My husband & I are due in december (my bday actually) and we are hoping for a little boy since we have a DD.
I have to say the first time around although Id never ever let my daughter know this but we suffered severe GD.
In fact it tore us apart (we seperated for a few months) after we found out. We have grown & healed from all the events and my husband without hesitation without blinking and swearing on our DD says he does not care this time around what the gender of this baby is as long as the baby is healthy. He just wants a sibbling for our DD so she is not alone etc.
We tried for a while to get pg this time around it was over 6 months. We want this baby. It was 100% planned and loved from before it was even concieved. When I found out I was pg I told my husband we will have a surprise this time so we do not slip into the old fight if it is a girl.
Our family is so annoyed we arent finding out. They make comments about if its a boy and how they hope its a boy etc... I cant help but feel this pressure.
My husband is the only boy in his family to carry on his family name so hence why a boy is important to them.
I have to admit apart of me was looking at big sister/little sister outfits and since i have sisters I just fell in love with everything on the screen. I told my sister yesterday I think Im brainwashing myself to want a girl.
So my issue is this... I am struggling with wanting to know. We have a 16 week 3D gender scan in a week and we already told the place that they are to turn off all screens (that we can see) and write down the gender of the baby in a sealed envelope so if we choose to find out it can be on our terms and where we want etc. Apart of me wants to plan and shop and get more excited. I am a nesting mommy to be. With DD I shopped and shopped... I had two large tupperware bins of clothes for the future size 12M and 24M.... She is 2 now and I have just started her 3T bin. So it's kinda going against my nature of "planning ahead" and having everything by not finding out.
What am I supposed to do? I am so afraid to know but yet I want to know!