it gets better. if you want then yes do the ivf but remember the ht forum is full of ladies who had no trouble getting pregnant at all but just can't get that desired gender. plus you need to decide how many rounds you are willing to do, then you have to decide what to do with any healthy boy embryos you may get. i had good days and bad days myself but once the older girls started school it helped alot so i could bond with the little ones. really once i stopped obsessing and took a step back it really help me. easier said then done i know, but it does get better.