After having 3 boys who has went on to have a girl????

sparkle123 .. really wish I'd have seen that site looks really good. My only regret with this pregnancy is that I feel my sway could have been much better. I did lots of research but somehow what I did does not seem enough. This will be my last pregnancy and whilst there is no question that I love my children more than anything in the world, and I know that I will love my new baby just as much I am hoping my GD will ease one day. It's just an unexplainable feeling, I don't really know why I feel it, 3 healthy children, all so loving and happy, it makes me feel so guilty that I feel such a strong need for a girl .... in some ways I feel it is such a selfish feeling that maybe I do not deserve to fulfil this need. I also think the more children you have of the same gender (in my personal opinion) then the worse it gets as you are feeding the problem and other people, friends, family, strangers make you feel as though your family is in some way inadequate and remind you of what you do not have. On a daily basis friends, family, mums at school say I must be hoping for a girl this time and how do I cope with so many boys?! Before I was pregnant with baby number 4 people asked me on a daily basis when I was having another! I must want a girl! Like it is a choice I can make!! Friends and family that have boy and girl say all the time they are so happy they can stop at 2 as they have the perfect family! If that is not the perfect wind up or insult to someone with 3 boys then I am not sure what is!! I think the worst thing about my GD is how it affects my relationship with the outside world and I am so sensitive to comments made by others. If it were considered more 'normal' to have 3 or 4 boys or girls than perhaps GD would be very short lived for all of us! I never grew up with a strong desire for girl and in fact when I had my first son I was over the moon to have boy and then with son no 2 again I felt so happy for my first son to have a brother (I did feel a little disappointed not to have a girl but can honestly say I do not feel I had GD at this point). It has no reflection on how loved and close I am to my son no3 but my GD definitely did start here ... it began at my 20 week scan and it was a long hard road trying to overcome those horrid feelings that surround GD. I am hoping that in not finding out so early in this pregnancy that I can spend more time preparing myself for boy number 4 and know that when baby is here I will be so happy to have completed my family (with hopefully another healthy baby). I don't think GD can ever be fully healed until you fullfil your desire for the gender you desire .... but I do believe time is a great healer and I know there will come a time when all my children are growing up & becoming more independent and my childbearing time is over that it wont feel as hard to deal with. GL to everyone .. having the gender you desire but most importantly overcoming or learning to accept GD so that you can move on with your lives. It is such a terrible feeling that should never be underestimated. ....

Sunnyday4 I agree with you 100%... well written GL

Thanks Koral. GL to you. I think your nub pic looks more promising than mine ... I've kinda resigned myself to boy number 4 since my sway could have been better, all Chinese calendars & online predictions (including biorythms, fact i'm carrying low) indicate boy & my 12 weeks nub shot was looking a bit boyish. ah well... I guess I wont know for sure until Nov xx

sunnyday4 could you add a link with you nub pic? on mine I had a few boy guesses as well... xx

It's in my post "Is this def a boy nub? Anyone have technical knowledge? pic taken at 12 weeks 5 days" Think I had more boy guesses on Genderdreaming website. Just seems to look quite high and angled? This along with all the other boy signs makes me think my chances of pink are outnumbered .... xx

yes I found it and left you a note.. big hopes for a girl!! FingerX for both of us

looks like a girl :) Koral! Did you do some other tricks? Or just O+12?

Luisa, to be honest, after 2 failed cycles of IVF/PGD my clinic told me that my fertility is really low... I didn't believe it but for sure I was taking Agnus Castus prior to February ovulation, just to do something good for my body I wasn't on a girly diet (tried with pg#3 and failed), only skipping my breakfast. Must say my day always starts with coffee and biscuit as there is not enough time.. I guess for the last 7years! So I don't think I can call it a sway... only a perfect timing of my ovulation and 1 lemon douche before BD. I gave to myself only 2 chances for concieving and was successful on a first atempt   (as always) ... I'm very lucky ... that time my mind was set to get pregnant... not too much thinking "it must be a girl". Maybe just maybe this time??   

Koral: Wow, three time pgd/ivf, that must been hard, that you didn´t get girl from it. I´m so sorry. I have try it one time, and it was the most awful day in my life when I did get my negative result from that. I don´t think I could handle that again. It was awful. How did you handle with that feeling? Did you get any transfer? How many embryo? Agnus Castus? What is that? I hope so much that you get your girl this time!!!!!

 We have three boys 13, 9 and 2. Im  33 and now expecting my 4th child and have been told its a girl.

I was trying to sway using the shettles method (just the cut off point) but ironically the month I fell pregnant I gave up because I decided for me personally having another baby was more important regardless of what gender it would be. I was shocked when I found out we are having a girl! 

I dont think I will truly believe it until she is in my arms so in a way I still have myself prepared for a little man just incase! 

My advice would be only try for another if you would be able to accept either gender, Im almost glad I conceived whilst not swaying as it would have made hearing boy (if it was) a lot easier to accept.  I also found a brilliant way of dealing with the idea of another boy by picking out a name I absolutely loved. In some ways I had prepared myself so much for a little man named Ryan I was even a little sad that I will never get to use the name as this is our last bub.

I hope it helps a little and that you do have your little girly one day xxx

 

Thanks t1ggerific! Congrats on your little girl! Have you felt much different this time around? Any of the old wives tales or theories ring true for you? xx

sunnyday4:

Thanks t1ggerific! Congrats on your little girl! Have you felt much different this time around? Any of the old wives tales or theories ring true for you? xx

 

I am carrying differently this time and have felt much more tired & grumpy! All the old wives tales have pointed towards boy, except the mumma/dadda one and the hairline theory. Only other things that indicated girl were the babyman predictor and gender maker test which I took with a pinch of salt.

