Deech:

Take Dh out for a cup of coffee once in a while, give him a call just to say hi, sneak off for some alone time....Send him a note....makes a world of difference

Look...I know this sounds childish, but I've been there done that and he doesn't put in any effort back, so I eventually just give up.  I don't want to give the impression that we hate each other or anything, it's more a case of us being like good friends, the magic has well and truly disappeared and I can honestly say that I can understand why people become tempted to have affairs.  I'm not saying that I would or I condone it, I just have a little insight into it I guess.

Have you told him that??? I think men get caught up in that daily grind way to much and don't realize they have dropped the ball in the romance department! Tell him how you feel or maybe seek a marriage counselor if it isbeyond your ability to fix alone.. I think you both just need to re-remember why you fell in love and married in the first place and maybe that would help turn fizzle into sizzle...

 

I think every marriage gets to that point at one time or another.. It feels as if I have a great roommate with no romance...btdt!! It is hard work to make a marriage what you want it to be...

 

 

Oh4agirl,

I so understand what you mean by this!

I wanted to be with a romantic guy but it was not to be in this life...

If we go for a meal at a restaurant, DH will often look for the first newspaper there to read at the same time...

I just dont get men sometimes

Krissymum

We've been together nine years (married for five) and we were just saying the other day how much better sex has got over the years!  Less quickies and more meaningful!

I'm so very happily married sometimes that I wonder if I'm missing something..(as in I'm so naive that I don't notice he's cheating or that he doesn't love me!)  does that make sense? 

I see so many of our friends in unhappy marriages and wonder, are we really that great together? Well, yes!

Take for example this evening, I have ordered a copy of Parenthood off of Amazon because DH has never seen it.  Tonight no computer and kids to bed early so we can snuggle down together with a film.  It's not fireworks and multiple orgasms, but it works for us!

We argue and have our moments, but life in general is pretty great and there is never a moment when I regret choosing to spend the rest of my life with DH.

Alice