Reality Check

Great post.

You are entitiled to your feelings, don't feel guilty, but you are right that at least we are much more lucky in the sense you mentioned b/c once tragedy strikes, the wound will never heal completely and that we should be greatful for healthy and thriving families b/c going through death, especially a young person is the worst thing ever (and GD is not even close to that for those who think it's bad enough). Though it's fine to have some gender desire or preference, I feel some posters are going overboard with gender obsession especially with petty and superficial things. They are real kids, not baby dolls you can imagine things with. And when reality kicks in, it does bring an eye opener. I took a walk through a cemetery with a coworker during a lunch break the other day and I ran across the grave of my dad's former coworker's daughter's grave. She unexpectantly drowned in a full crowded wading pool almost 8 years ago. She was only 22 months old back then and would have turned 10 years old this year if this tragedy never happened. Even if you never really knew the family well, hearing what they had to endure all of a sudden quite stings a lot, and makes you pray hard that you don't have to ever go through it. Looking at the grave of a 22 month old baby is disturbing enough.

 Congratulations on your baby boy or girl though!! I do hope the little bub fulfill your lives with love and fulfillment :)

 And chickfromaus, what you wrote for you son is amazing, and very inspiring for others :)

 Hope all looked great at your scan.  

 

Excited to hear your update!

islandmeadow:

 Hope all looked great at your scan.  

 

Excited to hear your update!

SO we got to our scan just to be told they tried calling us numerous times and the number was disconnected. We had to call them from the parking lot because nobody was there like WTH! The number they said they were calling is my business line that was ringing all day yesterday with NO ISSUES. And I was at my business all day with my DD(a perk of owning your own business) and answered that phone myself and my DH called me on that phone ... they are liars. My DH was so upset he was so mad but handled it well I think by getting on his phone and calling the original place we had our 3D scan with our DD... I didnt want to have our scan there because of our GD that happened when the tech told us a girl. I didnt want to go back to a negative space. PLUS it's really hard to get an appointment at that place so I found this new obv very unprofessional place and we werent able to have our scan done last night. We drove 30 mins just to drive 30 mins back home. My DH was like "any place in the whole world where do you want to go to eat now?" and asked me over and over if i was craving anything lol i was too upset i was like no i dont want to eat now. BUT as we drove home we stopped at a nice restaurant and ate. Our DD entertained us with her 2 yr old self lol it was fun.

DH got a call back while at dinner from the owner of the original place we used with DD (he left a message pm it was nice to have such a quick response!) and he remembers us and we will be having our scan this friday at 530pm. NOW i am just freaking out because it's on friday the 13th :( just our luck!!

SOO this morning I stopped in to Carters and bought one onesie that says Little Brother and one that says Little Sister.... and of course a shirt that says Big Sister for our DD. And I bought two boxes. I am going to ask our tech to tape the envelope with the potty shot to the box lid of the one we should open. We will put the one that needs to be returned (still in box obv) in the trunk and we will go to dinner and let our DD open the box. My DH is going to think im crazy because he really is in a place of it doesnt matter I am too... I just want to make it fun. Because the first time it obv was far from it.

 I will keep you posted what we find out on friday.

I am going to write a bad google review for babys premier maywood nj NOW.

 awwww hope I am so sorry to hear that...I would be gong nuts especially after all that time prepping yourself for either news..and now you have to get yourself going again..there is nothing wrong with the 13th my little brother was born july 13th friday the 13th lol..and hes pretty good and very smart...so.....I am sure you will go in and see...hear..such wonderful news:D cant wait to hear!!!!!!!

I would have taken it way harder and be a lot more pissed if DH was but he was more upset with not knowing bc he was excited. And he took a pro active approach. Got on the phone and made an appointment and for ASAP. So we arent waiting around again or I change my mind to make it a surprise lol

I went on a long rant on the way to the restaurant tho. I think I scared DH a bit for a second girl. Or maybe he was quietly ignoring my comments lol

This pregnancy Ive been sick to the point my OB put me on zophran to keep me from constant dry heaving or throwing up in the middle of the night. Ive gotten no sleep... tossing and turning. Back pain. Headaches. Acne is starting...hair is growing everywhere so quickly and being it's summer it really sucks to have to shave my legs almost every day esp when Im used to like once every two weeks LOL Ive gained 16lbs and im only 16 weeks and I was a size 0/1 when I got pregnant so for me that is a lot all at once. So I went through the whole nothing fits this is horrible stage so quickly and people made comments about that ughh. And let's not forget the cravings this time around are nuts. I eat a salad and I throw it up. I eat a donut it stays down WTH LOL I am always tired. Non stop yawning. I just want sleep please. I thought the 2nd tri was supposed to let up WTH lol

So I went on a rant about how this has to be DD#2 sent here to already give me hell. Because my middle sister was the rebel in my fam. And my DH knows that. So I was like "She's going to sneak out at night and she's going to lie about where she is... I see it now. I FEEL IT she is sucking the good health out of me! Look up ankle location bracelets we are going to need one for her... do it DH ask suri right now where to buy one!!!" hahaha... looking back omg i was being so crazy lol He was quiet not one response and I changed the subject haha.

