I can be bad about this and it aggravates my dh when we are out.  He will catch my gaze wandering off to some other family and he scolds me with "Pay attention to your OWN kids, not anyone else's!"  This can be even when I am holding their hands so I know they are there with me.   When I see BG I think, HOW did they do that?  (Since that only happens in the movies and on TV, lol.)  When I see BBG I am "convinced" if I could only get pg again it would be a DD.  I think about if I could adopt a girl who could look enough like us to fool people (like me lol) who would be staring at us that we just happen to get BBG.   That is part of the GD, I feel "vulnerable" to those who have both genders. In reality they are probably pleased as punch and probably don't give a hoot, but I still feel like maybe they think they are glad they ended up with both instead of just boys.  When I see BGB I think - why couldn't I have had a DD between my boys?  When I see GB I wonder "Why was it so important to me to have the B first?"   When I see all girls: if the dad is there, I wonder if he is wishing for a boy. At the gas station when the boys and I were waiting for DH to come out I saw a man go in with five little girls. I checked out each one to make sure they were all the same gender: pink shirt, check; short hair but pink slacks; check; dressed in blue but shiny pink sneakers, check...  After dh came out I went in for something and inside nearly bumped into the adorable little blonde dearie toddling aimlessly. (I had a Raising Arizona moment there lol)  I almost commented to him (something positive of course) but I didn't (I'm kind of shy).   I remarked to DH "Five girls" and he of course was irritated that I noticed the gender of other people's families (again.)

I noticed myself more than once friendly to a little boy and as soon as his little sister appears I feel awkward, uncomfortable and silent. 

I really wish I could be free of this "obsession."  I hope someday I can adopt and free myself of all this  

I do the same thing too. Lately I have been seeing more families with pidgeon pairs and mixed genders than one gender families. I always peek in strollers too. Sometimes some babies are so small and wearing gender neutral colours that its hard to tell whether they are a girl or boy but I must say that I am always jealous of families with both genders. I always think " How lucky!, Wish I was that lucky".

dawnklasen:

I noticed a lady looking at my two boys the other day while I was watching DS #2 at his swimming lessons. She had 5 boys all close in age and she asked me if I was expecting a boy or a girl. I almost felt that I was put on the spot as I did not want to offend her in any way. I told her I was having a girl and she just smiled at me. I can't help but wonder if she hated me because of that :(

 

OMG this same thing happened to me but opposite!

I was putzing around the playground when I mom strolles over obviously PG and sits down next to me (also obviously pg)

We chat for a few minutes when She shouts to one of her daughters to stop dumping sand out of the sand box. I ask the daughter name and age and she tells me. Turns out she has 2 daughters playing in the sandbox. I ask if she knows the sex of the baby and she says girl..with a forceful smile.

She asks me if I know my babies sex and I say girl...as my 2 boys scamper up to me to get a drink.

"oh and you have boys!" she says "They are darling...but I alwasy wanted all girls...boys seem like alot of work" she says smirking then stands and walks to the sandbox.

I suddenly feel alittle guilty for the way things have turned out for me...like it's my fault I have 2 boys and then got a girl. I can't help but think she must be wondering why I got both sexes and she didn't. I wonder if saying boys were alot of work is her defense mechanism for being crushed the dc#3 was a girl. I feel sad for her and know exactly were she's coming from. I remember all 2 well putting on a brave face and stating how boy were the BEST while secretly pineing for a dd for #3.

amanda26:

wful to feel this way but honestly sometimes it just doesn't seem fair

Yeah, that's the way I've always felt.  Nobody ever said that life was fair, but when you're out and about and you see people you know and even people you don't know who have the gender that you want it can be heartbreaking.

noboys:

but when you're out and about and you see people you know and even people you don't know who have the gender that you want it can be heartbreaking.

Oh totally, I've got so bad I prefer staying in! I stomp around the supermarket like an over-size livid Tasmanian-Devil, hoping not to see anymore families with DS as I get so angrily jealous at the outrageous unfairness of it all. [My neighbourhood really does seem to be all boy family, except for me of course] I guess pregnancy isn't helping but I'll still be jealous after having DD2, just hopefully not as bad-tempered!

But just staying in the house I get jealous of people on TV, in Mags, even cartoon-characters with DS -!! People without GD can't understand the madness, how horrible & confining it is. I mean I use to fairly normal, ish - balanced, rational 'Oh it doesn't matter what sex it is, long as its healthy' blah de blah - Now I find myself wanting to rip-up magazines just cos theres a photo of Cate Blanchett who's just had her 3rd DS [3! - I'd be grateful just to get ONE!!] OK, maybe she was hoping for a DD, but she can afford HighTech if she's really bothered!