Do your kids know...

I also want to add that I'm in no way nor have never been disappointed in my children themselves. When I found out our 3rd and probably final baby was a boy I had GD about not having the girl I thought I wanted. All of that faded though as soon as my little DS3 was in my arms

Newbaby you are sooo right every commercial, book, sitcom, tv show, cartoon all have pp or if there is 2 or more it is a mixed gender family.  It drives me crazy.  I can remember one show from long ago....Home Improvement with Tim Allen, they had 3 boys.  Other then that it is the famous pp.  Even on things you buy in the store like a small wading pool etc and the family that is portrayed there!  LOL  It is amazing what you look at once something in your life is the same or not!  As for the OP  I don't know if I would ever tell my ds2 about my gd.  I often think would I even have this gd if they did not tell me girl for a few weeks, just to find out boy.  Maybe if I never had the chance to buy girl clothes or experience the feeling for a few weeks to have it ripped away I would have felt different.  There will always be the elective u/s cd that shows it is a girl LOL!

Let us not forget Full House, they had all girls.  I NEVER wanted a PP, but got a DD first, then a DS.  I was crushed he was a boy.  Now, I am totally over it, and with DD#2 here, we are honestly not caring what the rest will be.  We would like another DS, Liam would have a brother, but we are not stressing over it. 

Good call onepairplusone, forgot about full house!!!  Oldies but goodies!

I am careful in my wording, but my two oldest are nearly 11 and 14 and are pretty mature. We have a good sense of humor in our house and a very open line of communication so yes, my girls know that although we would have loved to have had a boy, BUT we are more than thrilled to have ended up having all girls and what a treat it has been to raise them and see them have each other as sisters. They are very close and don't seem to display even subtle hints that they think this means we are disappointed in them in any way. Also, we are a Christian household that truly believes in fate and that God gives us what is planned and meant for us and they get that too. I think our joking with our kids about societal pressure to things like having a pigoen pair helps them understand the world. Kids aren't oblivious to the comments right in front of them from strangers such as, "Oh, you must be trying for a boy (when we were pregnant with out third daughter)" or the like. It helps broach other topics like peer pressure even and other's expectations projected upon us and talk more about them.

My mum had GD with me and my 3 sisters and would always make comments to us.....If each one of us were a boy our name would be Adam.... "I never liked buying clothes for you girls so I would buy boy ones" she also buys boys clothes for my daughters. She would joke with her sister in-law about swapping their last child (she had 4 boys) and it did affect me deeply. I might add she never once reassured us that we were loved and wanted above a boy and still tells me she only ever wanted boys and was trying for one each time I was however, a sensitive child and did take things to heart, but how can you not with that, kwim? It now also affects her relationship with her grandchildren, i can clearly see she favours her grandsons over my girls and I wonder if I would have seen it so much if I didn't know about her GD. I realize this is not what you are talking about doing as you would never make your child feel like they were not wanted but because of my experience my children will never know I longed for a boy, I don't want to risk them feeling unwanted even if it's not one bit true.

I do like the idea of bringing it up if any of my children ever feel like they are alone in their GD if that occurs for them. That's the only time I would tell my children or let them see it.

I wouldn't tell me girls ever.. I've made t clear to my family they are never to joke about it in front of them. My dd1 would never understand she's much too sensitive and would feel as though it was her fault. Dd2, who I had the worst GD with and is my cure for my GD, she's too young to understand but I'd never let them know. If they struggled with it as adults I would find a comforting way to reassure them in a way I wasn't reassured by my own family but I'd still not let them know. That's why I don't take them on ultrasounds so they dot see tears or read my face which dd1 is very good at doing. My grandmother had 3 boys then 1 girl, my mom and ALWAYS made it very clear she wanted two of each. And ironically treated my mother the worst. You'd think my 3rd uncle would have gotten the GD but my mom somehow always got the blame.. Her dad spoiled her as did my oldest uncle and my grandma hated it. She's even said "that's why I have your mom an ugly name cause I was tired of listening to your grandpa and uncle gush about her". It really effected my mom. Yes my grandma is rather harsh but still I think kids always wonder if they were a disapointment. I remember finding out I was a surprise and immediately thought I wasn't as loved or as wanted.

ColdWater:

Mine have no idea, and I plan to keep it that way. The only way I could MAYBE see it coming up is if they had similar issues as adults.

I agree with this..This is the ONLY reason I would ever talk to my kids about it..As I would want to help them as much as possible..But if they have no issues themselves they will never find out...

I think I feel like this as I actually think it was a rather extreme response to my first baby..A bit of a guilt complex maybe...

My older DDs know. I told them because I didn't want some one else to tell them. I also told them how much I love them and couldn't imagine them being boys. I also went on to say it has always been a dream of mine to have a boy, so sometimes dreams don't come true and we are sad abut it, but we move on with life and except what we are blessed with. They wanted a little brother so badly this time but it's DD4.