HopeFaith I have been following your posts and I'm so glad to hear that you seem to be coming to terms with your GD. I agree completely with what you said about how we get the gender we are meant to have, and we may never know why, but there is a reason for everything. I'm sorry things didn't work our with your scan.. I would be so frustrated!!

lillithrivan:

 there is nothing wrong with the 13th my little brother was born july 13th friday the 13th lol..and hes pretty good and very smart...so.....I am sure you will go in and see...hear..such wonderful news:D!

And I was going to say just about the same thing! My DH was born on Friday July 13th, so for us it is a great day! Don't be nervous at all lol. GL!!

 lol aww hope...I feel you bout the shavn thing cept I got lucky..usually i have to shave constantly....with this pregnancy hardly at all once twice a week top....but...ive got a bad rash..this pregnancy has been hell and i was sick all the way up to 20 weeks so bad i lost a lot of weight and was in er constnatly for ivs and ya..then get over that part at 2 weeks and then i developed a rash...which turned out to be a yeast infection rash...all over my body so i am miserable and now cant shave cuz will spread it and i feel disgusting...i was bad and i shaved today lol..it has been little more than a month since shaving so i had to lol....but i was smart and used like 5 diff razors lol so i wasnt spreading the infection..hope i didnt...but i couldnt help it being harry was makn me itch just as bad as the stupid rash i actaully feel much better now..still itchy but not near as bad lol.....just hope i didnt make it worse..but anyways...i feel you as i know if this is my third son....man o man...im in for a world of hell..hell i think if it my first girl im in for world of hell lol..this pregnancy has been hell and this baby has been torture lol and it never sleeps i swear..it sleeps one to two hours a day..the rest..its constantly moving....all day...all night..ive not slept for weeks...well this last week i slept sort of but not good enough...but for a while i literally laid there awake eyes open all day all night that last for two weeks..ugh im still tryn to catch up from that lol.....so i already know....i too will need ankle braclet or something lmao...this child will be my wild one...especially as my other two boys are very good calm and what not....and they never were this active or horrible to me other than they were always in my ribs...this one never in ribs and always way way way low....lol so im with you..these will be are problem babies lol.....ugh but got to love them lol...

Usa/CanadaHybridBabies:

HopeFaith I have been following your posts and I'm so glad to hear that you seem to be coming to terms with your GD. I agree completely with what you said about how we get the gender we are meant to have, and we may never know why, but there is a reason for everything. I'm sorry things didn't work our with your scan.. I would be so frustrated!!

lillithrivan:

 there is nothing wrong with the 13th my little brother was born july 13th friday the 13th lol..and hes pretty good and very smart...so.....I am sure you will go in and see...hear..such wonderful news:D!

And I was going to say just about the same thing! My DH was born on Friday July 13th, so for us it is a great day! Don't be nervous at all lol. GL!!

Maybe it will be good luck :) I just want to see my baby again. I love seeing and hearing the heart beat and DH gets the biggest smile on his face. And of course asks all the questions "is that a finger? is that brains? is that a leg" haha its fun!

 :( my dh hasnt been to any of my scans...we got a half assed one when went to er but the drs had a new machine and werent sure how to work it couldnt even get measurments...mostly cuz little brat wouldnt sit still but we didnt get to look long....that part why so nervous about this scan..he wont be there...and i want him there so bad...which is why im waiting to find out til hes with me..hoping that havn him open the letter and seein his reaction will help ease mine..if is a boy...i know he wants a girl as bad as me..but hes also not as upset if is a boy i dont think....altho he wont touch my belly like he used to..which is sad..he touched it all time til we heard mght be boy....:(....so i really need him to open it and be all smiles either way.....so i can be....i know if i open alone...or find out alone....ugh...i know it will all hit me like it did so i really hope that he smiles either way just for me...lol i need it

thats the problem when you start having alot of kids. someone has to stay home and babysit. don't worry lillithrivan, my dh didn't go to any of my apps. or scans with the last 3 i think. heck i was lucky to have him present at the delivery this time. who wants to take 5 little girls? the 3 older ones weren't bad or anything but i had preterm labor so i was in the hospital alone because nobody wanted a 2 year old baby godzilla in their home plus the baby is still in diapers and wakes up during the night still. nobody wants to deal with that. but we managed and we made due. luckly my sister came and got the kids but she was firm about only watching them for a few hours. thank goodness i delivered within 2 hours of her picking them up as soon as that baby came out dh ran out the door to gather kids.

