Starting to freak out!!!!

5 weeks to go and today I'm freaking out with the thought of 3 boys!!!! How am I going to manage? How am I going to be happy?? Are these all thoughts that you've had??? If this had being my girl I have this picture in my head of everything being just perfect from here on end! It's almost likes little panic attack I go into, I try to tell my self that this is gods plan for me but it's a real struggle! Any advice????

I understand how you feel. i have one DS and I get the same panic as you when I think that I could end up never having a daughter. I come from a family of all girls and can't understand the possibility of never having a daughter. I think a lot of wanting a DD is the stereotypes and images in our heads of what a DD is like. I had a playdate with a good friend yesterday and her DD who is the same age as my DS (17 months). Her DD was dressed in all pink, rhinestones and a huge bow...my dream outfit, but her personality was MUCH more demanding than my DS. She would cry and whine and was more difficult to manage. SO although she had the look I coveted it was NOT the personality I could handle!! I am saying this because you must look at your children as individuals, not just boys. 3 boys who will love their mom and who belong to you. My DH has a brother and they are both SOOOO close to their mom. The younger borhter calls to chat and plan when they will have lunch dates! They are just as close if not closer than my sisters are with my mom. To top it off you think of a mother/daughter relationship. I am much closer with my sisters than my mom, we tell each other things and keep my mom out of the loop! She is still our mother, not our best friend, even though we are close with her. Your boys will also get to experience that bond with each other and they are SO lucky! Best of luck :)

I am right there with ya sista, except I am on DS#4!  I will say that my 3rd little guy is AMAZING.  Him & I have this special bond and I just love that lil' guy to pieces.  So I can tell you that 3 boys is a lot of fun. 

 I am having a hard time trying to wrap my head around 4 though (YIKES).  I had the 3 down pat and was just happy & content.  Wanted to try again for a 4th, but wanted to try & do some sway factors but God had other plans & bam I was pregnant.  I wasn't too thrilled when I found out it was DS4, but got over it, but now that I am less then 2 weeks away from D day, I am in the slumps bad.  So sorry, I don't have any real advice but I hope your DS3 will melt your heart like mine does.  GL hun xx.

Thanks for your support ladies! Everything you've said helps, I just hate feeling this way and kinda feeling that ive won the boobie prize :-( and I feel my family n friends will think that also! Just don't understand why I can't have my little girl? I love my boys sooo much and I'm praying that when this little guy arrives I'll feel the same way for him although, I'm so scared that i will always feel somethings missing in my life! Really need to get the nursery all ready but just the thought makes my stomach and heart ache, I just cant get my head around having three boys at this point in time, I was so sure I would get my girl :-( sending you ladies big hugs also x

I just wanted to say that I understand what you are feeling as I have had the same concerns in the past, but speaking from ''the other side of the fence'' now I can honestly say I have no idea why I felt the way I did. I still look back at the time I feel I ''wasted'' feeling like I did in regret - BUT I know there is nothing anyone can say at the time to make your feelings go away. You don't tell someone grieving to get over it, you tell them that time will help you feel better. That is true in this case also, as annoying as it may be to hear at the time.

Let me add that of course not all boys are mummy's boys and not all girls are loud and whiny. We know that, but it needs to be added cause there is SO much focus on what is between the legs on this site (which is understandable). You raise your children, you influence A LOT. My son speaks like me, walks like his daddy - know what I mean? They are miniature us in every way, irregardless of gender.

Having said the above, I was lucky and had my dream of a daughter come true. It's funny, because when pregnant with ds I prayed hard for a daughter - and ds truly and utterly won me over to the extent I did not want a girl the second time. Well, when I prayed for a ds2, I got my beautiful dd. Which is lovely, pigeon pair, blah blah - but it was NOT what I personally dreamed of. Not all pigeon pair mummies had that desire. :) I just wanted to say that she is NOT affectionate, she is clingy, loud, angry and extremely hard work. The second she was born and I had her dressed I forgot I'd once had the desire for a daughter - because she is the hardest newborn I've ever come across!!! And my ds was NOTHING like this, nothing. Needless to say all those pink outfits and frilly bows went out the window - I am just trying to get through the day without pulling my hair out. In MY experience, with friends and family, EVERYONE who has experienced both genders has found little girls to be much more demanding.

I've already said it's wrong to stereotype and I stand by it. But I think you needed to hear it's not all sunshine and roses with girls. I could give you a billion more reasons. Trust me, it's not. And one day you will TRULY be over this and regret not enjoying every single second. So while I know I'm asking the impossible - hug your beautiful children, who are only this young once.

Much love x

 Going from two boys to three boys was easier for me than going from one to two.  My first two were old enough to play well together by the time #3 arrived, so I had enough time to focus on the baby.  Now, #3 is old enough that he's tagging along with his brothers and they're truly inseperable.  Also, every baby/child is different so it'll be a great experience getting to know your new little one!