scared I'll get BFP and I'll lose it again

 Does anyone else have mixed feelings about TTC?

I had my last dose of soy last night (fewer headaches etc if you take it at night), DH and I have been taking our calcium, magnesium and cranberry, all the usual TTC DD suplements, I have pains in my side (typical O symptoms for me), and I'd say going by experience that I will O in the next 24/48 hours.

 SO WHY DO I FEEL SO HOPELESS and awful? I really want to get preg again, DH really wants it too, but I feel really worried that there's no point, the same thing will happen again and I'll m/c.

I don't want to give up, but I feel like I'm setting myself up for more bad things to happen. YES, I know that it's a risk we have to take if we want to have another child. 

How do the rest of you cope with these feelings? 

Well after my miscarriage in Feb I was terrified to be pregnant- its such a long road full of so many uncertainties.  When I found out I was pregnant I was so scared to get attached to the baby that I neglected my health and didnt think about the baby's well-being like I should have.  I smoked as much as I wanted and wouldnt take my prenatals.  I kept feeling like I was going to lose it anyway and it just seemed like it would be more heart breaking if I'd have been doing so much stuff with my baby in mind. 

I have finally came to the conclusion that we are moms and the worry never stops and life is full of risks.  You are worrying before you even have conceived!  I am sure you will worry about an early miscarriage for the first 12 weeks, a late miscarriage the first 20 weeks, premature birth after that, cord death after that and a load of other things!!  Once the baby is born then you will have a new variety of worries- like SIDS and that the baby will choke.  I finally have just accepted that we have to take risks to get rewards and take it day by day- its still hard sometimes though.  I guess most of all, understand that it is natural to worry, its just part of motherhood but that the worry isnt going to keep bad things from happening.  Most things I have worried about have never happened anyway, just rarely.  GL with your future pregnancy!!!!!!!

Thanks for your reply, and you are right of course!  Best wishes for your current preg, and I hope I'm doing all that worrying too, soon. X

Ishaw~ i get those scared feelings too, during each 2ww. I had a m/c in June at 8 weeks and did not have any trouble with either previous pregnancies. I have been TTC since Aug and am getting a little worried that I might now be able to conceieve. I feel like I am up against the clock too. I turn 39 next week and desperately want one more baby.

I think it is natural to be a little worried or scared. I did a lot of reading on pg after m/c and the stats are good that our next pregnancy will be ok.

good luck!! 

Hi iwm-moose,

Sorry to hear about your m/c. It's still early days, don't be too worried (stress is not good for TTC!), fairly typical to take several months tc. I know what you mean about the clock ticking, I will turn 41 in Jan and like you I want "just one more"

I'm in the tww, and things are looking good, lots of symptoms and a VERY faint positive test -I'm not counting that as a BFP unless I get a much darker one in a couple of days, as I've had some chemical pregs (I try to look at that in a positive way, I'm ovulating, and conceving easily which is great for someone my age, I just need that "Golden Egg"!).

I hope thing go well for BOTH of us, soon.

Wow, that's great that you got a faint line! Yea!! I will keep fingers crossed that it gets darker and darker. Yes, I hope I am ovulating. though it does seem like I have been TTC forever, it really has not been that long. I think it seems longer b/c I obsess about getting the OPK lines, then in 2 weeks , i obsess about getting a positive line, so when there is so much POAS, it just seems like forever.

Yes, the Golden Egg is what we need. Go Egg Go!

 Hi jwm-moose, Oh yes, obsess, obsess, obsess. That sounds just like me, every tiny symptom turned into A SIGN. I buy my LH (I assume these are the same as OPK? For ovulation anyway) sticks by the truckload off the internet, so they are cheap enough to waste on my POAS addiction!