your research and input has helped a lot of people, so thanks!

-Lia    mama to Preston (1.31.04) & my little GIRL (1.26.06)                                                                                                                                                                 

 

Maureen

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You're due almost on your DS's bday, how sweet that their birthdays will be so close -- if you can hold out for one more week it would be so precious for them to have the same birthday! 

And you're very welcome. ;-)

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mamaliajp

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I know, I was in shock when my dr. gave me my 1st due date of 1.30.06 which would be the day before my son's birthday. I'm throwing his party 3 weeks early this year to avoid having a party with a newborn baby, but I definately see some joint bday parties in the future!
 

JCKC

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Wow, what a coincidence. My youngest son's name is also Preston.  His birthday is 1/29/03 and my due date this time is 2/4/06.  I am also going to have Preston's birthday a few weeks early.  I have always been overdue with my other 3 but I have this fear of inviting 30 family members to my house for a birthday party and then going into labor right then and there.    Good luck with your pregnancy and the party!!

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mamaliajp

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jckc,

wow, we are in similar situations :) I never new ANY Preston's (excpet for my dad / ds's namesake) until after I had ds. then they started popping up everywhere. my hair dresser's son, little boy at the park, my best friend's nephew (born after ds) etc. Anyway, I love that name and I totally feel the same way you do about the party. cutting cake / contractions...not my idea of a good time, lol.

 

natasha

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My two oldest are two weeks and two years apart.  It is actually convenient because I only do one family party for the two of them.  No jealousy over gifts cuz they both get them and I don't need to cook twice.  My latest is due one month and two years after my third son.  I am always early so I figure I get to double up again.  Two parties a year vs four.  It is a pretty good deal.

 

Natasha

 
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