Please tell me the world has not gone crazy!! This is ridiculous

All I have to say is wow..

I worked with someone that's due in August with her first. She was actually mad because her younger sister who is 2 weeks further along than her decided to tell the family she was pregnant with her 3rd about 2-3 days later.

The girl I worked with felt like her sister had "stolen her thunder" and had done it on purpose or was faking.. (timing of telling family, not getting pregnant obviously haha) Even after I tried pointing out that her sister had suffered through a m/c a while before this and that she should be happy her sister was pregnant again and they could at least compare notes on their pregnancies, she still seemed to harbour this anger towards her sister..

 I've just never understood that, or the name thing. .. I get it if she was your sister and the two of you were super close and you wanted to use the same first name as one of her children and didn't even bother asking if it would bug her.. but it's a middle name.. She should feel honoured by what you're doing.

How does she even function in society? Does she ask strangers on the street to change if they're wearing the same outfit or have the same hairstyle as her?

I think you sent back a very mature response..I think I would have blown up and sent back something quite nasty..Or told her I'd changed my mind and that I was now going to name my daughter the exact same name as she has for her daughter.

 That's partially why we kept the name for our son a secret. But mainly because it was very unique and we knew a lot of people wouldn't "like it". We figured if we waited till he was born, then people wouldn't be trying to convince us to change the name, and a lot of them grew to like it haha.

 Hopefully she leaves you alone. And on the plus side, just look at her as adding some entertainment and a good laugh to your life with how ridiculous she's being.

Wow it sounds like your co-worker and my SIL should start a club, heaven forbid someone is pregnant at the same time as her...pooor thing...she needs to GROW UP! I would love to be pregnant at the same time as my sister especially with due dates close, what an awesome thing to bond over, and how fun to have cousins the exact same age! Only an extreemly self centered selfish person would see that as anything but awesome!

As for my sister in law, I find it amazing that is able to function with everything that upsets her ..lol she will be going gray early if she keeps it up lol. Most of my husbands family feels the same way about her as I do, its just the unspoken rule that we try not to upset her just to keep the peace...my MIL never says anything to them because whenever she sides with my husband (which she normally does because he is the only one of them that doesn't have his head up his ass) They pull the you just are siding with Dan because we all know that Chris (my husbands brother) is the black sheep in the family and Dan has always been favored. LOL nope she just agrees with him because he is normally the one that is right. 

 

Oh and it took a lot of restraint to not give her a peice of my mind, but I knew that would only escalate it further. but boy it would have been fun to really let her have it!

I think she is going to drop it because I think I made it very clear that no matter how much they whine and cry about it nothing is going to change my mind!

You know I hadn't thought about this that way...but you have a good point...this has given us some entertainment over the past 2 days, while I was really mad at first my husband and I have been laughing and making jokes about it ever since the initial shock of it wore off. and while we were 100% sure on the name when we announced it ..this whole thing has made us want to use it even more lol...thanks for your response blondeshorty, I love to hear that other people are in agreement that this is absolutely ridiculous! 

SERIOUSLY what is it w in laws... I have 5 boys and pg w my first dd and her name is Elizabeth rose always was my name for a girl always...well u know my mother in law was like a name so long???? I was like wtf she can use liz Lizzie Beth Betty Btsy Eli seriously everyone else In the world thought it was a beautiful name not her....oh an my fil wanted me to change the middle name to Marie cuz they had an an anester in 1802 w that name...I flat out said NO and he forbid me to use Lizzie of course it's my fav nick name for her ....lol...I seriously think despite what anyone thinks these r our children we should name them what we choose!!! I don't remember any one telling my inlaws what to name or not name her kids...def glad your sticking to your guns too;)

 Um, well hate to tell your sister in law this but she also has the same name as someone else's daughter probably does. Point being she has no right telling you they rather you not use that name. It is your child not hers. She really should feel honored that you want to name your daughter the same name as their daughter's middle name.

butterfly62:

 Um, well hate to tell your sister in law this but she also has the same name as someone else's daughter probably does. Point being she has no right telling you they rather you not use that name. It is your child not hers. She really should feel honored that you want to name your daughter the same name as their daughter's middle name.

 

I know ...its mindblowing how insane this whole drama has been. And I made the same point to her, I would be so flattered if one of my siblings used one of my kids middle names. This happens all the time and no one ever makes a fuss about it. Thanks for the support!

 

This is why I don't share my baby names. Can't go back in time but if u would have named the baby that (grace) the discussion would be over. Honestly name ur child what u want. Ur sil is nuts

That's just ridiculous. Any reasonable person wouldn't care AT ALL! In my family, I have a younger cousin. As it happens, my mom's name is Bernadette and my name is Megan. My aunt (my mom's sister) named her daughter (born after me, mind you) Berandette Megan (first and then middle). NO ONE CARED! Apparently everyone was just happy she picked names she liked. Your SIL needs to get a life!

 I had to weigh in on this, its just too ridiculous!!! If my SIL was like that it would only make me m ore determined to use the name!

She is YOUR daughter, what she is named is nobodys business except you and your husbands. Nobody else gets a say in it. She's your daughter girlfriend, name her WHATEVER you want!!!!

 Wow, grace is a big name in my family also and its my middle name and my cousin used it for her childs first name, no big deal. I just dont understand though if you are unsure if your child will like their name in the future why would you name them that?? I dont understand the point to her arguement. My hubby also said the same thing if they loved emerson so much but didnt know if their daughter would like it why wouldnt you call her grace emerson. Oh and the grace calls, doubt she uses those nicknames, the fact that she points out that they were conviently used recently by someone means she is trying to steer you away. Very controlling person. 

Name your bg whatever you want to, I think that is a very pretty name. We are now 15 weeks pregnant with our second baby and not telling anyone names until baby arrives as both my SIL have taken the name we were going to use on our baby if it's a girl. Stand your ground. One of my SIL said I couldn't use her boys middle name as our sons middle name but we went ahead and did it anyway. Good luck