I feel your pain as well. I have been just making myself sick over peoples comments and mine too have come from family..

I get the whole "have fun paying for 3 probbaly 4 weddings" Really what buisness is it of theres??

I get the whole oh you MUST be trying for a boy.... good luck with that.

THEN.. when I asked my MIl if she wanted to go to my ultrasound next week my FIL aks why I am even bothering all it is going to do is upset me.. to find out we are most likely having another girl.. .. Are you kidding me.. that is so mean. How do thye know.

So now I am toally beliving that there is no way for it too be a boy... sigh..

Sorry I totally took over for a minute! I am sorry so many people are rude. I thinnk they are secretly jealous as well...

Do you all ever get the "your done after this one ..right?" LOL.

My mother is the same way...my mil will be happy...she's easily pleased...lol..but my mom...ahhh!!  she drives me insane...she always makes comments that why would I want more, they'll ony be boys, that I can only have boys, just the other day she commented to me (exaclty like this), "your done hjaving kids, right?" but she was saying it as if she was teling me I was done...do you think she'll be offended when I don't tell her until Christmas Eve that I am pregnant..I am due January 13...LOL  I could get away with it...I won't see her after the end of the summer until then...I am seriously considering not telling her until then!!! I'd blame it on the hormones, but I had that plan when I was thinking about ttc...so now that we got this birth control surprise I figured I'd stick with some of my original plan!!! 

my4boyz+1=5rottenboyz we have the same due date!  i get the "your done right?" too but not from my mom.  its mostly friends.  i dont know if its a good idea to wait untill christmas, she might be offended...maybe if its a girl you could tell her after the ultrasound...my dad today said that i would never have a girl!? whatever....i will prove him wrong

I haven't told anyone IRL yet and I am sure I will get the same reaction. I want to put it off as long as possible!!!

Hi, I know excatly what you mean. I've been asked if my pregnancy (number 4) was a MISTAKE so many times I don't bother telling anybody now. Why cant people accept that me and my hubby have planned our 4th little miracle!! I'm sooooo fed up with the " you must be mad" comments. Well I'm not mad I just love babies!!!!!!!!!!!!!! BIG CONGRATULATIONS on your pregnancy xxxxx

Yes, people are very rude.  My family and friends have actually been pretty good about the news.  It is my co-workers that I dread telling.  I got all the comments when I was pregnant with my third so I can only imagine what they are going to say now.  I don't know why I really care.  I probably won't tell them until I start showing.  I will let them all whisper and ask me. 

 It is hurtful, especially from family members who are supposed to support you no matter what.  It is weird, as pp mentioned, how many people do consider children to be burdens and not blessings.  I kind of feel bad for them.

 Anyways, congratulations and try not to let them get to you.

My new vent on why are people so rude: let me be upset that I am having twins! This wasnt planned and it will change my whole world! I am tired of people saying "your so negative. its a blessing" yes I am blessed to have children and to be fertile. However, this was not what I planned out! Let me be upset for the life I thought I was going to have and be scared about my new life that lays ahead of me. There are scary things invovled with a twin pregnancy and it is far from what I expected. I can be upset for a while!!!! I am so tired of having to be positive polly around certain people just so they dont say things to me! Also, I will eat what I want! Dont tell me I shouldnt be eating my mcdonalds fries! If I am hungry I want it! Its amazing that I have my appetite back! I wish they could feel what its like to have nausea for three and a half months straight! UUUGGHH!!!

thanks I feel better now !

mdallas:

 

I totally understand! I got the "are you crazy?" comments since mine are 9 and 12 years old. Or "you want to start all over again?"  you were almost done!" Now since I am having two people say " were you on fertility treatments?" uh I obviously can get pregnant people! Cant people just see a miracle when there is one? some people just dont want a big family i guess. I have always loved babies. I had my other two when I was so young so it is like starting over. I have accepted that I am having double the babies but I just hate comments like those above!

Ditto!  You are blessed to be getting twins...I want another sibling for my baby to grow up with, but people totally criticize me when I bring it up:  I am too old, I was lucky Caden's healthy, do I really want four boys, etc!  (Because obviously I can't make girls???)  PEOPLE ARE RUDE!  They just are.  And it's sad.   

What amazes me is how many of the rude people are our Mothers!!!  I miscarried for 2 years before this one stuck and my Mother was so rude and obnoxious at every turn..."we had a boy and a girl why would we keep doing this?".  I made a point of saying one time that if we were going to have one more I really wanted another girl because my DD would love to have  baby sister....I got an earful for that one too.  We need another boy in this family!!!  

Now it's the name thing...we let our 8yr old DS have first dibs on her middle name.....Since he is a big George Lucas fan and LOVES Indiana Jones her middle name is Indiana.....My Mother is bent on this one.....she's forbidden to speak to me about it anymore.  She sat at the dinner table the other night telling DD that she could change her name as soon as she turned 18 (her name is very close to my paternal grandmothers name and they disliked each other greatly....it really had nothing to do with my grandmother at all).   I almost throttled the woman at the dinner table...

 Can we all make a pack that when our time comes and our children are grown adults that we will be supportive and cheerful with whatever they face, whatever choices they make and whatever paths their lives take?  Obviously there are exceptions, but for the most part child rearing is so hard why be anything than supportive?

On top of it all my mother wants to be in the room when this one is delivered.......I honestly don't think I could take it, but I have no way of telling her no, esp since I'm the last of our girlfriends to do this and they all want to be there and they probably will be...."everyone but you Ma"....no way to do that gracefully.

I'm sure we will get a lot of weird reactions if we manage to have another baby. Our youngest is almost five, so I'm sure people will assume it was a "mistake". My mom knows we are trying MS/IUI for a girl, but my dad has no idea that we are considering the idea of a third child. He would hit the roof and think that we are very irresponsible. I believe he thinks two is the right number of kids because that's what his parents had. The sad thing is that they wanted more but couldn't. My mom, who is one of five kids, would have liked more, but my dad wouldn't have more than two. I'm dreading the look on his face if I ever get to tell him I'm pregnant again.

i wonder what ppl would say when they find out that we are planning on having another one We want to do MS/IUI in a couple of years....I can only imagine  Now when i tell anyone that im preggo they say "ok now thats enough kids"  or "this is your last one right?