I see it this way. Let's say there was a forum for people disappointed that they lost the ability to walk. Perhaps there will be people on that forum who are able to walk again. They can stay and say, I know what it feels like to think you will never walk again, let me help you with your pain. For people who think they will never walk again, and those who absolutely know they will never walk again, it is hard to feel like they can relate to that person who has gotten their "dream". It is false hope to believe that everyone will be successful.
And here is where I see the solution...
In my months posting in this forum I can honestly say that the only people who can really help me get over my GD are people who have gotten over their GD without getting their DG. It shows me that YES," you can be happy never getting your DG". It is a much healthier message than, "don't give up on your dream it can happen!" Because that only increases the pain and obsession. Healing comes with accepting where you are. I think getting your DG before healing from you GD can cause a lot of mixed emotions.
Thank you to Canadianttc#4 and others who show us struggling that everything can be okay with what you have. (I'm am not telling anyone that they are not welcome, just sharing my opinion. We can be happy for you that you got your DG)