Stressed out, tearful :(

Ok so first off i know i am extremely lucky in my life. I have one son who is the oldest and then three daughters. I was dissapointed massively that my last baby was a girl, i was suffering from GD and then my mum died at 59- bang! i had no more gender worries, just wanted the baby to be ok. She is a wonderful thing, she is fair with blue eyes (her siblings are all dark eyed dark hair , still gorgeous tho!! i know i am biased), she is soft and gentle and wonderful with me, she is not a daddys girl like the others. So now i am 40 and am 6 weeks pregnant with number 5. It was not planned but we werent using any contraception. My husband and i are both over the moon. I dont feel like i am too bothered about the babies gender this time but i am worried i am kidding myself. I am deeply worried that when they tell me its another girl i will be upset(even tho i am truly blessed with my girls). I am also worried about my age and if something may be wrong. I am also worried about what every one else will say, too many kids, leech on resources of the planet blah blah blah. Am very hormonal and teary and i just want a hug and my mum. Thanks for listening xxxx

Congratulations on your pregnancy! Here is a big hug for you and I hope you get your little boy!

Just miscarried at seven weeks! should have been greatful instead of stressing over stupid stuff!

I am sorry! I wish you comfort and peace!

Do not be stressed out be happy.  You have four children already and there is nothing wrong with five.  Be happy that you have another one on the way.  If you looked at my background you would and could see that my road has not been smooth.  I had DS2 on Halloween and then my Mother died a little over a month later.  I know the pain and understand the pain.  I also conceived unexpectedly when DS2 was under four months and am 40 and am not quite sure how I am going to handle two kids who are about a year apart.  I am also hormonal, trying to be a good Mom to my sons and a good wife to my DH.  There are nights when I fall into bed dead tired all I can think is I wish my Mom were still here to laugh at me and to hug me. 

Do not ever worry about what others think or say.  The only thing important is what you and your DH think.

Big hugs and be happy.  You are very lucky. 

 

 

I am so sorry you lost your baby and your mum I know how you feel I lost my mum a week before my sons 3rd birthday 2 years ago. I miss her terribly she doted on her only grandson. I got pregnant and am due on the 28th March I had a feeling it was twins and was worrying like mad that I wouldn't be able to cope dad has never been interested in helping and my dp works away a lot I really wanted a girl this time but I said to a friend when I was around 6 wks pregnant that I didn't think I could cope with twins if it was twins (didnt know at this point) I said I would rather have another boy than twins I didn't mean it I was scared and hormonal of course I would have wanted both. To cut a long story short I found out at my 12 wk scan that it was twins but one had passed away at 6 wks :( I convinced myself that I jinxed this pregnancy by making that passing comment now as time gets closer i just want baby to be alright I am really sorry I lost one.