 except no one is babysitting they are all coming with lol another big reason i cant find out then..i cant cry in front of them again....lol..and im terrified that he wont be there for delivery either..and no sitter either...:(.......so im still a nervous wreck bout that..im not sure how thats going to work if hes out of town working and i got all the kids....what do i do then lol..they are all 6 and under....ugh lol...and ya my last one i was lucky he made it in time for delivery altho i had to be induced so he had time to plan for that day off and my parents took the kids but said once baby comes he comes get them lol so...i didnt get much time with him and me and alex lol.....but he brought the kids and i was ready go home next day lol wasnt ready but i was...lol....this time tho we moved and no one is near us...werent expecting a baby yet....lol..and his fam was livn up here with us but the moved back to indiana so im alone..no friends cuz just no time to go out and make any lol and no family....ive already had to go to er and have all kids..its a hassle....so idk what im gna do when baby comes..im so scared for it...i pray to god my best friend doesnt get a job and can come up for two weeks like she said....altho i also pray she gets a job:(...lol....and im hopn i dont have to deliver alone thats my biggest fear..idc if kids are there but i dont want to be alone i dont like being alone im so used to not being alone that mentally i cant handle it anymore lol.....i cant even go to store alone without feeling wierd and nervous lol and i always rush it too lol..poor dh thinks hes helpn by lettn me go to store alone....lol

Oh no, sorry you didn't get to find out yesterday! What a rediculous company...so glad you have an appointment set somewhere else. Good luck with everything....I can imagine you must be feeling nervous and excited all at the same time right now. Looking forward to an update tomorrow, and, either way, a little blue or pink bundle is a huge blessing for you all-congrats!

 Oh, that's a horrible thing to do to a pregnant lady who has been preparing herself for big news!  I know that must have been very frustrating.  Even though you and dh are at a place where you feel great about boy or girl, I'm sure it was still very disappointing to expect to find out gender and have a nice experience and see the LO on ultrasound only to get to the place & find it closed.... ugh.  So unprofessional.  I would def. write that review!  

  

I"ll be thinking of you on Friday and anxiously awaiting your news.  Even though you're happy with either, finding out gender is still so exciting!  

It is exciting when you reach a place of boy/girl doesnt matter :) I didnt experience this with DD. I was convinced she was a he and even after the 16 week clear as day three lines I post on IG begging for anyone to tell me that wasnt a girl. So i told DH it's nice to not be so naive and stupid this time around (although im convincing myself it's a girl) I wonder if moms can stop themselves from doing that? lol.

I own a business and just had a possible future client & a customer come in and they each had all girls. Ranged from 10- to teens. So nice to see. Gave me goosey bumps watching them. They commented on how you cant even tell Im pregnant. I was waiting for the question "what are you having?" but atlas wasnt asked... I wonder if some women just know that's a crazy ridiculous stupid question to ask a stranger? because thats the second time in a week someone knew I was expecting and didnt ask and it was soooo nice! I dont ask anyone I know is pregnant stranger or not. I dont think it is a fair question to bring up incase someone has GD fears etc.

It was so frustrating when we got there and they were closed. No call either when they said they "have been trying to call us for days" such lies. But firday the 13th may bring us luck and we will return to the place where we found out DD was gonna be a little girl. Where we cried and argued infront of the tech :( and cried the whole way home. Yes DH cried. I just dont want that energy this time around from that space. Positive thoughts!

I have the boxes all set up! Two white boxes.... the onesies are folded so when we open it says "Little brother" or "Little sister" right on top. So cute.

Im looking at the little sister one and i love it becaues it matches DD's older sister shirt. The little brother one is all boy and blue lol. I find myself leaning pink and not minding at all. Everyone else in my life on my DH side better not mind at all either. Or I will give them a reality check. I let my husband know that before the canceled scan last night and he had nothing to say because he knows I am right. I wont have my daughters feel like they are second class to a boy.... never ever. And his family does that. Well mostly FIL... but he is the FIL from hell I avoid him at all costs and my DH doesnt mind that.

I almost dont want a boy because I wont allow my son to be close to FIL from hell. NO he wont be going for hair cuts or on manly trips with him like his sisters son. No no no. My children do those things with me. I dont pawn my kids off to a monster who clearly thinks boys are superior. FYI i just remembered--- FIL has never ever not even once held DD. NOT ONCE. she is 27 months old. His excuse at the hospital "i dont hold them that small" what is his excuse now? he has none. He just wants grandsons. IDC tho because like i said he is a toxic man who can stay away. and DH agrees.

I love your first post, I couldn't agree with you more. I'm so happy you're over your GD and can enjoy the rest of your pregnancy. I'm anxious to hear what happens tomorrow :)