babybleux, this is so beautiful! Thank you! When preg. with DS1, I could just not imagine taking care of a boy. I didn't want to deal with boy stuff, etc, I had only pictured having girls! Then he was born, and he was so handsome, I of course fell in love with him.But as he grew older, I saw so much of myself in him, that he really healed me and my pre-concieved notions about what 'having a boy' would be like...
The only shocker to my story is that mine is reverse of yours; when I found out I was having DS2, though I had wanted a DD so bad, the only thing that gave me peace was envisioning another son like DS1. Well, DS2 is totally his own wild child! He is 15 mos now, but he is soooo different from my first, that I think God gave me him to teach me that even the 'same' gender the children can be totally different! He has taught me patience on a new level, and he is such a handful sometimes, that when things do go smoothly, I feel more grateful.
Honestly, I feel bad that I didn't appreciate DS1 more when he was younger because he was the most easy going laid back sweetheart baby, and all I kept thinking was how badly I wanted to get pregnant again to get a DD! And now that DS2 is so challenging, (but of course cute and adorable!) it's helped me to appreciate all the traits in DS1 as well.
I am having a DD in 6 weeks and I have truly do not have any vision of what she may act like, be like, look like. I have learned my lesson about that, and I am just going to love and accept her for whatever personality or person she is.