I just wanted to say that I understand what you are feeling as I have had the same concerns in the past, but speaking from ''the other side of the fence'' now I can honestly say I have no idea why I felt the way I did. I still look back at the time I feel I ''wasted'' feeling like I did in regret - BUT I know there is nothing anyone can say at the time to make your feelings go away. You don't tell someone grieving to get over it, you tell them that time will help you feel better. That is true in this case also, as annoying as it may be to hear at the time.
Let me add that of course not all boys are mummy's boys and not all girls are loud and whiny. We know that, but it needs to be added cause there is SO much focus on what is between the legs on this site (which is understandable). You raise your children, you influence A LOT. My son speaks like me, walks like his daddy - know what I mean? They are miniature us in every way, irregardless of gender.
Having said the above, I was lucky and had my dream of a daughter come true. It's funny, because when pregnant with ds I prayed hard for a daughter - and ds truly and utterly won me over to the extent I did not want a girl the second time. Well, when I prayed for a ds2, I got my beautiful dd. Which is lovely, pigeon pair, blah blah - but it was NOT what I personally dreamed of. Not all pigeon pair mummies had that desire. :) I just wanted to say that she is NOT affectionate, she is clingy, loud, angry and extremely hard work. The second she was born and I had her dressed I forgot I'd once had the desire for a daughter - because she is the hardest newborn I've ever come across!!! And my ds was NOTHING like this, nothing. Needless to say all those pink outfits and frilly bows went out the window - I am just trying to get through the day without pulling my hair out. In MY experience, with friends and family, EVERYONE who has experienced both genders has found little girls to be much more demanding.
I've already said it's wrong to stereotype and I stand by it. But I think you needed to hear it's not all sunshine and roses with girls. I could give you a billion more reasons. Trust me, it's not. And one day you will TRULY be over this and regret not enjoying every single second. So while I know I'm asking the impossible - hug your beautiful children, who are only this young once.
Much love x