Boy or Girl. Does it matter??

I truly understand how people can be upset by the sex but (and please dont jump down my throat) be thankful for a healthy baby. As a mum who lost a baby from a birth defect at birth it saddens me when people actually get upset and cry because their baby isnt the sex they wanted (my friend actually cried on my shoulder, and id lost my much wanted baby). I would do anything to have my son back and i truly mean that my heart broke when i lost him. Any baby is a blessing which am sure you all know so next time you feel slightly dissapointed please smile for the fact your baby is healthy.Your baby is a miracle but never take them for granted.. before you have chance to say hello you could be saying goodbye. Your baby is a blessing and whatever sex it is, its how you love and care for him her that will make them the person you will be so proud of when bigger. I can understand why some people are upset when they have all sons or daughters and would lvoe the oppersit sex but for me id just like a healthy baby. Hope i havent offended i havent set out to just wanted to say every baby is a special gift xxx

 I'm very sorry for the loss of your baby. :(  How awful for you.

 

I just wanted to point out that for ME, I wasn't upset about having another boy, I was upset about NOT having a girl. I was absolutely grateful for the son I was blessed with. I just longed for a daughter as well.   Being grateful for the blessing of a healthy child and being sad that it's not the opposite gender have nothing to do with each other. It's not as though I would take a sick baby girl over a healthy baby boy. It has nothing to do with that. 

Sorry to hear about your loss. Of course you would give anything to hold your baby in your arms again.
I hear you loud and clear but like pp said - you are not mourning the child you are carrying, but the loss of a dream of a desired gender. I think it's important to be allowed to say (especially on a forum like this!!!) that I had a dream of X and it did not come true. It honestly does not mean you do not love and appreciate the health of the child you do receive, at all.

My mum passed away four years ago. I do not know your personal situation, but if your mum is alive and I shared with you my story of losing my best friend, my soulmate, the person I long for the most, every single day. If I asked you to never have an argument with your mum again, because you should be holding her SO SO close - what would you say? I could turn around and ask you to appreciate your mum because she will one day be gone and you will regret every minute wasted arguing.

Life is not like that. People have dreams, people argue, people unfortunately die - it's as real as the miracle of birth. I completely understand your pain, I truly truly do. But please don't think people on this site come here not understanding how important health is. Health is everything. It's okay to dream though, and it is okay to cry if your dream does not come true.
There is so much stigma out there about gender - I am thankful there is a site like ingender where people can openly discuss their feelings. :)

Good luck to you x