Hmmm I think when you're in the pregnancy/baby zone you focus on it way more...if you allowed yourself a couple of years, no matter how hard they are, you may find at the end of it you not really as bothered as you think you are.
This baby was kind of an accident, well we werent not trying but before I was pregnant with him it didn't bother me hugely that I would jus have my 2 boys...it was only once I got pregnant that I became obsessed and I know I'll get back to feeling that way.
I think at some point you have to move on with your life or accept that you whole life is going to be focused on one thing. Have to say, I don't want to spend my whole life on having babies, there ae so many other things out there that can bring happiness so there is absolutely no way we will have another baby, even if it was a guarenteed girl as I just want to move on and give the 3 I have the best I can. But everyone's different and if you feel happy to devote so much of your life to it then that's what you have to do I suppose.
I don't think it's a decision you can really make when you're pregnant or with a newborn though as all around you, you are confronted with reminders of the daughter you don't have from other babies to clothes shops etc...I think the starts to wear off as the children get older.
I've realised recently that one thing I really like about being just a boy mum is that I makes me more girly...I had painted my toe nails the other day and my friend that just has girls commented how she wouldn't think to use the colours I had and how nice that looked etc and we came to the conclusion that it's probably because anything ultra girly makes her think of her daughters rather than being suitable for her. I like finding positives like that.
I know it's not the same but when you see somebody dedicating their life to having just one biological baby, sometimes you see that weight taken off their shoulders when they finally make the decision to stop trying and maybe try the adoption route etc.
Good luck with what you decide x
Proud mummy of 2 wonderful boys and now a 3rd one one the way