I feel more impatient with this pregnancy & not enjoying it as much, just seems much harder this time. With my boys I loved being pregnant and they seemed much more of a breeze. I have known a few people to have harder pregnancys with girls so who knows maybe it does hold some truth.

 

t1ggerific:

sunnyday4:

Thanks t1ggerific! Congrats on your little girl! Have you felt much different this time around? Any of the old wives tales or theories ring true for you? xx

 

I am carrying differently this time and have felt much more tired & grumpy! All the old wives tales have pointed towards boy, except the mumma/dadda one and the hairline theory. Only other things that indicated girl were the babyman predictor and gender maker test which I took with a pinch of salt.

I feel more impatient with this pregnancy & not enjoying it as much, just seems much harder this time. With my boys I loved being pregnant and they seemed much more of a breeze. I have known a few people to have harder pregnancys with girls so who knows maybe it does hold some truth.

 

Thanks t1ggerific! I've not heard of the hairline theory? Or mumma/dadda? I have felt different this time, it feels very hard being pregnant, whereas like yourself I seemed to sail through my prev boy pregnancies (infact by body always felt better pregnant than not lol) I am tired and grumpy all the time (but have put this down to having 3 lively boys, lots more commitments & my body being older. Hopef it might mean girl for me too. The other difference is that I have felt more nauseous & had an upset stomach on and off between weeks 5 & 9 & felt cold & unwell for first 3 months, all of which I have never experienced before, also I had a bfp much earlier & my boobs have been very uncomfortable. Was the Ramzi theory right for you? x

 Hairline theory - If your first born has a point to the back of their hairline then you will have the opposite gender next time and if its straight then you will have the same. With my youngest son he has a point at the back and low and behold Im having a girl (hopefully lol) This link might explain better  http://www.whattoexpect.com/blogs/mylittlemonkeys/baby-gender-prediction-ive-found-the-secret

Mumma/Dadda theory - If you first born says mamma first then you will have a girl next and dadda a boy. All my boys apart from my youngest said dadda first, my youngest was the first to say mamma first :)

Lots of funny owt on this site  http://www.hisboyscanswim.com/658/list-of-51-pregnancy-old-wives-tales-your-babys-sex-revealed

A very interesting one was the skin under left eye one as I do actually have a v blood vessel!

I dont put much faith in the owt because like I say most pointed towards boy but it is fun to pass the time and when it does point to the desired gender it can give a little hope

Im not sure about the Ramzi theory with myself, I know my placenta is anterior but its sort of in the middle so I dont have a clue if it started left or right. I know on my scan pics my girl was lying on the left which means flipped she would actually be on the right, another reason why I convinced myself it was another boy! I also had a bfp very early on and have had sore boobs more so with this one than my boys.

Even the heartbeat is that of a boy! Only thing I did hold a lot of faith in was the nub guess on which I had nearly all girl guesses and it seems it can be quite accurate.

Hope the links help pass some time  x

Luisa:

Koral: Wow, three time pgd/ivf, that must been hard, that you didn´t get girl from it. I´m so sorry. I have try it one time, and it was the most awful day in my life when I did get my negative result from that. I don´t think I could handle that again. It was awful. How did you handle with that feeling? Did you get any transfer? How many embryo? Agnus Castus? What is that? I hope so much that you get your girl this time!!!!!

 

Luisa, I've got pregnant always on a first atempt, so I was very confident that PGD will work for me. Prior to the treatment my each ovary had about 5-7 folicles ... I was on a short protocol with Menopure and after 10 days stimul I had only 3 folicles all together. I couldn't believe it!.... no point to carry on.. I was desapointed. It was to difficult with planning, with 3 boys at home and not chance to take them on "holiday" during a school time, we were limited with dates. 2nd atempt was identical, also had 12 folicles before treatment, but for sure I was on long protocol with Femara and GonalF... after 9 days of stimul anly 2 folicles... I cried for long... couldn't comlete one whole treatment. Big set back :-( .. No one could explain to me why is this happening, I spent around £3000 on Medications for both cycles plus travel expenses and scans at HarleySt. I had 6 leftover Gonals so wanted to use it for the 3rd time, but got ill with Vertigo and for 6months I was unable to do anything. After when I got better the Gonal was expired so I lost my last chance and lots of money. I went for another scan to check my ovary and there was again 10 visible folicles... I was confident that the medications was messing with me, but my Cyprus clinic said it has nothing to do with medictions... sometimes it happens for no reason.. stress or sudden decrease of ovarian reserve, that next time we should use a donor egg.. I will never know. Last year I contacted different Cyprus clinic for IUI/Microsort, but they were suggesting IVF with Microsort just because of my age. I told them that I'm not happy to go for another stimul. I wanted only Micros/IUI. I was due for my scan but my Vertigo hit me again... this time short episode. I started to think if this was some sign for me to just give up on HT??? Coincidence ?? As I wanted to boost my chances for pregnancy (Micrsrt) I was taking herbal Agnus Castus capsules. Well I don't know if all of it plus my GD emocional pregnancy with #3 played with my mind... just decided to get pregnant naturaly in February and vuala ...

I'm not sure how badly I would react in your case... you know, to go through all treatment and get BFN ... after all I can't complain too much... lost my money, years of experiments and stress, got older .... but realised that it gave me my last pregnancy where I for the first time don't mind if it's another BOY... I will love him no matter what

I do apologize for my writing, hope my sentences give some meaning