Raising Real Men by Hal & Melanie Young
Well, I can't decide if I want to read this book or not, the premise sounds good, but I have to say they have completely turned me off with their tag line which says:
SURVIVING, teaching, and appreciating boys. That annoys me. I have to say that it annoyed me more and more as I read reviews of the book and it confirmed my first instinct when I saw that tag line, seems like there is some boy bashing in the book. Maybe I'm being overly sensitive but really, boys are so bad you have to 'survive' raising them??? :\ Or, you need a book to help you appreciate them? I don't know... something about all this makes me think that this book would make me irritated about boys always having this horrible reputation of being so very difficult. Now, here is a family with 6 boys, putting boys down in their own tag line.
On a positive note, I read a review by a mom of 2 girls and she pointed out that she could easily use the parenting strategies with her two daughters. Thank goodness someone gets it. Other moms, mostly 'boy moms' were following right in the authors' footsteps and just jumping right on in with the boy bashing.
Here's one review I saw that kind of distrubed me:
This book has a specific view-point which
I found quite helpful. They talk about the role of men as leaders,
heads of households, soldiers, physical laborers, and the like. (Yes,
girls can and do follow those roles as well, but we’re just focusing on
boys here.) They argue that boys have been given God-given traits to
help them in these roles, but in childhood and adolescence (and in
adulthood as well if they are not trained otherwise) those traits
manifest themselves as arrogant, reckless, noisy, destructive,
aggressive, defiant, violent, unbounded energy. It takes training and
effort (on both the parents’ and the child’s parts) to turn those into
the leadership skills, courage, and strength (both physical and
otherwise) that the man will need to fulfill his various
responsibilities in life.
For one thing, why does this reviewer feel the need to put in parentheses how it is so okay for a girl to do these things as well, but she doesn't feel the need to clarify that it is also perfectly okay if boys don't want to be that way!!! Hello??? not all boys want to be protectors soldiers or physical laborers! What if my son wants to be a make-up artist? Not okay, I guess.
I really don't like it when people use the Bible or Christianity in general to justify poor behavior, poor parenting, hatred, etc. Seems like that might be going on here...
Have any of you read this book? What did you think?